My Loved One’s Breaking Our Agreement About Use at Home. What Should I Do About It?
After time in a recovery house—and agreeing in writing not to use while living at home—Carolyn P.’s Loved One has moved in with her. Much has be…
Author: Laurie MacDougall
Rehab Was Great, but He Came Home and Stumbled. Now He’s Stopped Answering His Phone.
Residential rehab was a huge success for Highlander1’s grown son, but shortly after returning home the drinking started again. Now he’s taken off …
What Am I Supposed To Do With This Anxiety?
Allies member Allisonc77 has some reasons for optimism: her husband, who struggles with alcohol, has recently stopped drinking, and let his old drinki…
There’s A World of Options for Your Loved One
Jimw’s wife has contended with alcohol use disorder for many years and has engaged with numerous treatment programs along the way. She’s unemploye…
Our Loved Ones Need Us to Listen. Even (Or Especially) When Their Behavior Is at Its Worst.
When Sweets1997 and his family allowed their adult son access to their home while they were away, it was a simple act of love. They returned to a tras…
When Setting a Boundary Is the Message We Need to Send
Introduction CRAFT teaches us to be thoughtful, caring, and deliberate in the messages we send to our Loved Ones. But sometimes the message is best co…
If My Loved One Commits To Treatment, Should I Ease Up on CRAFT?
Disengaging from a Loved One isn’t anyone’s idea of a good time. But doing so when they’re using is a basic (and proven) part of CRAFT—as is t…
She Wants Me to Watch the Baby While She Gets High. Should I Refuse?
Hopewood03 worries about both her daughter and her infant grandson. Her daughter smokes marijuana and believes it’s part of her identity. Her grands…
Too Much Advice! How Did Everyone I Know Become An Expert in Substance Use Disorder?
Often, it’s given with the best intentions. Sometimes it comes with judgment or moralizing. Either way, unsolicited advice can drain our energy and …
My Daughter’s Struggle Isn’t Just With Substance Use
Shame and stigma are all-too-familiar aspects of many people’s struggle with substance use. Allies’ member Sferguson has watched her daughter conf…