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Podcast #92 — What About the Other Family Members?

Our Podcast: Coming Up For Air

Hosts Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss the impact that substance use and other health challenges can have on the entire family, particularly when all the attention and energy is focused on one individual. This important and often difficult conversation helps to alleviate the guilt that parents and other care providers feel about such disparities, and shows us how to be more sensitive to those family members who may appear to be doing just fine.

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