Sep 13, 2021   Thank you very much for the reply and help for my specific questions, and thanks for all the amazing resources via Allies in Recovery. I’ll post a reply once I’ve read and considered more carefully, but all your resources are incredibly comforting. All my appreciation and gratitude everyone involved. Thank you.

ellecal, member

Aug 26, 2021   The resources on your site have been very helpful getting me through the past week, thank you.

ellecal, member

Aug 08, 2021    I cannot thank you enough for this sage advice and support. I understand that this sort of input can take time. We are working as best we can with our son and are remaining supportive as well as hopeful. Again, thank you so much. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

exhausted, member

Jul 20, 2021   Dominique, thank you for your response to my question back in April regarding my son and meth. I have read and reread the suggestions. This weekend, my son entered a dual diagnosis rehabilitation center. I would say it was about about 16 weeks of using CRAFT completely before he went in. Your modules have saved his life, thank you. The day he agreed to go, that morning I AGAIN reread the module on talking to him about treatment. The communication skills my husband and I have used for 16 weeks have changed this household since we now use reflective talk and affirmations. Laurie\’s meetings are also priceless… and life saving. The decision making steps we use gives us a sense of confidence and direction that we are doing the right thing. I was afraid that I would eventually have to ask my son to leave the home. But I really didn\’t understand that philosophy. How will I help him if I couldn\’t show him love and support? Your program that guided me on how to treat him and how to communicate with him really makes a difference. Thank you so much. Unfortunately, shortly after sending my original question, my son left the counselor that he was seeing. So I know the CRAFT steps are what really made a difference in his decision to go. I know we are in this for the long haul, and this is just the beginning, but him going to treatment is huge. Right after I read your blog response, it took about 4-5 days to solidify a list to have for him. When he was ready this weekend, I can not imagine what we would have done if we hadn\’t been ready with the list. Not only did we have the list but insurance was approved for each of the places so the process this weekend was pretty smooth. Thank you again for your guidance and support. Allies in Recovery truly is saving my family\’s life.

jl5549, member

Jul 2, 2021   Thank you. The Allies site has been a tremendous help to me and my husband. We are learning new ways to communicate with our son that are positive for everyone. Yes, it’s difficult but so worth it. Thank you again for being there. You’ve been a light in a 10+ year storm. 

buckeyebunny, member

Jun 30, 2021   Thanks very much! Allies has been very helpful to me over the past several years. The modules, exercises, and personal advice have helped me navigate a difficult situation and improved relationships with family members so much. I really appreciate the site and recommend it whenever I find someone else in a similar situation.

mizkitty, member

Jun 23, 2021   I’ve been listening to the podcast “Coming up for air” daily and they have helped me so much. Baby steps, but I actually had my first “normal” nonexplosive phone conversation with my son in over 2 years. I used CRAFT techniques. He actually gave me some information that his “appointments” were NA meetings. He’s going 4 times a week. He still only initiates any communication when he has a problem or needs money, but it’s a start. Thank you for being here!

buckeyebunny, member

Jun 15, 2021   I really appreciate this site and work of Allies in Recovery. I’ve only known the Alanon and Codependency approach before. I’m finding it so helpful to see addiction and recovery in a new way. It is so liberating. And I’m so grateful. Thank you for your work.

johnsharpimages, member

Jun 2, 2021   Hello, I haven’t written in quite a while. My husband just passed his 6 month 100% sobriety. Our life is changing and healing before our eyes. The concepts I learned on this site about natural consequences and how and when to talk with my husband has dramatically changed my life. I have peace and stability, before he ever changed. Then I was able to really help. I encourage you embrace and apply the learning here.

E320, member

May 25, 2021   Thank you for all you do.

willa, member

May 26, 2021   Laurie is a tremendous guiding light for both me and my husband as we continue on this journey with our son. I am learning boundaries and we are working on creating functional analysis’s for better understanding of behaviors their triggers and their respective outcomes both positive and negative . She is helping us navigate the CRAFT methodology We are eternally grateful for Laurie and for Allies In Recovery as we continue on  this journey.

Jeanne, member

May 25, 2021   Thank you for the email, Dominique! Allies in recovery is very helpful for me.

elenagor, member

May 25, 2021   Thanks for your wonderful member site! It’s been a tremendous help to me 🙂

makethesunshine, member

May 19, 2021   Thank you for all your kind words and support, I didn’t realize how badly I needed to hear it. I’m so glad I found this site in 2019 when I did.

ccomtl2014, member

May 19, 2021   I enjoy reading these posts

Winni, member

May 19, 2021   This was such a helpful email! Thanks!

Pioneergirl17, member

May 19, 2021   Thank you for all of the valuable information. Truly appreciated

3Cats4488, member

May 18, 2021   Thank you!! I was telling my husband yesterday that there are still people in the world that care. Thank you for your time.

monica, member

May 12, 2021   The modules, podcast, and blogs have been very helpful, and I will keep growing and learning. Thank you for the support.

debbiebutcher, member

May 12, 2021   Please keep sending me your emails, there’s always something new to learn [on] how to navigate through our difficult circumstances. Thank you for your time spent on every advice given through email and through allies in recovery website.

Sami21, member

May 12, 2021   Thank you — I appreciate your words of wisdom. Please keep sending me emails.

BRAY.Lee B., member

May 12, 2021   Thank you for all you do!

1Sugarbear, member

May 10, 2021   Thanks for this program it has been a great support to me over the years.

jl5549, member

May 12, 2021   We find the regular updates extremely helpful. Thank you so much for the support you provide, even to us ‘over the pond’!

Jones, member

May 10, 2021    Thank you for this support.

flowergirl, member

May 10, 2021   Thanks for this program it has been a great support to me over the years.

jl5549, member

May 7, 2021   I can’t thank you enough for your website and helping me set these boundaries! I realize addiction is a roller coaster ride, but thank you for being on this ride with me! I know there will be setbacks, but I am so proud of him for taking these first steps in his recovery! Thank you again and God Bless All of You for allowing free access to your website!

Layla, member

May 7, 2021   Thank you so much for all of these suggestions and steps in setting up boundaries! I have been sticking to my boundaries with my 40 year old son and I am pleased to report he has taken the first steps to recovery! He has been 9 days sober and a completely different son and father to his two children, aged 10 and 11!

Layla, member

May 4, 2021   I appreciate so much your responses and all of the breakdown with recommendations you have made. It has been so helpful and so reassuring to just have someone to talk to and understand. 

lbell, member

May 4, 2021    I’ll stay in touch and keep you updated. Again, thank you. I’m so appreciative of all the help and kindness that’s offered here. It means a lot.

LauraW, member

May 3, 2021   I am a member of Allies in Recovery and have greatly benefitted personally from my involvement in AIR and in Kayla Solomon’s support group.

sun8383, member

Apr 26, 2021   Thank you again for this excellent resource. . . . . I’m listening for wishes and dips, and they’re getting easier to recognize.

LauraW, member

Apr 23, 2021   Thank you so much for this response. I wish I had found this place earlier.

Jamp, member

Apr 17, 2021   I love going to the Allies site – it fills me up. A visit to the site always reminds me of the good side of humanity and our capacity to help each other through times of struggle. Whenever I need it, Allies is there, offering warmth, insight, and practical information I can use in my own life. The stories shared remind me I am not alone, and I always learn something helpful. Love you guys. Keep up the good work.

Giffy, member

Apr 16, 2021    I am so grateful for this site …lessons [from Module]  7 were great….and Podcast 74 was so helpful.

justbreathe, member

Apr 16, 2021   Thank you thank you thank you….I can’t say it enough.

justbreathe, member

Apr 6, 2021   I feel your understanding and compassion in this post and all the others I read here on Allies. . . . Thank you for replying to my post. Your whole team works incredibly hard and it makes Allies In Recovery a real force for good in families with SUD.

gptraveler, member

Apr 1, 2021   I am feeling so blessed to have hooked up with you and this site.  Allies in Recovery is a God-send to me and I can’t thank you enough.  We do not have anyone in my Province (Saskatchewan) who practices the CRAFT method.  I phoned many counselors and most had not even heard of it.  We do have an addictions counsellor for our school system in the province that uses components of it so I am happy to have found him.  Anyway, I want to thank you for your prompt and meaningful response.  I am so appreciative of everything that your organization does for people and the humility you show.  I have also started listening to the Podcasts which I find amazing.

Terrilyn, member

Mar 30, 2021   Thank you for your assistance. Your CRAFT modules provide guidance and support, thank you.

jl5549, member

Mar 23, 2021   “Thank you so much for addressing my concerns in this article. Your answer definitely gave me some much needed clarity. My husband and I have made a conscious effort to use more positive communication with our daughter in the past several months. I truly believe that this has contributed to her compliance & co-operative attitude toward drug court.”

LauraW, member

Mar 23, 2021   Hi there – I really appreciate the online course.  It is amazing.  I am current on “Whats going on with your loved one”.  Thank you!

Wakingdance, member

Mar 12, 2021   Thanks for all this food for thought. I find new gems with every visit. 

gptraveler, member

Mar 7, 2021   Hello. First I would like to say thank you for this wonderful resource. Your site has been a great help and comfort to me already.

LauraW, member

Dec 18, 2020   The Allies in Recovery website has been very helpful to me on my own journey with my son and I have recommended your website to many friends and acquaintances. I am a big fan.

nannygoat715, member

Dec 15, 2020   I find the AiR site invaluable. It’s easy to understand and to make a part of one’s life. It helps to support the LO while focusing on the needs of their family (which is usually overlooked in other methodologies). I am truly grateful to have stumbled upon AiR and CRAFT. Thank you so much.

Paulette33, member

Dec 15, 2020   I love the site and am so very grateful for it. Thank you!

Lehni1, member

Dec 13, 2020   [T]he facility and the people have helped me work through quite a bit of my issues and I shall always be grateful for that. I say don’t change a thing, what you all have going there is a great thing.

yamantaka, member

Dec 13, 2020   It is hard to measure how much the program affected my loved one, but I know for me it helped me feel less terrified and gave me some hope.

fissured, member

Dec 13, 2021 I liked the advice about talking to your loved ones in a less confrontational manner.

sandra.bravo, member

Dec 13, 2020   I really enjoy reading the stories of how other parents deal with addiction in their families. It gives me hope that things can and will be better.

Aaronsmom, member

Dec 13, 2020 I am using the site a lot ….. I’ve really enjoyed Kayla’s group. I was learning a lot from Laurie’s group and then my schedule changed ….. I may join the Tuesday group. I’d love a Friday group. I like that the lessons are short and easy to return to! I’ve used all sections of the site and may do more journaling. Thank you for being here!

thePheasant, member

Dec 12, 2020   I so appreciate the tools I’ve learned to help navigate through this difficult journey of addiction with my loved one. I had been looking for this type of training/support for a very long time and am so grateful to have discovered Allies In Recovery earlier this summer. I have more confidence in knowing what my role is in all of this, than at any other time during this long and painful journey. I can’t thank the team at Allies enough for all the ways they come alongside to support family members of those struggling with SUD.  

Hopeandhealing, member

Dec 11, 2020   I . . . really enjoy your podcast, it helps me when I’m feeling hopeless and at a loss of what to do next.

Moverly165, member

Dec 11, 2020   Hi, I have been a “lurker”, having visited Allies in Recovery (AIR) a great deal at the beginning when I found out the full extent my adult son’s drug use. As my son did not live at home, I felt at a loss to how I could influence anything. In my despair, I searched and found the AIR site. Voracious reading of the articles and elearning on AIR helped me realize that I could indeed move the needle in the direction of healing. I studied, and applied the advice I was learning step by step, and as consistently as I could. I started to gently bring the subject of inpatient rehab treatment. Speed up to today: after much love, prayers, talks, ups and many downs, my son has checked himself into an inpatient center. He is halfway through the 3 month program. He is learning so much and looking like his true self again. The program will continue for another 2 years after he “graduates” back into society. I and his brothers can and do meet with other program resident loved ones for the same amount of time. I know that there are always risks, but my son’s motivation is his own. As well, this situation is vastly better than the alternatives. All of this to say that AIR helped me take the first steps in learning what to do. That we loved ones can influence our addicted family members. THANK YOU AIR!!!    – Laura xo    

Laura3, member

Dec 10, 2020   My son is now 18 months sober and active in treatment!! It was helpful to have a script or suggestions as to what to say when situations became difficult.

luckyrose, member

Dec 10, 2020   Your site was tremendously helpful for me during my son’s using and recovery, over 3 years ago now. It guided me through a profound change in how I saw my son, myself and all persons who suffer, not just addicts. It taught me in a step by step way to meet suffering with compassion and an open heart. I continue to use what I learned on AIR in so many situations and have passed on the techniques to others often giving you the credit you deserve. I hope that the changes I was able to make with your help on this site had an influence on my son’s choice to stop using.  I’m guessing you would like to see that link established as well. But I was only his Ally and can’t speak for what finally got him to long term Recovery. The most positive thing was that your site gave me hope when I feared there was none. Thank you for changing my life. 

momdog, member

Dec 9, 2020   Your site is excellent.

Lynne72, member

Dec 9, 2020   I like allies in recovery because, although I never gave up hope that my son would find his way into recovery, it gave me ideas and tools to help him and of course reminded me how important it is to look after myself. Here in England I was only ever told that by giving my son food and shelter that I was enabling him and that I should detach. I tried to find out how to detach with love and was met with silence.  Allies gave me structure for a way forward. Allies gave me positivity and the resolve to carry on. It endorsed my belief in the kind of support I was giving my son. . . . My son is 27. His addictions were heroin and cocaine. In recovery 18 months taking a low dose of methadone. Living alone nearby. He is managing his life. I’m enjoying one day at a time and I’m sure he is too. With thanks and kind regards. 

Christophina, member

Dec 9, 2020   The resources available are very helpful including the Wednesday night group.  I have learned a lot about this disease thanks to this organization.

jdaggett, member

Dec 9, 2020   Relevant topics. Ability to ask a question and receive an answer which are always relevant. Training modules are great. Site is well organized  I’ve recommended it to many people. I facilitate a support group for family and friends through Smart Recovery.

Millicent, member

Dec 9, 2020   The Wednesday night group with Kayla is extraordinarily helpful. I haven’t missed one since I started. I consider attending the group an essential part of my own recovery as a mom of son with SUD. I am deeply appreciative of Allies for offering this incredible service. The website is very good also: modules, discussion section. I have reached out to so many resources and what you offer is at the absolute top.

maunalani, member

Dec 9, 2020   Our LO has not yet reduced use or gone into treatment, but I believe that what we have learned is helping us be an influence for good in those directions and would help us better support continued participation in treatment.  This has been enormously helpful. We still have a long ways to go, but we are in a much better position to walk the journey with our LO. Thank you! I/we have moved on to additional resources aligned with CRAFT approach as well. We absolutely love the spirit and content of Dominique’s videos. It is really helpful for me to see things conceptually laid out on paper as well. We studied the printed training materials with benefit, but I ended up creating my own high-level outline of how all the pieces and parts fit together. That high-level conceptual framework is helpful in additional to the training. It would not mean much without understanding the underlying background details, but once those details are understood it is such a helpful quick reference, especially when trying to share within someone else. Thank you! You do incredible work.

Cyclist, member

Dec 8, 2020   Great site, thanks for creating it!!

mich, member

Dec 8, 2020   Excellent suggestions in how to change my behavior and reactions and make plausible suggestions. Really respected us as individuals. Easy access and practical website with excellent tools to understand my loved one and actually constructively help. Gave me hope.

Tacysick, member

Dec 8, 2020   I love AiR. It’s been a veritable godsend and I don’t know what I’d have done this year without it. Even when I don’t visit, I think of it and use what I’ve learned every day. This has turned out to be one of the best years of my life — I’m not even bothered by the way the world seems to be in crisis and collapsing, because my own personal growth and productivity has been so enormously substantial. CRAFT is real.  I love the updates from various members, I love that we have the ability to contact each other, I love the ongoing blog posts with advice for people in current situations — I’ve made use of them in applying to my own life and situation. Of course the modules are fantastic, both in video and PDF form — I use both. I wish we could turn AiR into a CRAFT testbed — like the call for effective texts for dealing with a Loved One was great, I wish we could have more feedback and participation with that so that we could build an effective and proven CRAFT toolbox for dealing with situations.

michael111, member

Dec 7, 2020   Amazing resource. Dominique has been an angel for our family, guiding us through very rough waters, giving us hope along the way and guiding us toward the light. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!!

tharting, member

Dec 7, 2020   The short videos make it extremely easy to stop and start based on my availability. It also makes it easy for me to go back and review the ones I need. I first looked at your site about a year ago. On the advice of a friend. This time I was able to go through it all at once which was extremely helpful. For me, the most important learning point was your advice to determine whether they are using, or not using. Your video referred to the supplemental information. That taught me that sometimes my son is using and is way out of control. But at other times, he is using only a little bit to maintain, to prevent going through withdrawl. Your information taught me to engage with him during those times and provide a connection so he can ask for help. Before that, if I saw any alcohol at all, I reacted out of fear. I would disconnect. Or I would lash out in anger. That would drive him to want to drink more. Your information taught me when he is just maintaining to engage with him, provide the connection. Allow him to ask for help. I will be returning to your site and looking at more of your information when I get a chance. Thank you so much.

Friskey1, member

Dec 7, 2020   You are doing amazing work. Beyond words you reach those suffering the deepest pain and suffering I believe a human being can experience. Those that have not lived with and through this will never know. God Bless You All and Thank You

Rhylie84, member

Dec 7, 2020   I have been involved with Harm Reduction and AIR since the beginning of my work at Baystate Brightwood Health Center for CMA, then morphing into CCA then as an independent consultant. The people in my life who have sought assistance getting and staying sober have benefitted from the community based treatment and the understanding that the problems are multifaceted and require a multi-pronged approach. AIR understands both the simplicity and complexity of its way of working. I appreciate the AIR COMMUNITY.

memeenglish, member

Dec 6, 2020   I absolutely love it.. it gives me strength and guidance to try to help my daughter get through the hardest pain She (and I) have ever gone through in life .

GrammaH, member

Dec 6, 2020   Love the support & tools I have learned! Thank you, thank you!

ConcernedCaliMom, member

Dec 5, 2020   I like the encouragement and solace. I like having a place to turn when I’m despairing and feeling desperate.

Daisygrace, member

Dec 5, 2020 I feel like the Allies in Recovery/CRAFT model is an incredibly valuable program to help families learn more about ways to approach the issue of their loved one’s addiction more effectively with their loved one, and in teaching people how to maintain a relationship in the healthiest possible way with their loved one regardless of whether the family member is is treatment or not. I believe it is a “sane” alternative to the rigid “tough love” advice that many people get from numerous (often well-meaning but uninformed) sources (which not only can be unhelpful but also dangerous). The entire website is easy to navigate, has great educational and support aspects, and a very helpful interactive component that I think allows members to immediately feel heard and understood, and to actually hear back from someone when they are struggling with how alone, lost, confused and desperate they feel. And I want to stress that I have found the Weds night support groups with Kayla to be INVALUABLE!  I am saying this from the perspective of having been involved in multiple different support groups in the community over the last 20 years (which have all been helpful in their own ways), but having a clinician-led group offers something very different and important. I truly come away from every single group with new insights and ideas about how to move forward in a healthier way with my daughter. I’m not overstating it when I say the entire experience with AIR and the support group has been life-changing for me. I am very grateful for all of you. You are changing and saving lives every day.

sun8383, member

Dec 5, 2020 I studied the program several years ago and found it to make a lot of sense to me.

DaveM, member

Dec 4, 2020   The site is excellent with really useful material. . . . Our LO doesn’t live with us and is at some distance so it is more difficult to apply some of the suggested approaches. . . . Overall, Allies in Recovery provides great support for those coping with loved ones with addiction issues.

Jones, member

Dec 4, 2020   I am Aunt of loved one. . . . Allies in Recovery has been extremely helpful for me to support my sister and gain insight and understanding on substance abuse disorder. I forwarded the link to her and her husband, and they have also been helped by AIR.

Allies in Recovery member

Dec 2, 2020    The short videos make it extremely easy to stop and start based on my availability. It also makes it easy for me to go back and review the ones I need. I first looked at your site about a year ago. On the advice of a friend. This time I was able to go through it all at once which was extremely helpful. For me, the most important learning point was your advice to determine whether they are using, or not using. Your video referred to the supplemental information. That taught me that sometimes my son is using and is way out of control. But at other times, he is using only a little bit to maintain, to prevent going through with drawl. Your information taught me to engage with him during those times and provide a connection so he can ask for help. Before that, if I saw any alcohol at all, I reacted out of fear. I would disconnect. Or I would lash out in anger. That would drive him to want to drink more. Your information taught me when he is just maintaining to engage with him, provide the connection. Allow him to ask for help. I will be returning to your site and looking at more of your information when I get a chance. Thank you so much.

Friskey1, member

Dec 2, 2020   It’s definitely a more powerful tool for me rather than impacting my loved one (except, indirectly through my boundaries and wisdom gleaned.)  Keep up the good work. We’re all in this together.

StrongerTogether, member

Dec 2, 2020   I learned so much from this site and showed me that I am not alone. . . . It has helped me immensely and I am so satisfied with all aspects of the website.

mysam, member

Dec 1, 2020   I like the use of real stories and the experiences of all the people who have gone through this

jflan16, member

Dec 1, 2020   I love the support from other members. When I make comments someone always responds. I also like to read/understand what other people are going thru.  Music, videos – love those!  You offer alot of help. I wish there was a support group using Allies in Recovery principles.

1delapisa, member

Dec 1, 2020   The site is fantastic. I really like all of the questions from the community (and the organized list of overlapping topics that can help focus on those that are the most pertinent). Talking to a peer counselor and joining the Zoom meetings (when I can fit them in) were especially helpful during times of crisis. The podcast is also a great way of getting information while doing other tasks throughout the day and night.

lbprof4, member

Nov 30, 2020   Thank you for what you do to support families and people struggling with substance use!  I appreciate your direct, honest language.

Suellen, member

Nov 30, 2020   Listen to podcasts regularly. I use your site regularly. (I’d appreciate) more podcasts interviewing parents that have success with their youth and addiction. I enjoy email prompts with updates. . . . My struggle is with teens so that is what I look for. Melissa Ethridge was great. Your sanctuary section offers joy. Loved the monk interview too. Grateful for your site! You do a great job. Addiction journey is not fun so finding meaning is important. I listen to Tara Brach for my sanity too. Blessings.

seagerw, member

Nov 30, 2020  [ I appreciate] the journal, the group, the feedback I have received when I post a problem…

blueskies, member

Nov 30, 2020   When we first realised that our child had an addiction, there was so much anger, disbelief and sorrow. We felt that our child was completely to blame and had willingly chosen this path, so we just wanted him to stop. AIR has given me a completely different perspective on substance use, and has put our whole family ‘on the same team’ instead of a constant battle full of hate, blame and shame, which was just driving us further apart. We now again see our loved one as just that, the person behind the addiction. I would like to thank AIR for their invaluable guidance.

Joey, member

Nov 30, 2020   I find the program very helpful and have recommended it to others.

jbt4551, member

Nov 30, 2020   My loved one refuses to get formal help, he insists he will do this his way in his time.  Every time I go to Allies in Recovery I have found the videos to be supportive with practical ideas on how I can adjust my reactions. I need to do it more, that is the only thing that helps me, so I can respond in a way to him that is productive and feels good to me, and could have something in it for him. And I don’t know if my son will ever seek formal help, so I just need to keep growing. When I sink into immature behavior (lashing back, saying something hurtful when I am cooked or tired of the stupid routine) it never helps either of us. It feels like such a long haul, but going to the site always gives me a little boost if I can find the right slot in the Allies site.

natvnatr, member

Nov 30, 2020 

I love this site and what it offers. 

Linang2328, member

Nov 30, 2020   I found this site extremely helpful in finding support/resources as the sister of an opioid addict/alcoholic. It didn’t necessarily change anything for him or our relationship but it did help me gain a better understanding of how I can respond differently than I have been/take a different approach.

saryan, member

Nov 29, 2020   AIR has been a total game changer. Not only have I learned how to better communicate with my loved one, but I also have better communication with others in my world. There are so many little instances when the tools of AIR guide me. The focus on self care has been really important. I never gave it a thought, always thinking of everyone else and not seeing how it impacted my whole being. I needed to add self care into my daily life. I have shared AIR multiple times and in multiple meetings and I see folks who have found it helpful as well. There are lots of forums “out there” where people share their experiences. I see AIR as something different. It’s about experts giving the advice and guidance. . . .  I feel better leaving all the feedback to the experts. It is of tremendous benefit to have the content vetted in that way. I use other sites for conversations.

gptraveler, member

Nov 29, 2020   Allies in Recovery has been extremely helpful for me to support my sister and gain insight and understanding on substance abuse disease. I forwarded the link to her and her husband, and they have also been helped by AIR.

Allies in Recovery member

Nov 28, 2020   My son continues to struggle but my sanity is much improved knowing I am not the only one and the only true act I can engage in is to put on my oxygen mask first and find ways to enjoy my life while my son figures his own life out based on natural consequences.

Ella312, member

Nov 28, 2020   I like the concept and principles of helping when the person is wanting help and helping themselves and backing off when they are not. It’s not all or nothing.  It leaves room for hope. It leaves room to not completely give up and turn your back on the person who is in addiction. It also helps to understand that they can’t hear you when you are ranting angry and mad.

Motherof2, member

Nov 28, 2020   I am fairly new to implementing CRAFT but in less than one year of implementing in baby steps there is a definite improvement in our relationship, in the way we speak to each other, which has led to him to confide in me more and me being able to see things in a different light when it comes to why he does the things he does and how I can help him to see things about himself that may be holding him back. It’s a phenomenal site for both education about CRAFT and learning how to be supportive without being too naive or too domineering towards your family member that is battling their disease of Substance Use.

tinasteven, member

Nov 27, 2020   I love the format . . . and plan to run through these (modules) several times.

ALavendar, member

Nov 27, 2020   I feel like the Allies in Recovery/CRAFT model is an incredibly valuable program to help families learn more about ways to approach the issue of their loved one’s addiction more effectively with their loved one, and in teaching people how to maintain a relationship in the healthiest possible way with their loved one regardless of whether the family member is is treatment or not. I believe it is a “sane” alternative to the rigid “tough love” advice that many people get from numerous (often well-meaning but uninformed) sources (which not only can be unhelpful but also dangerous). The entire website is easy to navigate, has great educational and support aspects, and a very helpful interactive component that I think allows members to immediately feel heard and understood, and to actually hear back from someone when they are struggling with how alone, lost, confused and desperate they feel. And I want to stress that I have found the Weds night support groups with Kayla to be INVALUABLE! I am saying this from the perspective of having been involved in multiple different support groups in the community over the last 20 years (which have all been helpful in their own ways), but having a clinician-led group offers something very different and important. I truly come away from every single group with new insights and ideas about how to move forward in a healthier way with my daughter. I’m not overstating it when I say the entire experience with AIR and the support group has been life-changing for me. I am very grateful for all of you. You are changing and saving lives every day.

sun8383, member

Nov 27, 2020   I like the option of continuing to support my son when I can. That I can continue to show him love and support and not just throw him out with no contact. I haven’t practiced the techniques enough to be able to use them, but the practices give me hope.

mamaof2, member

Nov 26, 2020  Having completed the CRAFT program in August, I have been successful in using most of the skills I learned. I found the workshops and exercises to be relevant and helpful. My loved one is currently in treatment and although I am nervous about her aftercare, I am hopeful that my CRAFT experience will be one of the tools that will guide me through this difficult phase.

Kathy Gets Help, member

Nov 26, 2020   I have been supported 100% for the first time during this debilitating journey. I have felt validated and loved and supported here. I have been given amazing tools for communication – which in turn has allowed my daughter to trust me, open up to me and her drug use has lessened. She comes to me now – communication is key in facilitating the end result to counseling/treatment. Thank you so very much.

Tmas, member

Nov 25, 2020   Your program helped me as a grandparent alot, my grandson is a senior in high school. Getting these kids away from the peers involved with their addiction to help break the cycle. Takes months and constant support and monitoring.  Thank you for your help.

Sherry, member

Nov 25, 2020   Thank you. It is an excellent and much needed resource, for families who are devastated by an addicted loved one’s behaviour.

meikerman, member

Nov 25, 2020   The blogs posts are exceptional. I run a support group in Waukesha, Wisconsin and share this information regularly. Wish I could come up with more for you, but I am so impressed with the work you are doing that I don’t think I could improve it. Thank you for making it available to everyone during COVID. I think that several of my family members have used the resource for that reason. 

Xueling, member

Nov 25, 2020   I really appreciated the responsiveness when I first joined. I posted a question and was almost immediately answered. The suggested plan of action helped immensely.

Allies in Recovery member

Nov 25, 2020   I have in fact referred these time-strapped parents/guardians to AiR’s videos… and actually viewed with my program’s support group members in order to convey within my encouragement as a Peer-Supporter that the Videos model more generous communication even outside the dynamics of one family member/partner/loved one’s abusing alcohol/substances…Merci mille fois!

espoirmoi, member

Nov 24, 2020    The concepts were so helpful and simply taught in the videos. Alanon and personal work were also a pre-requisite to be able to stay connected and kind through the use and brief moments of non use. I believe following your advice helped our relationship with him in a way that helped him break through and seek recovery. It is also helping us stay focused on his and our recovery rather than getting caught up in other things that concern us or annoy us which feels very important to our son feeling supported and connected to us. We are so grateful!

araescott, member

Nov 24, 2020   Everything about your program has been helpful, especially the REST meeting. It really has been a life saving program.

abc123, member

Nov 24, 2020   I particularly appreciate the examples of how not to and how to communicate with my Loved One, as well as the guidelines on how to encourage my Loved One to get and stay sober by reducing our interactions when my Loved One is using. I also particularly appreciate the efforts to help me be less stressed out.

jamesb1616, member

Nov 23, 2020   I like the approach of trying to understand and help loved one and to make loved one feel we are listening to them. It helped me a lot with my communication and what to say to my loved one. Also when to pull back. I appreciate the support with Laurie and Kayla.

Kate44, member

Nov 23, 2020   The site was easy to use. Easy to understand language and role play was really good. I have been able to use some of the techniques and explain to others what I had learned to assist them. Overall really happy with the program!

arynders, member

Nov 23, 2020    It helped me become better at communicating with my loved one. 

gcinac, member

Nov 23, 2020   The information is presented well and is helpful. 

Lingli, member

Nov 22, 2020  The elearning lessons are fantastic. I go back to them over and over. I like how I can listen or read them when I’ve needed to do this privately. You have all been very responsive on the discussion blog. I greatly value your encouraging manner. The links to other posts are helpful also.

E320, member

Nov 22, 2020   Great site!

Amy_Gold, member

Nov 22, 2020   The site is a very helpful blend of information. The level of detail in the Q & A posts make them really relatable and applicable because they explain a solid framework for CRAFT. I like the Sanctuary because it is refreshing and touching. Podcasts are wonderful because they give inside scoop on people and addiction. . . . I find the emails highlighting specific things to check out beneficial.

Mostlysunny, member

Nov 21, 2020   I enjoy being able to read the modules online. They have been extremely helpful to me, and I’ve adopted quite a few of the suggested techniques.

resolve, member

Aug 22, 2020   If I hadn’t been introduced to John Fitzgerald (via a professor at PSU), I would not have connected with Allies in Recovery in fall 2018 — when L was on the streets. Without Allies, I wouldn’t have known how to stay connected to her, take care of myself, and guide her to treatment.  She survived because of you and the guidance you provided.  

fireweed, member

May 15, 2020   Thank you for this post. I came to Allies in Recovery almost 2 years ago as the second stop (SAMHSA was first) on my journey as a parent of someone struggling with their SUD. How fortunate that my early learning took place here. I learned much of the language early on and the tone of conversations here were full of hope and compassion for our LOs. My daughter is skittish by nature so the language I use is especially important. I don’t get the full honesty from her that I would like but I understand that honest communication is too revealing for her at times. I am responsible for me and my choices, including the language I carefully choose. Finding CRAFT has helped build a foundation built on love and hope. Thanks again for this thoughtful post.

gptraveler, member

 Apr 20, 2020   Thanks for the reminders. AIR never lets me down.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Apr 20, 2020   My son is not in recovery, but our relationship has improved in the last few months because I’ve changed thanks to AIR and CRAFT.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Apr 4, 2020   The CRAFT methods, personal coaching and this website have been a savior for me. I appreciate all the support.

1mgrn1, member

 

Mar 19 2020   Thank you to everyone here at Allies in Recovery for creating a program for families and friends so we can be resilient to hard times and get back to our own recovery more quickly. That resilience has been key for me.

gptraveler, member

 

Mar 19 2020   So, having one day of the bad news behind me, I am moving on to some work I am responsible for, my own self-care. I will once again dive back into the modules and do some thinking on all the positive things I can think and do. I understand that relapse can happen and even shared that knowledge with my daughter months ago so she would be up front about it if it happened and not protect me overmuch. She has quoted that a number of times in the past and each time I think she was testing my reaction. She knows we love and understand; she even said that in her text. One less burden for her I hope.

gptraveler, member

Dec 19, 2019   Dominique, I have recommended AIR to many families who need it. It’s a very valuable and practical resource. Keep up the fine work!

silver15, member

Nov 15, 2019   Wanted to provide you a quick update. K is now in University since September and doing really great from what we can tell. She is clear and focused when we speak to her regularly and appears to be the same personality we remember from the past. She is also doing well in school academically and is fully back into what she loves, being actively engaged in her sailing team. I believe she has had no more contact with her boyfriend and have gotten confirmation from some of her friends. She is coming back for Thanksgiving as well as Christmas. We are obviously thrilled and excited about all these positive developments and happy to be able to focus on our younger son a little more and have normalcy back at home. Can’t thank you enough to have supported us getting to this point.

tharting, member

All in all I feel she is moving forward and what I have learned and put into play from ALLIES IN RECOVERY is working great for us.

Allies in Recovery member

I have used your learning skills on my son. These skills have given me a great understanding of addiction and ways to communicate with my son. My son has responded to my behavior and has really opened up to me in regards to his addiction. The most important role you played was teaching me the skills getting him into treatment. THANK YOU!

Allies in Recovery member

Your site has been such a positive force for my well being and in turn for my daughter’s recovery. Thank you for all your work.

kc812, member

THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH – I don’t know what I would do without you.  

Tmas, member

 

I cannot say thank you enough for these resources and this Allies in Recovery community – so supportive and eye opening. A total game changer when it comes to removing this weight I didn’t fully realize I’ve been carrying around since childhood.

briar, member

 

I believe in your program and recommend it above and beyond anything else out there. I believe your methods and training is an answer for many.  

Kaleo60, member

 

 My reason for joining this group was to first figure out how to talk to an addict and the modules were so helpful. I’m now aware that my negative, hopeless, desperate comments weren’t appropriate in making her want to seek help.  

jenniferp, member

  

I have only just begun to delve in and I already have learned so much.

outofoptions, member

 

 

Thank you sooo kindly for the amazing, well thought out response with amazing insight.  

Tmas, member

 

[P]ractical direction here is helping greatly. We’ve had a few dramatic bumps but progress is clear. . . . I’m no longer afraid, but calm. I have let go of the shame and am embracing the road I’m on. Very strikingly several dear friends who know our whole situation haven’t shunned us as I expected, but love and believe in both my husband and me. It’s worth coming out of the dark and letting people carefully and gradually in.

My husband is in earlyish recovery. I’m learning how to regulate my responses and take care of myself. I’m becoming calm as I’m more confident in my thoughts, actions and responses. And I’m more confident in that he will respond well and recover. What I’m learning here is helping so much. I really appreciate the honesty and practical insight with alliesinrecovery.  

E320, member

Thank you so much for this guidance and direction, it’s honestly invaluable. I don’t know where I would be without this site, it’s not easy to find CRAFT informed guidance for loved ones where I live. Cruising through all of the topics on the discussion board that relate to the situation is helping a lot too, along with always circling back to the modules. Thanks for your time and for this resource.

ccomtl2014, member

 

My experience here at AIR has been nothing short of a life-line in the storm.

Rhylie84, member

 

I cannot describe how supported I feel by all of you.

Mountain Laurel, member

 

I feel so much more prepared for whatever comes my way, so I don’t need to be afraid. Wow, what a great adjustment. I’m confident in how I’ll think and respond if needed, so I can enjoy the progress, support my husband and really take care of myself each day. Thinking well has leveled my emotions dramatically. I have to say it worth every bit of work if it only had helped me. But I am so thankful for the part I have been able to do to help my husband too. So this is my encouragement to all here that this insight and instruction can really work and change the dynamic of your life.

E320, member

 

I am so impressed with what I am seeing. I have encouraged my entire family to sign up today. This will be a fabulous learning resource for us to share together. After researching for months/years I feel like we have found a place to call home. Thank you!

Cyclist, member

 

First off, I have to say the free group and this whole website, I can’t say how lost I would be without this site. I had read Beyond Addiction by Foote and the gang, and Get Your Loved One Sober by Meyers in 2016 or so, but the exercises on the website and the chance to have personalized feedback brought my understanding to a whole new level.

ccomtl2014, member

Outside of my professional role, I am a member of Allies in Recovery myself, as I have an adult daughter who has suffered with an Opioid Use Disorder for the last 14 years. I can’t tell you how helpful Allies in Recovery has been for me.

D.H., Substance Abuse Coordinator, Western Massachusetts

 

Thanks so much! I have a lot of good things to think about from your post. Allies has been such a help and comfort to me. The good vibes that are so abundantly in and around my life right now are absolutely due to CRAFT.

michael111, member

 

Thank you SO much for your incredibly thoughtful and thorough response to my question! I feel so relieved just reading it, and I am going to read and do the modules you suggested. I really feel supported and heartened to know you took such care in crafting a response to my particular situation.

BrownU96, member

 

Thank you for your labor of love!

Site visitor

 

Hi: Thank you so much for the very thorough and detailed information. So very helpful. I will certainly go back to the modules. Our son is currently not using (other than pot) and is taking his suboxone to help with cravings. One day at a time. You have certainly given me more valuable information and my husband has read the blog already so progress right there! Hoping to get my other son to read also as he is young and does take things personally. In a world where you don’t always know where to turn for help, this has been immensely helpful in dealing with a horrific situation. Thank you again for taking the time to advise and guide me in these unchartered waters!

momoftwins, member

 

Thank you! Your response is thoughtful and lovely. Without a doubt, I will read it and reread it over and over again, especially over the next few months and I know it will help get me through this challenging time. Every suggestion is so valid and helpful. Thank you very much!

blueskies, member

Great video! Very powerful.

Allies in Recovery member

 

You are an enormous help and comfort. Thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you very much. I also used the CRAFT method to have the talk with him on Wednesday, and that was what allowed him to open up and talk a bit and then agree to get more help.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I sincerely hope that more and more people, who are dealing with addiction, will discover CRAFT to help their loved ones. I realize that we are just starting on a path to recovery but feel CRAFT was a big help thus far already.

Allies in Recovery member

 

He seems genuinely happy and he is sober. He calls it starting his new life. We are happy for him. Thank you so much for helping us get to this point.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you first of all for this support and the offerings I see available here.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Your [responses] ground me and give me a rational approach to [jim’s] problems.

Allies in Recovery member

 

All in all I feel she is moving forward and what I have learned and put into play from ALLIES IN RECOVERY is working great for us.

Allies in Recovery member    

 

On the good side, use seems to be way, way down since Feb 1st.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I love this site.

Allies in Recovery member

I … found [your post] exceptionally helpful and well thought out. I’d like to thank you for the time and effort that you obviously put into it.

Allies in Recovery member

 

[This site] is so hopeful in what seems like a hopeless situation much of the time. Thank you so much for all you have done and continue to do.

Allies in Recovery member

You guys went to work with me on everything with the ultimate goal of maintaining the family unit…

Allies in Recovery member

 

You taught me how to give positive feedback, how and when to withdraw, when to disengage, [and] how to temper my anger so that we didn’t do ‘the same old stuff.’

Allies in Recovery member 

 

Your comments are very helpful and the sample language is very much appreciated.

Allies in Recovery member

WOW, I cannot believe I am reading what you wrote. This is exactly what I needed and cannot thank you enough.

momoftwins, member

 

I am so grateful for the resources here on this site. Thank you to all who have worked to make this available.

Carla, member  

 

I’m not sure if you understand how valuable your recommendations are to me. During crises like this I truly appreciate your input.

bigfluffydog2, member

 

I love the way CRAFT uses words in a positive way.

momoftwins, member

Your website has been extremely helpful for me and I really felt it’s been the best resource ever offered to families struggling with addiction issues.

Rcvr, member

[Your website]… is excellent. I’m particularly impressed with how professional and creative you’ve made it. Even the artwork is wonderful. But most of all, your passion, compassion, competence and love for the visitor…is abundantly clear. I think your site will be very helpful for the families of those struggling with substance abuse. I personally found it educational and inspiring.

Andrew Agwunobi, MD

You are doing important and necessary work. [I feel] great gratitude.

Mary, member

I can’t tell you how impressed I am by your message! . . . You should be proud. What you do is so important.

Dr. Lina Racicot, Director of Graduate Psychology, American International College

 

I want to say THANK YOU for your thoughtful comment to my concern. You really understand what I am going through.

Kpeters, member

 

I appreciate the variety of support and information Allies in Recovery offers

Allies in Recovery member

 

I’m very happy to find this site, this approach … I feel like I’m finally connected to people and information that can help me help my daughter.

kttrend, member

 

Thank you for the courage to take a stance on this sensitive subject and to open the door for discussion!

Allies in Recovery member

 

Hello, this site is an incredible resource, so well organized and so well thought out.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you ALLIES IN RECOVERY you are wonderful!

Allies in Recovery member

This is a wonderful site, there is so much to learn…

Allies in Recovery member

 

I appreciate your site so much. It’s brought me such peace of mind and guidance.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thanks again Dominique. You’re a wonderful human being to be able to develop a site that helps so many!

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you so much for your kind and wise response!

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

I am so grateful for this support. This is exactly what I need.

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

This [post] was so very clarifying and helpful, thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

This [post] was extremely helpful and eye-opening – how to use the site and behaviors I need to change. Thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

Thank you does not even begin to express how much I appreciate your support.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you very much for this resource. I had wished for something exactly like this.

Hope, member

 

An amazing website!

Director of a Family Support Services Facility

 

I am so grateful for all your guidance and support! Thank you just doesn’t seem enough.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I am so grateful to have found Allies in Recovery as a source of support and education so I can better understand my daughter’s addiction and recovery.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I thank Dominique so much for the support she has given.

mlb2t, member

 

By following the CRAFT modules and blogs on this site, along with help from Dominique and her team I am happy to say that my family is flourishing.

help4t, member

Thank you Dominique and CRAFT. We are so, so blessed.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I am enjoying learning about the CRAFT method and finding it really valuable…..Keep up the great work, and thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Your emails encouraging people to make the most of the site are . . . really helpful in being supported.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you so much for your follow up and your hands-on support!

Allies in Recovery member

 

It is very uplifting to me to have your help on the Allies in Recovery site.

Allies in Recovery member

 

The website is great.

A professional in the field of Addiction

 

I appreciate the support, it made a difference

Allies in Recovery member

 

You provide such a wonderful resource for the community.

Katy, member

 

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I am very grateful for your perspective and encouragement, along with your patience for my own struggles! Truly, discovering Allies in Recovery and being able to connect with you are gifts beyond measure with the difficulties of substance abuse.

Allies in Recovery member

I had the best communications with him and didn’t realize the influence I had start course Jan he spent 56 days clean out of treatment 7 days he lost his battle and past away. My only child he was 39 years old. Thank you for allowing me to able to talk to him in a peaceful manner that he responded to.

Allies in Recovery member

 

LIKES: the blogs and replies, knowing that there are so many in the same situation and can relate and share, the alphabetical list of information, the soothing music/videos, a resourceful place to go.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I am finding this site to be very helpful, like an easy to access al-anon meeting on the go and very user friendly. Thank you so much for your energy and efforts!  

Allies in Recovery member

 

I like the site very much, especially the direct advice section. I also think the learning modules are very well done and useful. I haven’t been that impressed with the couple of podcasts, but that’s probably because I have read much that was covered in these programs. I’ve recommended your site to several people Thank you!

Allies in Recovery member

 

So helpful to be able to go to the website any time when I’m needing support….and help refresh my memory on suggestions I had read in the past……especially when I in crisis with my son’s addiction issues Love the podcast that has been recently added….like to listen while I’m baking in the kitchen Many thanks for all your help.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I love the realistic/plain talk way of how to interact with your loved ones. I find value in Al-anon, but I also find it to be a bit abstract. The Allies in Recovery videos are very practical. The videos are also empathetic to both the loved one and substance abuser. They try to help you see their side of it. The site in general helps you get the focus back on yourself, but also gives you action to take to help your loved ones. I love the CRAFT method and had read a lot about it, and this website puts it in an easy to use format. I also like that there are professionals behind the site and experts. The issue I have run into with Al-anon is that it is just peer to peer advice and that comes from mostly just people’s experiences, and how it worked for them. There is benefit to this, and I am a member of Al-anon but Professional advice in my opinion is something that is needed too. The only thing I would suggest to improve site is that you have to sign in a lot, it seems like every 5 minutes if you aren’t active on it. However, I could also understand you do that for security purposes so it isn’t that big of a deal if it didn’t change. Thank you so so much for this site!

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thankful for what it is. More communication modules and videos or ways to practice strategies for changing long entrenched styles of communication that feed into dysfunction.

Allies in Recovery member

Improve? No. This site saved my (emotional) life. My family is not united in our responses but I am hopeful they will use this site and we can better understand each other. Thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

The modules are excellent — straightforward techniques with good details and examples that convey an appreciation for how hard as well as hopeful this all is. Watching them over brings different details forward. The discussion blog is fantastic. Dominique’s and others’ detailed responses are very helpful to get perspective and specific approaches to the problems. Seeing how others are struggling breaks down some of the isolation that can come with addiction. Coming up for Air podcasts are really, really great. I feel like Annie and Laurie are friends letting me listen in on their conversation. Down to earth and full of been-there empathy and concrete advice. I try to think of new topics and yet the new ones that appear are a great fit. There’s nothing I don’t like about the site. It’s well structured, easy to navigate, and updated frequently. As for improvements, for me that comes down to being more engaged with the site. The emails that are sent prompting a response to another member or listening to a podcast are good to keep the content in front of me. I have not sent in my own questions or contacted other members. I find I often seek out an in-person contact for help, so I have not relied on the site as a first go-to resource. Yet it feels critical to my support with such available and accessible help, which I see as even more expandable with more engagement. Thank you for AiR and all the untold efforts, hours, expertise and experiences across so many individuals that have made it the tremendous resource that it is for loved ones and addicts.

Allies in Recovery member

 

This organization is so impressive. Dominique Simon-Levine offers clear, compassionate and intelligent advice. It’s a wonderful resource for families trying to support their loved ones in the challenges to recover from substance use. Spread the word!

Allies in Recovery member

It has been a learning experience, to say the least. I am so happy to share that one of my nephews is coming up on his 1-year anniversary of sobriety and I am so proud and happy for him. I cannot express how grateful for all the support, kindness and education you all gave me. Especially, Dominique Simon-Levine, PhD Founder & CEO. I am in awe of you and your dedication and support. I was at my wits end and you were amazing to me. He successfully, networked and started meetings the day after we landed in LA. Completed his IOP. Found a Sponsor who is amazing. Got a job that he has held for 6 months and is now living with a few other friends who are also sober. Continues to network and is thriving. I am so grateful and he is very proud of himself, which is huge! I continue to educate myself and one of the most important lessons was and still is. It’s not about me, it’s his journey, I only provided an opportunity and could not have done it without you Dominique and ALLIES IN RECOVERY. It’s so hard to watch someone you love struggle and if you need to take a step back. Do it, because if you don’t you will suffer just as much watching.

Light and love to all. Desperate aunt is not desperate anymore 🙂

Desperate Aunt, member

 

Much appreciated Dominique…your site is a tremendous comfort to me. Knowing I’m not alone or unique in this battle makes the battle seem winnable

Allies in Recovery member

 

CRAFT! Where have you been all my life?

Allies in Recovery member

 

I know that Allies In Recovery has impacted me and my family in such a positive way. I am much stronger and better able to take care of myself because if it. I also have a special place in my heart for Dominique, she has no idea what a difference she has made.

On-a-mission, member

 

Thank you so much, I am so grateful for your response, it is exactly what I needed to hear. I have a session with my therapist scheduled, and the hospital was fantastic with post-care referrals for the both of us. My partner is doing well too, she does seem to have a new renewed sense of urgency for staying sober.

I right along have been doing the e-course and will continue to along with readjusting my exercises. I can’t state to you enough how great this e-course is. It’s practical, informative, and empathetic to the addict and the loved one watching just the same. The CRAFT method is a Godsend because it’s much more humane in my view. This isn’t an easy process, however I have learned so Much along the way.

Thank you again for your time.

Veritas19, member

 

Thank you for sharing this [post]. It has given me another perspective and most importantly HOPE! I think it is time I look at myself a little closer.

Anonymous member

 

This morning [I] listened to the podcast on the CRAFT method which is excellent with so many relevant concepts and details come out in such a caring/sincere format.

Allies in Recovery member

I have found [your emails] to be very informative and helpful as I work with families encountering loved ones with addiction and offer support to them on how to navigate the road ahead.

Social Worker, member

 

Your website is incredibly smart and helpful and I’ve recommended it to many others…

Allies in Recovery member

Thanks so very much for all the support and information.  Makes me hopeful.

920Sunshine!, member

 

Sincere thanks. You have been invaluable.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I have benefited from CRAFT and from Allies in Recovery by helping me understand the mechanisms at work, understanding my own role, and being able to recognize concrete steps to help preserve my own emotional health and that of the rest of my family.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Reflecting on the year since my resolution, my lesson is that anything can happen. I learned to let go of some of the things that were beyond my control, and try to identify what I *could* do that would help.

Kate, member

 

Every email/post I read pertains to my situation. I learn every time. It’s like a lifeline. I cannot thank you enough.

readr, member

 

. . . Our son is finally doing well in recovery and we are thankful for that . . . he acknowledges our love and support – now! and is very thankful as well.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Going through the modules in here calmed me down . . . though it seemed really hard at first, eventually it worked to help me learn to say the right things at the right time. . . .

Allies in Recovery member

[I learned] to back off when it was not the appropriate time; also to keep myself from going overboard.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I have used your learning skills on my son. These skills have given me a great understanding of addiction and ways to communicate with my son. My son has responded to my behavior and has really opened up to me in regards to his addiction. The most important role you played was teaching me the skills getting him into treatment. THANK YOU!

Allies in Recovery member

 

I am so appreciative of this resource.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Your site is incredible and your resources and answers to questions are incredibly thorough and helpful.

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

I appreciate the emails that come in. They are the perfect ‘nudge’ to remind me to look at the site again.

Hopeful21, member

 

 

The podcast is wonderfully relatable…

fanochoklit, member

 

 

I was already familiar with CRAFT and was really pleased to find that AIR is so comprehensive.

fanochoklit, member

 

 

Generally speaking, you provide very informative and positive feedback to everyone who reach out here. I consider myself to be a private person who does not easily confide. The opportunity for me to ask for help with my post hoping to get some support is a great relief. Thank you.

ritzn, member

 

 

Thank you so much for your feedback….Your platform is awesome!!

ritzn, member

I am new to this program, and I very much appreciate all that I have learned here.

Ivy2015, member

 

Thank you so much again for creating this website. I am so impressed with all it. And I wish I would have known about it 5 years ago. Thanks again.

Ivy2015, member

 

I have been implementing the positive talk with him for a couple of days now, and we have had some days that are just great…

Ivy2015, member

 

If it was not for Allies in Recovery we would still be in limbo and useless in helping our loved ones.

Ivy2015, member

 

These methods of interacting with my son have worked phenomenally. I can’t thank you enough for creating this site. I will tell every person I know about it.

Ivy2015, member

 

For a long time many people where telling me I needed to practice tough love with my son. That never felt right to me. But, I did try it and it was disastrous ….. I wanted more direction on how to interact with my son. I started surfing the web for other options ….. Long story short, I found Allies through YouTube, and I feel like I just won the lottery. It is by far the best information I have found to help effectively interact with my son.  I have had awesome results from using this new way of communicating. It is so easy to implement, and I love that the website has video modules and a place to ask questions and get answers. I will be telling all the parents [in my PAL group] about Allies, and I’m so excited to be given the opportunity to possibly share information that could help another parent.

Ivy2015, member

 

Thank you again for all your help and for being a part of such a great organization. I hope the CRAFT method is the wave of the future for families like ours. It is the first thing that I have found that I feel completely comfortable with, and it has been so effective.

Ivy2015, member 

 

Excellent work you’re doing. What a helpful resource for both me and my sister with addicted family members.

Gary58, member

The new developments to the website are very positive. You are offering a wonderful service and much sound advice to the families of addicts.  Keep up the good work!

silver15, member 

 

This organization is so impressive. Dominique Simon-Levine offers clear, compassionate and intelligent advice. It’s a wonderful resource for families trying to support their loved ones in the challenges to recover from substance use.

Millicent, member

 

The support and feedback you offer on this site has been so helpful on this journey.

Momdog, member 

 

There is so much rich content on AiR. I find it really helpful how your posts capture the frustration and difficulty of situations while offering perspective, techniques and practicalities. It’s amazing how you do that!  Thank you for all your offerings and the site’s varied resources.

Mostlysunny, member

 

Thank you for creating such a great program. I have seen drastic positive changes in my son, and I know Allies was a big part of that.

Ivy2015, member

 

Thank you so much for your advice […] this site is really helping me so much, I appreciate it all.

Mamakin, member

 

Thank you for all you do.

readr, member

 

I have been suggesting to many of my family intervention clients to use this amazing resource. I find my clients value your work and it is helping.

Bill Stevens, Therapist & Interventionist, www.redchair.co.uk

 

I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Wenham MA. I was trained in CRAFT many years ago and have been a devoted member of Allies in Recovery for several years.

MEF, member

 

Thank you, Dominique. I’m sure your website has changed many lives. Thank you for your passion.

Dragonfly, member

 

AIR has been a lifeline for me. It has enabled me to deal effectively with my son who has struggled with alcoholism for over 10 years.

readr, member

 

First of all, I would like to say I am very thankful for the Allies in Recovery site. It has helped us with our 23-year-old son so much. I appreciate all the hard work Dominique and the other members have done to make this such a great resource.

Ivy2015, member

 

I recently asked a question about my son and the issue he had with motivation. The Allies in Recovery website offered awesome advice. Thank you for that.

Ivy2015, member

 

I want to thank you for all of the care you give to families and other loved ones who are trying so hard to battle this horrible disease.

Mothra, member

The modules, the blog, the connection with others fighting just as hard is amazing. Please continue on…we are eternally grateful.Mothra, member May God bless you all for the wonderful work that you do.

Mothra, member

Thank you again for establishing this website….I gain so much wisdom from all who are a part of Allies in Recovery

pherlihy, member

Learning CRAFT skills gives me the confidence because I can be helpful in a small amount of time rather than before where I spent all the time sorting out what was helpful and not.228, member  Always poignant and helpful posts

Deborah F.K., member

 

In the first day of the modules, my husband and I learned how to position ourselves and how to have conversations with her. No more dramatic pleas with reminders of how bad things had become. I listened then spoke calmly and offered information on services she could reach out to. The first thing that changed was her hopeless attitude.

gptraveler, member

 

I contacted SAMSHA and they directed me to Allies In Recovery. CRAFT has been a life-saver for me, and through it, my daughter.

gptraveler, member

 

We have found your offerings very helpful. . . .

Bernie123, member

 

In only two days, I already know deciding to join Allies in Recovery was a great decision.

mom, member

 

Thank you for ALL of that information. I will dig into all of it. This site is amazing. I feel understood. Thank you.

mom, member

 

In her presentation, Drug Court Judge Crawford spoke highly of your resource and recommended it to a room of 75 or so family law attorneys and a few retired judges.

Valerie Botter, Attorney/Mediator

 

Thank You for all the dedicated and valuable efforts you make day after day, podcast after podcast, post after post…

Mostlysunny, member

 

I listened to the detach/attach podcast on my way to work this morning. It is sensational! Between you […] you have a wonderful way of covering the specifics while at the same time conveying the underlying concepts of detach/attach to build one’s understanding.

Mostlysunny, member

 

Thanks for being there. This forum, the progress chart, and the journal writing here are so helpful to me.

gptraveler, member

 

Thank you so much for your quick response to our situation. The suggested scripts and next steps are so helpful. I’ve never felt so supported as a family member of a Loved One.

Hopefulin2018, member

This is such a helpful site with so many great resources.

Hopefulin2018, Allies in Recovery

 

This site is a life saver for me. It was the first place recommended to me when I contacted SAMSHA and I have clung to it ever since.

gptraveler, member

 

I want to give a shout out to the power of this site and the fantastic suggestions and responses from Dr. Simon-Levine and others. It’s only been about 2 weeks since I joined this site, and I started interacting with it about a week ago through journaling, posing a question, or leaving a comment. It dawned on me yesterday that I haven’t broken down in tears in one week and I think it’s because I found permission through this site to take care of myself. The sense of support, not only through the stories of others, but also from the great responses, suggestions, and words of encouragement have been critical in helping me center my thinking. I know the road is long and the roller coaster of emotions isn’t going away (the past two days I was feeling quite angry at my son for his use), but I can tell I’m thinking differently. Knowing I have somewhere to turn for support and guidance is making a huge difference, and I will remain hopeful that CRAFT and my ever improving ability to apply it will help my son find his way back to us and all that his life has to offer. Thank you AIR!

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Thanks!!! It is an amazing site and I’m super grateful for it.

Lovernotafighter, member

 

As I’m learning through this fantastic site, I see how my feelings of fear and anxiety have led me to react rather than listen, confront rather than seek to understand, and try to control where I have none.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

I feel relieved knowing AIR is here. You have done an incredible thing in creating AIR and offering your support. Thank you.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

I don’t know how to thank you. I am more than grateful for your guidance and support. I don’t feel alone in this anymore.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Despite some challenges he now has 90 new sober days. I’ll take it. CRAFT – and your support – has been invaluable. Thank you.

StrongerTogether, member

 

Each email and post offers me insight. They are constant lifelines to maintaining my balance. Thank you. 

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

My reaction to [my son’s] use didn’t change until I found AIR. Watching the modules and reading through the resources on this site is helping me realize what I can and cannot control. It’s also helping me with my communication skills so my interactions with him aren’t so volatile. It’s difficult, but I’m staying with the CRAFT method in hopes that we’ll develop a more open and honest relationship. I can’t help but wonder if my constant arguing and confrontation pushed him to continue to use in the past. Regardless, I’m trying to chart a new path for our relationship using CRAFT.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Thanks again for helping us #SeeTheGood. You guys are a lifesaver in a broken world.

Strongertogether, member

 

UPDATE: I reached my son. At first the conversation was strained…defensive and contentious. (We were disagreeing about treatment issues and he hadn’t been truthful.) Then I made myself switch to CRAFT communication, for example deliberate listening. I sentences (instead of ‘you sentences, Tell me more, That must be difficult, I hear you saying that _____ Within a few minutes of this he started opening up about his housemate’s death. CRAFT helped me give him a safe space to talk about the peer he’d lost. Thank you, CRAFT.

Strongertogether, member

Thank you Dominique! I am so grateful to have found this community. I need support and feedback, especially being a single parent. I have ordered the workbook suggested and come to this site every day. I have watched several modules and find them very helpful. I look forward to continued interaction with everyone here. It is saving my life.

katie1chad, member

 

Update, in which CRAFT and compassion continue to work its magic… [In a facilitated meeting with my son and his IOP therapist] Using CRAFT we remained calm. We both worked hard to use I statements instead of You statements… CRAFT and compassion turned what could have been a stormy, stalled meeting into a productive one. We left on loving terms. He said he was surprised how smoothly [things went]…The CRAFT process revealed to us a new way of communicating calmly and effectively. It helped me set boundaries. It helped us shift the decision-making (and responsibility for sobriety) on to him where it belongs. It helped me relinquish control. The next days/weeks won’t be easy. But we didn’t make them worse. We built a foundation for conversations (and crises) to come. I’ll take it.

Strongertogether, member

 

This site has been one of my best sources of support. I recommend it to all the family members I encounter on this journey with our loved ones. I agree with Dominique that you are taking care of yourself by sharing here. I originally began practicing CRAFT to help my son, but have found that it has helped me as much, by learning to control my emotions so the highs and lows are less extreme and therefore less exhausting….

Momdog, member

 

We are using CRAFT to build the bridge and it is helping to calm things down and it has certainly helped my anxiety level. I’m noticing I’m talking more with my son (even though it’s very brief) rather than interrogate him, which is pretty much what our conversations consisted of before discovering CRAFT and AIR. This is a nice change.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

As always, you provide such great insight and support. With each response I understand more clearly. Thank you… I find the effect CRAFT has on me also helps me be a better parent… particularly since I’ve learned to chill and make my self care more of a priority.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Each email and post offers me insight. They are constant lifelines to maintaining my balance. Thank you.

Readr, member

 

I wanted to share some very unexpected wins we’ve had. These are behaviors we haven’t seen for a very, very long time. We aren’t in the clear, and I know patience is key, but it’s so nice to finally see a glimmer of hope. Thank you AIR, CRAFT, and this entire community. I’ve read so many of the blog postings and recognize so many of the challenges of living with an LO who uses. I’m hesitant to be too optimistic, but I do continue to be hopeful. Approaching my LO’s use with CRAFT has had such an impact on me. It’s lightened the burden of living with my son’s SUD and is helping me rebuild my life and my relationship with my son. But I must say, I couldn’t do CRAFT effectively without the support of AIR. AIR is what’s helped me see how to apply CRAFT in my situation. AIR has provided me clarity, strength and encouragement. AIR has kept me from reacting and helps me to think strategically about how to best support my son. AIR is making a HUGE DIFFERENCE and I can’t thank you enough.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

He is feeling the effects. You’ve pushed me back on track. What a gift you are!

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Feeling good about how to interact with her and feeling hopeful has also helped me with a renewed focus on self-care.

PThasnohead, member

Your group helped us to see that we were not helpless and that he needed to take responsibility for his actions and we needed to let him. We may not have done everything as well as we should have, but he is still sober, and that’s a blessing.

fettfamily, member

 

He is now in recovery and will be 8 months sober on the 8th, working full time and living independently. Thank you for your program.

fettfamily, member

 

CRAFT cleans up your side of the street and provides a light onto the street she should walk down to get help. It’s not 100%. It doesn’t guarantee they will walk down that street, but it is the best position you can take. … Simply brilliant. Let’s keep cleaning our side of the street not only for our loved ones but for ourselves and the rest of the family.

gptraveler, member

The [podcast] episode is highly recommended. I’ve already forwarded it to other parents. Thanks Laurie. You have supported me in the past as well, in a reply to one of my posts — literally helped me to breathe that day.

Fireweed3, member

 

My son is by all accounts doing well and in the change process.

mommaoftwo, member

Thank you for this amazing resource. I already do not feel so alone as I work through the modules and read parents comments and questions.

fireball, member

 

Thank you for your response. Your professional words of wisdom, experience and understanding are most appreciated!

mashazak, member

 

CRAFT – and your support – has been invaluable. Thank you.

StrongerTogether, member

 

Thanks to AIR, Craft and the podcasts, My LO is starting treatment.

PThasnohead, member

 

We really have done and seen it all but CRAFT was the first time we were able to bridge the gap between tough love and keeping in contact. My daughter says I saved her life and she seems really grateful and is in a good place.

shelleybobelly, member

 

I recommend you check in with the ‘My Progress’ graphing in the ‘My AIR’ tab. It helps me to see my mindset and I can make adjustments in my thinking as necessary.

gptraveler, member

 

The biggest takeaway from AIR for me has been calmness and self-care. I am a emotionally needy person. I find online as well as face to face communities can help meet those needs while framing my thinking.

gptraveler, member

 

The level of support and encouragement from you is incredible and certainly has played a HUGE role in helping me recover from my addiction to my son’s addiction. Thank you so very much.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

A million thanks for your sincere efforts and support. It means the world.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

When I read posts like this, I feel hopeful for the plan I am working and it all boils down to love, for my loved one and myself.

gptraveler, member

 

CRAFT is such a good combination of demonstrating caring while setting boundaries and limitations

Millicent, member 

 

CRAFT has helped me a great deal and I do think it is a good balanced approach. I really have loved the podcasts and I would usually listen before bed and that helped me keep my head in the right place. Truly enjoyed listening.

Shelleybobelly, member

Fortunately the CRAFT approach has been paying off. He got a job interview today and he is looking for a sober living house to live in.

katiechad, member

 

Thank you Thank you Thank you!. I feel better reading your reply. It helped me relax just knowing I am doing the right things. I posted that she was a bit better today, but I am taking it one day at a time. Thank you again for your continued support.

help4t, member

 

I don’t believe that I would have ever made it through without this program. I will always continue to work this program everyday. It will still take a while to feel comfortable and trusting, but I do believe that things are looking up. My oldest is going for his bachelor degree, my toughest is working and seems very proud of himself and my husband and I are getting along better than ever. I do have to mention my daughter also, she has always been my rock and is now on her way to a PhD. She is really a survivor through all of this and I am so proud of her. I hope that others reading this get some encouragement. It has been a long road and I cherish every good day. I’m sure there will still be challenges ahead, but I feel following and working this program will help me get through. Thank you so much.

mlb2t, member

 

Thank you, I needed some direction and I believe I got it.

Sparkyzappa, member

 

I also reach out to the support on this website, listen to the podcast and other forms of peace and support. Thanks for all you do!

SoCal, member

 

I unknowingly used some of the principles of the CRAFT program at some times however, and although it took many years, it led to my recovery in Al-Anon and my wife’s through her recovery in AA. Rewarding good behavior and detaching with love from unacceptable behavior finally led to our recoveries. Frustration is now a thing of the past.

KRIVAPALANKA, member

 

CRAFT helped me change my attitude toward my LO from anger to compassion. I also learned to have compassion for myself.

Momdog, member

 

In the past year, we have been practicing calm talking with love and catching him doing things right. He has been able to achieve better sobriety, more confidence in himself and allows us to be involved in advising him on important career decisions. Our house is a far more peaceful place!

JeanCooney, member

 

I’m always happy to advocate for the great work and support Allies provides. A million thanks.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Thank you so much for these gifts– wonderful tools and a wealth of invaluable information!

mtavarozziu, member

Dominique, thank you. You always help me rediscover my compassion through the chaos. You help me recenter and help me uncover what gets in the way of me doing what’s best for my son. You are truly a Godsend.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

I’ve never felt so understood and supported in this journey. Thank you. You’ve given me much to think about and work on to help.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

That you would take so much time to respond in such a thoughtful and thorough way means more than I can ever say, Dominique.

Hopefulin2018, member

This AIR method has assisted me in changing my language, persuaded me to take and/or create a space I have control over ….a positive thing… my day starts with a walk in nature, a coffee, listening to radio personalities….all things I can control.

streganona, member

Thank you so much for this website. I turn to it often to learn, get calm, and get gentle reminders about how to navigate the chaos.

mw2018, member

 

I am truly thankful to have a place to turn when I feel like no one else understands!

MommaB3, member

 

It’s so great to have AIR to provide this wonderful advice and support.

SoCal, member

 

Thank you Emily and everyone that coordinates and operates on this site. It is refreshing to witness the level of respect here. I am not sure that some people here won’t go down in history as saints on par with the likes of Gandhi, Albert Schweitzer, Mother Teresa etc. It’s an inspiration to see the value of human life in spirit and action. We need NO MORE MARTYRS attesting to the pain of living in a culture oblivious to the spiritual value of every human being. I am much obliged. Keep up the morale and its good deeds! I am possibly speaking for more than myself when I implore you to ask the people on this site for help when necessary in your work to make this world a better place Dominique. Thank you.

228, member

AIR is a huge part of my support system.

gptraveler, member

 

I am hopeful and full of gratitude for the lack of judgment I found here in the most isolated and sad period of time in my 70 years.

natvnatr, member

 

He refused treatment, finally lived with me, and I think both of us survived only because of the support of this website. I learned to speak compassion even when I was as angry and depressed as I have ever been.

natvnatr, member

 

.Your perspective and support do stay with me. Also, the content on AiR is excellent, and in a steady way! It is very helpful how your responses are specific to someone else and yet relevant to me/all.  

MostlySunny228, member

 

[The weekly support calls] . . . are really supportive and she has established easy interactions, even with some varying attendance.  Kayla’s emphasis on self-care and staying connected to a loved one is reinforced in each call and covers both practical and emotional details.  

MostlySunny228, member

 

I can’t tell you how much your response meant to me- I feel returned to myself and human again! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I just had a brief conversation with my son and told him I have been overwhelmed and afraid and haven’t been able to tell him how proud I am of him for his efforts. He said he is trying, and I told him I am proud of him! It felt like we reconnected. He does know what he needs to do and I will try and support that but leave the work to him. Not doing the drug tests now seems like a really good move, no real reason to- the consequences will be from the court. I did read Laurie’s post earlier today and will re-read it-her approach seemed amazing and there may be a time when it can be helpful again for our family.

mommaoftwo, member

 

 

I’m so grateful for this program and website. It has helped me so much in my relationship with my boyfriend and now I have a question. We’ve been together about a year and a half, and we don’t live together. I think this program has been a big factor in his decision to seek treatment for the first time in his life at age 54. A victory 🙂 …

Carolina, member

 

So often I find myself going back to the modules for guidance and reinforcement.

gptraveler, member

 

She is feeling very positive about herself for a change. She sees how far she has come and is creating a plan for (her words) a healthy and happy life. She is making some tough decisions and standing her ground to get what she needs. We couldn’t be happier for her and we marvel at how strong she is. CRAFT has coached us on how to operate as her help and support with a minimum of inserting ourselves into her problems. We have had good tools to work with and for that we thank you all. Looking forward to watching this woman grow in her recovery with a strong network of peers, counseling, and family support. Never lose hope.

gptraveler, member

We are very grateful for your support and the work you do!

tharting, member

 

I am impressed with Dominique’s sound and well-grounded advice; for a very challenging dilemma. As a newcomer, this is an awesome exciting website integrating CRAFT and other evidence-based proven approaches; and it’s so encouraging to see Families with addiction getting this additional support. Family involvement improves outcomes. Keep up your fantastic work!

Patrick Doyle, LICSW
Founder and Coach, Family Addiction Coaching opioidcoaching.com

 

I have found the Wednesday night video chat with Kayla extremely helpful. You might sit in on one and see how it goes.  

jdaggett, member

 

[My Loved One] has been clean now for two months . . . She has been happy and determined to move forward. She is ready to live her life again, has started to gain weight by eating right and is starting to come back into our lives, answering the phone and joining family events. While I pray that this is finally the turning point, I know it may not be. However, I find hope that she is going in the right direction . . . ! Lesson learned that even though she relapsed the day after she got out of rehab, she did not lose what she had heard/discovered there and the active use following was sporadic and short term. I thank CRAFT and this site for helping to steer me in the right direction and pray that we may get there!

Worried Mom, member

Over the past year since I joined AIR, I’ve been applying what I learn from Dominique, AIR, and the CRAFT community – little by little – as I’ve been able to given the roller coaster of chaos that SUD brings to a family. As I began to work on my own recovery, through self-care and by staying connected to other parent support groups whose LO suffer from SUD, I began to learn how to release control of trying to fix my son’s SUD. This propelled me to a better place, mentally and emotionally, and now I can more clearly understand the insights and suggestions Dominique shares on this site. I also realize that we have to be patient – patient with ourselves and patient with our LO. I know there is still so much for me to learn, and my recovery is not a linear or a smooth path, but it is a path forward and I hope my son will join me on it one day.

hopefulin2018

 

I am truly impressed with your site; and I am skeptical of most as most are same old same old and give really bad advice. One of my family coaching clients has already joined AiR; and I intend to refer every client to your site.

Patrick Doyle, LICSW
Founder and Coach, Family Addiction Coaching opioidcoaching.com

 

She is coming back for Thanksgiving as well as Christmas. We are obviously thrilled and excited about all these positive developments and happy to be able to focus on our younger son a little more and have normalcy back at home. Can’t thank you enough to have supported us getting to this point.

tharting, member

 

I just want to let everyone on this site know how thankful I am for the AIR community. I joined AIR a year ago and since then I’ve grown so much from all the resources, suggestions, advice, and stories shared on this site. I can now see how focusing on my own recovery from obsessing over my son’s SUD and focusing on my self-care are critical in helping me deal with my son’s SUD. Although I never thought I would find myself in the position of experiencing a LO’s SUD, I can’t imagine the wreck I would be today had I not found AIR. AIR reminds me that my son is not his SUD. He is so much more than that and he deserves my love and compassion and I deserve love and compassion, too. Love and compassion are powerful, indeed. I am forever hopeful for my son, and for all our LOs. I am forever grateful for AIR.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

 

I am grateful I found your site. The modules are so helpful. I think they add so much value to a family member and go a step further than NARANON and Alanon.

Love13, member

 

My parents are alcoholics and I wish I found these modules sooner.   Now that I have I want to share these methods with other loved ones.  

Love13, member 

 

I’m afraid to write this for fear of jinxing our situation, but this site helped spark monumental changes in my family, and we are all so thankful to Allies in Recovery. I have been seeking help for over a decade. My son simply could not function in the outside world with his pot addiction and binge drinking. . . . Here’s how our lives transpired when I found this website. I followed the videos and cut down on my negative talk and waited for a wish or a dip. I prepared what I would say when it came using the suggested template. I found a treatment center that I thought would resonate with him. I called them and let them know we were interested. I also asked them for tips on how to talk to my son. I knew it would not take long because he already had a lot of wishful thinking, though I was prepared to go 6-8 weeks. When the dip came in one week, I took a deep breath, followed my template, and my son agreed to look at the recovery center’s website. Within 2 minutes my son said that he wanted to go.

My son is now in his 5th week of outpatient treatment. He loves the treatment center and said it is the most meaningful thing that has ever happened to him. He is helping others. I am filled with optimism.

I am so grateful to Allies in Recovery. Of course a huge part of this change in direction was that my son was ready. I knew that the window when he would agree to go to treatment would be very small and Allies helped me jump on it when he was ready. My son does not even remember the day he agreed. The hardest part for me was waiting for my son to be ready – and of course the many relapses – and the 4 hospital stays for alcohol binges, and so much more. But waiting for them to be ready is excruciating. My heart goes out to other parents and people trying to get off their substances of choice. May you find help.  

Plantgeek, member

There’s so much great stuff on AiR — liking the recent success stories, the difficult detailed blogs, and always the sanctuary. Even as I rail against addiction and its impacts, the resources you provide really make a difference in content and in the connection/support factor.

mostlysunny228, member

 

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of your wise counsel and support to this point!

Fatima77, member

 

Fingers crossed prayers said my son too has made remarkable strides this year and I am thankful for the support and tips and learning the CRAFT method. I prepared as well by finding a treatment center that used the CRAFT method and in my son’s case waited for the consequences (legal) to use as leverage-i.e. when his case finally came to court they would look more favorably on him if he had voluntarily already gone to treatment. I hoped they would and they did-he is on 5 years probation instead of possible jail or prison time which I feared would only alienate him further. Anyway was in treatment for 60 days- a very good sober house (many are not good-choose carefully) combined with a therapy center that specializes in addictions. He came home afterward is working full time, testing this month for electrician’s apprenticeship. He got engaged over the holidays and he and his fiancé are expecting our first grandchild in May. The two new parents to be are living with us -we have a big house and it works and preparing for their new roles. Recovery is an ongoing process for all of us as we let go of the past and look with hope to the future. Day by day we grow stronger and healthier together. I could have never predicted all the joys coming our way after so many hard confusing years. I am so thankful for this site and the ways it helped me walk through the dark times with hope and a road map out.

mommaoftwo, member

 

 

I also have to thank you for your guidance through all of this. I honestly believe that it is practicing CRAFT that has gotten us to where we are today. It hasn’t always been easy for me to follow but I know when I do I see much better results than when I’m not. So thank you.  

Help4t, member

 

This is really sound empathic guidance. Thank you Dominique, you have a keen grasp of the nuances and complexities of these issues which is in short supply these days. Keep up your great work supporting families with addiction.

opiodcoaching, Allies in Recovery Professional Member

 

You guys are awesome.

jen, member

 

This is an update on my daughter- she DID complete the residential- we picked her up on Sunday- she’s doing well (…) She said she learned a lot about herself & will continue to. She’s enrolled in an IOP & seeing her therapist & psychiatrist. We continue to watch & re-watch the modules. One day at a time…

Da-mommy, member

 

Sometimes just the right thing comes at just the right time, and your post was that. I had been especially down about this situation, and your post gave me both hope and concrete direction.  

michael111, member

Your Allies in Recovery website gave us strength, a plethora of guidance and, most of all, an understanding of what our loved ones truly need.

Sunset Gold, member

 

Thank you again. Your support is like a lifeboat to me.

Fireweed3, member

 

Thanks to Craft, I can feel much more positive, for him trying over and over again to stop drinking is a sign of hope, rather than failure. This is an eye opener.

lieveDo, member

 

I read the response Dominique gave me in her blog about my question. I would like to thank her so much! I feel so helped and supported! Thank her so much! … I do do my exercises and modules and I find it inspiring and very helpful. It gives me joy to think what I can do to reward him being sober. It also helps me feeling much better, even joyful. It gives a very good sense of direction.

lieveDo, member

 

Your content is exactly what DCF social workers can benefit from and will certainly resonate with them and their work.

Dino Martone, LICSW, CADC, LADC,

CAGS Substance Abuse Coordinator Department of Children and Families 

 

I am impressed with Dominique’s sound and well-grounded advice; for a very challenging dilemma. As a newcomer, this is an awesome exciting website integrating CRAFT and other evidence-based proven approaches; and it’s so encouraging to see Families with addiction getting this additional support. Family involvement improves outcomes. Keep up your fantastic work!

Patrick Doyle, LICSW
Founder and Coach, Family Addiction Coaching opioidcoaching.com

I am truly impressed with your site; and I am skeptical of most as most are same old same old and give really bad advice. One of my family coaching clients has already joined AiR; and I intend to refer every client to your site.

Patrick Doyle, LICSW
Founder and Coach, Family Addiction Coaching opioidcoaching.com

I often tell my clients about your website – as I’ve found it to be a great helping tool for families, especially those adverse to Al-Anon.

Social Worker, Department of Children & Families

 

I work for the Department of Children and Families and often tell my clients about your website- as I’ve found it to be a great helping tool for families, especially those adverse to Al-Anon.

Social Worker, Department of Children & Families 

 

Dear Laurie, Thank you so much for this. It is as if I hear myself. It helps me to know that I am not the only one who act like this and felt bad about it. Working and learning and in crisis doing the same as I did before! The time is helping and leading us in more knowledge. That’s for sure. This blog helps me to see. We are not alone.

Bimba, member