Reviews

March 23, 2023    Allies in Recovery provides the “oxygen” necessary for me to carry on.

Chris, Allies in Recovery Member

March 16, 2023      I attended Kayla’s group tonight, because I have been needing to get some anger/guilt defused over my sister’s substance use. I didn’t speak, but just listening was helpful. What an awesome group! By listening to others talk, I heard some useful reminders about self-care, stepping back, that I’m not responsible or in charge, she’s an adult making her own choices, etc., How holding onto bad feelings is “battery acid”; so, I need to keep working on not having them by changing how I think about the situation. Staying connected is what CRAFT is all about; not taking charge with the exception of our own responsibility. Being supportive or having resources available for your LO is good, but the how and the when are key. Hearing others’ stories, their really helpful remarks to each other, and Kayla’s insightful guidance was uplifting, engrossing, and educational all at once. I felt much less alone. 

Anonymous, CRAFT Support Group Participant

February 22, 2023      Love Allies in Recovery! Doing great work!

Patrick Doyle, LICSW, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

February 22, 2023      The Allies in Recovery workshops, virtual program and educational classes really helped me to understand things in a very practical way and made the ideas much easier for me to apply.

Michelle, Allies in Recovery Member

February 20, 2023    I was able to attend your 1-day CRAFT workshop recently, after devouring the AIR modules, and I came away from those 2 activities with new perspectives on how to be (and not to be) in relationships. It’s taken a few weeks for me to see how my habits are starting to change but I can feel a big difference already. Nothing else that I’ve participated in or practiced has been anywhere near as impactful as the AIR curriculum via your podcast, modules, and workshop. For me, that AIR “triple-therapy” has been just the right medicine in just the right dose at just the right time.

Chris O'Brien, SMART Recovery Family & Friends Group Facilitator

February 14, 2023     Before I learned CRAFT I didn’t know I was making mistakes in the way I was dealing with my son’s co-occurring disorders. Now I still make mistakes but at least I know what they are! Thanks to Allies in Recovery, I have lot’s of options to try something different next time.

Dave, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

February 14, 2023      Allies in Recovery has been my saving grace!

Eva, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

February 13, 2023      Sending so many thank you’s for the most recent “Coming Up for Air” podcast featuring the interview with Linda Aber. I am still organizing all the awesome notes and looking forward to listening again. I am so excited to hear part two. Thank you all for everything Allies does for families affected by the disease of addiction and how we can support our loved ones. You are all amazing! A grateful Mom in Central New York.

Connie, Allies in Recovery Member

February 7, 2023       The BEST tools in the toolbox are from Allies in Recovery! CRAFT!

Annemarie, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

January 25, 2023    Allies in Recovery is a very workable approach to motivating a person with substance use disorder into recovery while maintaining healthy self-care boundaries.

Peggy, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

January 23, 2023     I began using the principles/suggestions with my daughter and found them to be helpful. I am so grateful for all I learned through CRAFT and how it helped my daughter and I connect.

Sheila, Allies in Recovery Member

January 21, 2023     I’ve visited your website a ton of times since I signed up in 2018! It’s been very helpful. Thank you!

Molly, Allies in Recovery Member

January 20, 2023      Thank you for being here.

exhausted, Allies in Recovery Member

January 9, 2023    I’m finding your site helpful as I start educating myself as a parent of an anorexic. Thank you.

Nicola, Allies in Recovery Member

January 7, 2023    I wanted to let you know that my beautiful daughter left our world on Friday 12/23. She was so happy and knew she was so loved. The last 18 months with her were the best. She was her true self and loving life. She had a new job she loved, attended numerous family events and vacations and thoroughly enjoyed every one. She was at such peace with herself. I cant thank you enough for all the support i received from you which inevitably resulted in our relationship being so great. The text picture I had sent to her that morning said “I’ve had the time of my life raising you” i meant it and she knew it. ♥.

help4t, Allies in Recovery Member

December 27, 2022     I share all of your [Allies in Recovery] posts to my Al-Anon home group because they are so smart and loving. Thank you for insight and support.

Theresa, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

November 30, 2022    During the 20 years of struggle and reprieve I don’t remember feeling as supported and sustained as I do now with Leah and Dominique working “in solidarity” with me.

Susan, Allies in Recovery Member

November 20, 2022      Allies in Recovery is a life saver and I have peace of mind knowing that it is there for me and so many others when needed.

Jennifer, Allies in Recovery Member

November 10, 2022       The content on the Allies in Recovery website is essential. We need this support for all parents in the community.

Tiffany, Allies in Recovery Member

November 8, 2022        I’ve been consistently impressed with the personalized attention Allies in Recovery has provided over the last several months. The tools I’ve learned from your website are empowering and it works. I had looked at many sites and investigated many groups, but unfortunately many I found to be based on emotion at best or on fear at worst. I’ve recommend the Allies website to my friends and clients on a regular basis as I’m confident others will receive the same unparalleled support that I’ve received. Your kind words, detailed guidance with the website, and ongoing encouragement have been so refreshing.

Ruby, Allies in Recovery Member

November 4, 2022      Allies in Recovery is a GREAT program! Thank you for hosting this training and sharing this knowledge with the community.

Patricia, Allie's CRAFT Training Participant

October 30, 2022     In the twenty years of struggle and reprieve I’ve experienced I don’t remember ever feeling as supported as I do now with Leah and Dominique working “in solidarity” with me. I am sending the Allies in Recovery team infinite gratitude for supporting me with this heavy burden.

Susan, Allies in Recovery Member

October 28, 2022      Thank you! We so appreciate Allies in Recovery and all you do. CRAFT is life changing work.

Molly, Allies in Recovery Member

October 24, 2022      I appreciate the help that Leah and Dominique provided me and my family. I have been bragging about Allies in Recovery to anyone that will listen! I’ve been attending the groups on a weekly basis for awhile now and find them very helpful. I find it incredibly beneficial to work on myself and change how I react to things. I feel this is the way forward for me and my family, and Allie’s training/support groups really help me.

Barbara, Allies in Recovery Member

October 22, 2022      I wanted to reach out with a huge thank you. This site and many of you have helped me and my husband dramatically. He has been alcohol free for almost two years. He is honest and forthright about his addiction. Our life is restored and better than its ever been. CRAFT really works. It’s logical, challenging and gives peace. Keep up the great work. Thanks again from the bottom of my heart.

Lucy, Allies in Recovery Member

October 20, 2022      I’ve taken several CRAFT trainings over the years and my training experience with Allie’s was by far THE BEST! I am a strong advocate of the CRAFT method and Allie’s’ training taught me more hands-on skills than any other. I walked away feeling more confident as a provider. Thank you!

Jeani, Allie's CRAFT Training Participant

October 17, 2022     I am so grateful for your time and expertise today, Leah and Dominique. I feel a sense of new found hope and purpose.

Joan, Allies in Recovery Member

October 6, 2022     I appreciate your generosity, and all that everyone at Allies in Recovery does to support those of us who have Loved Ones with substance use disorders.

Patricia M., Allies in Recovery Member

August 22, 2022     I cannot tell you what a thrill, honor & privilege it was to take part in this amazing training. I loved the content, the like-minded people & I am so eager to begin utilizing the new concepts & tools.

Linda A., Allie's CRAFT Training Participant

August 20, 2022     As a mother of a beautiful daughter that is in recovery and a son that is still working hard on his recovery, I THANK you for what you do, for the grace and sincerity in which you doo it. You have a gift in making a safe space to ask difficult questions and have real conversations. I also appreciated our group conversations and opening during the training. I really couldn’t have added anything to make it a better experience.

Lisa, Allie's CRAFT Training Participant

August 12, 2022    Love these emails [Broadcasts] with links! Over half of the specific topics you happen to send seem incredibly relevant to our situation NOW!

Jenny, Allies in Recovery Member

August 2, 2022    This is what I believe my HP [Higher Power] wanted me to see right now as we are facing a very similar situation today with our son. Thank you so much, Dominique, for this timely comfort. Thank you so very much for all you and your team are doing for parents and families. I am a very grateful mom.

Connie, Allies in Recovery Member

July 29, 2022   The meeting yesterday was so helpful to me, and I wanted to say thank you. The way you explained how punishment does not really work, how it hurts the relationship to be punitive, and what other options are better, really opened my eyes. Later in the day my son had come down and wanted to go to a party. We were able to have an open discussion about it and what would be there and how he would manage. I used your suggestions, and we ended in a really good place. The party was cancelled, but the honesty he had with telling me what was going on was just huge, and it was because of how I asked the questions.

Jess A., Allies in Recovery Member

July 25, 2022    I have completed most of the modules, I have 2 left.  I love your podcast and in-between doing the modules I have listened to your podcast and come to the blog looking for answers. I am planning to join one of the online support groups soon. Your site and resources have given me so much hope and support with my son’s SUD. Thank you!!

Kathy, Allies in Recovery Member

July 22, 2022   CRAFT and Vivitrol are helping over the last 5 months. At this point my loved one initiates discussion, primarily after drinking, brings up all sorts of things, including ideas about the future, and action items for both of us. Thanks for all you are doing!

Jenny H., Allies in Recovery Member

July 1, 2022    I am very glad to see the growth of Allies in Recovery. I appreciate the spirit of love and generosity with which you and your team have developed and shared the resources. CRAFT [ . . . ] was part of my journey toward my own recovery from abuse.

Barbara, Former Allies in Recovery Member

July 1, 2022    Can’t thank you enough for all you do, Dominique. I have become an unofficial ambassador for CRAFT and I’ve sent many your way. Things are going well now with my loved one – but you have NO IDEA how helpful you have been along the way. Bless you.

Jackie, Allies in Recovery Member

June 13, 2022    [T]hank you both [Laurie & Dominique] so much for your fantastic presentation on your work with the CRAFT model and alliesinrecovery.net. The students really appreciated your sincerity, warmth and tremendous insight into the psychological dynamics of addiction and ways by which families can change how they reward connectivity and detach when their loved one is using. I think that one of the most important points that stood out of your presentation is that we are dealing not with an addict only, but a real human being struggling in the quest for acceptance, validation, and self-worth.

 

Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch, LMFT

June 4, 2022   So pleased to see ‘CRAFT’. It makes all the difference.

Rhonda, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

May 27, 2022   These [Allies in Recovery “Coming Up For Air”] podcasts have the most helpful information for a family dealing with addiction. The hostesses are very knowledgeable and let you know you can cope with whatever situation you find yourself in. After listening to these three hosts for a year I now have hope for a better relationship with my loved one.

Pam, Comment via Allies in Recovery Facebook Page

May 18, 2022    [Allies in Recovery’s] response is very validating. I teared up a bit in gratitude. I think that my biggest struggle is with uncertainty about my thoughts and decisions and being a part of Allies in Recovery helps so much with this! I am also going to start seeing a counselor soon, and I think we are going to work on being honest with myself and not afraid to feel my feelsEvery now and then, I do feel joyful excitement for the way my life is right now.  I have lived in a way that I have to be vigilant and tiptoe around the lives of unstable family members for all of my 54 years, and I am seeing that I don’t actually need to live like that moving forward. It is a huge change.

blueskies22, Allies in Recovery Member

May 16, 2022   My condition for his return was that the opiates needed to go. I considered this harm reduction and put the weed, etc., issue aside. He has been seeing a counselor weekly and is on Suboxone. I learned about CRAFT from the Partnership to End Addiction. I found your organization, joined and worked on the modules. It has really been a lifesaver and I feel my relationship with my son has already improved.

stinkyvan1, Allies in Recovery Member

May 13, 2022   Good day! Thank you so much for the free membership. It has been so beneficial already. I have much to learn with a free membership. I have completed half of the modules. Thank you!

Karen, Allies in Recovery Member

May 9, 2022   This podcast has been a lifesaver for my husband and I as we struggle with our son’s active drug use. The concepts we’ve learned through listening to this podcast have given us actionable steps to take instead of feeling so helpless and have given us hope of being able to get our son into treatment someday. I hate to think where we would be if we hadn’t found “Coming Up for Air”.

CountryKim65, Apple Podcast Listener

May 7, 2022   I’ve written to you two other times and have been grateful for the support and service I have received. This group is the most gifted and talented group I have ever experienced. My adult son has come a long way in his journey with SUD. He has many supports and services and uses them well. However, he is struggling with a new aspect of this journey.

kspring, Allies in Recovery Member

April 18, 2022   Thank you very much for this information. You guys have been stellar with your actions and responsiveness.

William, Allies in Recovery Member

April 15, 2022   I’m getting a lot from the “Coming Up for Air” podcast. My partner suffers with alcoholism. This info is more useful and empowering for me than that offered in Al-Anon.

Poopnie, Apple Podcast Listener

April 1, 2022   I just signed up again after enjoying a free membership at the beginning of COVID. I am not in the thick of it any more. I lived with an active alcoholic for 30 years and we are still together and he has changed. I found that CRAFT changed my life for the better and I believe that my influence did help my loved one to get a handle on his drinking. He drinks once or twice a week at the most, and it is not excessive. He feels proud of himself and he tells me that he will never revert back to how he used to be. I am proud of him; it was a long and difficult road.

blueskies22, member

Feb 16, 2022   I have learned a ton about addiction through the “Coming Up for Air” podcast. 1. Provides ways to communicate with your loved one and more importantly how to communicate in general. I particularly liked podcast #69 with reflective listening. 2. Prior to having a loved one with addiction, I didn’t really understand addiction. Now that I have a better grasp of the disease, the resentment I had toward my daughter has disappeared. I am better able to respond rather than react. I am grateful for this podcast. Thank you!

Snowboarder Renee, Apple Podcast Listener

Feb 3, 2022   I am so, so pleased to find your site. Running across your site has been so inspiring to me as I truly believe in the CRAFT model and that it should be more accessible and widely used.

Lisa, Allies in Recovery Member

Jan 27, 2022   This has been a WONDERFUL resource, and I’m so grateful for all the resources you provide. You guys are doing wonderful work.

Allies, member

Jan 18, 2022   I am so happy to have found this website! I have had wanted to learn what to do in just about each situation in the modules. It’s like you have been to my house and able to see what is going on. As a Mom with a son with a substance abuse issues, I feel like I’ve found a place where I’m understood. Thank you.

Connie W, member

Dec 29, 2021  As a Clinical Social Worker and Family Addiction Coach I love everything about Allies in Recovery; including this podcast. With a 70% success rate of a loved one entering treatment, CRAFT is an approach my families find extremely valuable. Hearing from others through this podcast series who have recovered from the impact of addiction is useful on many levels. Well done!

pdoyle1, Apple Podcast Listener

Dec 23, 2021  Love the work you do!

Chrisjm17, member

Nov 21, 2021   I have already gained so much from the modules that I have watched and the podcasts coupled with what I know from SMART.

Casey50, member

Nov 15, 2021   I love the “Coming Up for Air” podcasts from Allies in Recovery. They offer clear, helpful, and relatable information for those of us who have a loved one with substance use disorder. I can’t thank them enough!

Hopefulin2018, Apple Podcast Listener

Nov 6, 2021   Thank you! Laurie MacDougall is an amazing support group leader & educator.  I have learned so much from Laurie’s online weekly support groups.

ConcernedCaliMom, member

Nov 4, 2021   I’m also grateful for the support I’ve received from Allies In Recovery and continue to refer clients and friends. I strongly believe in the value of alternatives or additions to the AA/Al-Anon model. Take care and thank you for the wonderful work you do!

lori2, member

Nov 1, 2021   I have enjoyed reading your emails. The information has tremendous value to me as I have been living with a son who is dealing with substance use problems. It is going to be a long journey, but I am starting to see him engage in doing work with his addiction councillor and group sessions.

Myslowice, member

Oct 20, 2021   Thank you for all that you and the team do in support of families like mine. Best wishes.

JodyD, member

Oct 17, 2021   Thank you Dominique for all your support and for everything you are doing for everyone on the site.

Chicagomom, member

Oct 13, 2021   Thanks for all you do!

Grace, member

Oct 12, 2021   Thanks again for all that you do. This site has been a blessing to me.

help4t, member

Sep 21, 2021   Thank you for this incredible program! My working the Allies in Recovery program and attending Al-Anon has allowed me to become more calm and stable and to begin building a better relationship with my young adult despite a household split.

green, member

Sep 17, 2021   I have been through the modules and I love listening to the coming up for air podcasts. Thank you for all you do. I have been using your site for some time and have appreciated the guidance, the REST groups, and the blog postings. Everything is so helpful. When listening to the podcasts, I have picked up so much more information that goes along with the modules.

Strawberry, member

Sep 13, 2021    My employer’s HR department is big on mental health care, so I’ve offered to collaborate on an internal email article to share Allies in Recovery with my colleagues. I wish I had come across it sooner, and if my employer had suggested it to me, I surely would have given it a try. I’m thrilled to help expose others who could benefit from it, in any way I can.

Thank you very much for the reply and help for my specific questions, and thanks for all the amazing resources via Allies in Recovery. I’ll post a reply once I’ve read and considered more carefully, but all your resources are incredibly comforting. All my appreciation and gratitude to everyone involved. Thank you.

ellecal, member

Aug 26, 2021   The resources on your site have been very helpful getting me through the past week, thank you.

ellecal, member

Aug 08, 2021    I cannot thank you enough for this sage advice and support. I understand that this sort of input can take time. We are working as best we can with our son and are remaining supportive as well as hopeful. Again, thank you so much. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

exhausted, member

Jul 20, 2021   Dominique, thank you for your response to my question back in April regarding my son and meth. I have read and reread the suggestions. This weekend, my son entered a dual diagnosis rehabilitation center. I would say it was about about 16 weeks of using CRAFT completely before he went in. Your modules have saved his life, thank you. The day he agreed to go, that morning I AGAIN reread the module on talking to him about treatment. The communication skills my husband and I have used for 16 weeks have changed this household since we now use reflective talk and affirmations. Laurie’s meetings are also priceless… and life saving. The decision making steps we use gives us a sense of confidence and direction that we are doing the right thing. I was afraid that I would eventually have to ask my son to leave the home. But I really didn’t understand that philosophy. How will I help him if I couldn’t show him love and support? Your program guided me on how to treat him and how to communicate with him and it really makes a difference. Thank you so much. Unfortunately, shortly after sending my original question, my son left the counselor that he was seeing. So I know the CRAFT steps are what really made a difference in his decision to go. I know we are in this for the long haul, and this is just the beginning, but him going to treatment is huge. Right after I read your blog response, it took about 4-5 days to solidify a list to have for him. When he was ready this weekend, I can not imagine what we would have done if we hadn’t been ready with the list. Not only did we have the list but insurance was approved for each of the places so the process this weekend was pretty smooth. Thank you again for your guidance and support. Allies in Recovery truly is saving my family’s life.

jl5549, member

Jul 2, 2021   Thank you. The Allies site has been a tremendous help to me and my husband. We are learning new ways to communicate with our son that are positive for everyone. Yes, it’s difficult but so worth it. Thank you again for being there. You’ve been a light in a 10+ year storm.

buckeyebunny, member

Jun 30, 2021   Thanks very much! Allies has been very helpful to me over the past several years. The modules, exercises, and personal advice have helped me navigate a difficult situation and improved relationships with family members so much. I really appreciate the site and recommend it whenever I find someone else in a similar situation.

mizkitty, member

Jun 23, 2021   I’ve been listening to the podcast “Coming up for air” daily and they have helped me so much. Baby steps, but I actually had my first “normal” nonexplosive phone conversation with my son in over 2 years. I used CRAFT techniques. He actually gave me some information that his “appointments” were NA meetings. He’s going 4 times a week. He still only initiates any communication when he has a problem or needs money, but it’s a start. Thank you for being here!

buckeyebunny, member

Jun 15, 2021   I really appreciate this site and work of Allies in Recovery. I’ve only known the Al-Anon and Codependency approach before. I’m finding it so helpful to see addiction and recovery in a new way. It is so liberating. And I’m so grateful. Thank you for your work.

johnsharpimages, member

Jun 4, 2021   Keeps me grounded and hopeful. I have learned a ton about addiction through the podcast. 1. Provides ways to communicate with your loved one and more importantly how to communicate. I particularly liked podcast #69 with reflective listening. 2. Prior to having a loved one with addiction, I really didn’t understand addiction. Now that I have a better grasp of the disease, the resentment I had toward my daughter has disappeared. Now I am better able to respond rather than react. I am so grateful for this podcast. Thank you!

Snowboarder Renee

Jun 2, 2021   Hello, I haven’t written in quite a while. My husband just passed his 6 month 100% sobriety. Our life is changing and healing before our eyes. The concepts I learned on this site about natural consequences and how and when to talk with my husband has dramatically changed my life. I have peace and stability, before he ever changed. Then I was able to really help. I encourage you to embrace and apply the learning here.

E320, member

May 25, 2021   Thank you for all you do.

willa, member

May 26, 2021   Laurie is a tremendous guiding light for both me and my husband as we continue on this journey with our son. I am learning boundaries and we are working on creating a functional analysis for a better understanding of the behaviors, their triggers and their respective outcomes both positive and negative . She is helping us navigate the CRAFT methodology. We are eternally grateful for Laurie and for Allies In Recovery as we continue on  this journey.

Jeanne, member

May 25, 2021   Thank you for the email, Dominique! Allies in recovery is very helpful for me.

elenagor, member

May 25, 2021   Thanks for your wonderful member site! It’s been a tremendous help to me 🙂

makethesunshine, member

May 19, 2021   Thank you for all your kind words and support, I didn’t realize how badly I needed to hear it. I’m so glad I found this site in 2019 when I did.

ccomtl2014, member

May 19, 2021   I enjoy reading these posts

Winni, member

May 19, 2021   This was such a helpful email! Thanks!

Pioneergirl17, member

May 19, 2021   Thank you for all of the valuable information. Truly appreciated

3Cats4488, member

May 18, 2021   Thank you!! I was telling my husband yesterday that there are still people in the world that care. Thank you for your time.

monica, member

May 12, 2021   The modules, podcast, and blogs have been very helpful, and I will keep growing and learning. Thank you for the support.

debbiebutcher, member

May 12, 2021   Please keep sending me your emails, there’s always something new to learn [on] how to navigate through our difficult circumstances. Thank you for your time spent on every advice given through email and through allies in recovery website.

Sami21, member

May 12, 2021   Thank you — I appreciate your words of wisdom. Please keep sending me emails.

BRAY.Lee B., member

May 12, 2021   Thank you for all you do!

1Sugarbear, member

May 10, 2021   Thanks for this program it has been a great support to me over the years.

jl5549, member

May 12, 2021   We find the regular updates extremely helpful. Thank you so much for the support you provide, even to us ‘over the pond’!

Jones, member

May 10, 2021    Thank you for this support.

flowergirl, member

May 10, 2021   Thanks for this program it has been a great support to me over the years.

jl5549, member

May 7, 2021   I can’t thank you enough for your website and helping me set these boundaries! I realize addiction is a roller coaster ride, but thank you for being on this ride with me! I know there will be setbacks, but I am so proud of him for taking these first steps in his recovery! Thank you again and God Bless All of You for allowing free access to your website!

Layla, member

May 7, 2021   Thank you so much for all of these suggestions and steps in setting up boundaries! I have been sticking to my boundaries with my 40 year old son and I am pleased to report he has taken the first steps to recovery! He has been 9 days sober and a completely different son and father to his two children, aged 10 and 11!

Layla, member

May 4, 2021   I appreciate so much your responses and all of the breakdown with recommendations you have made. It has been so helpful and so reassuring to just have someone to talk to and understand.

lbell, member

May 4, 2021    I’ll stay in touch and keep you updated. Again, thank you. I’m so appreciative of all the help and kindness that’s offered here. It means a lot.

LauraW, member

May 3, 2021   I am a member of Allies in Recovery and have greatly benefitted personally from my involvement in AIR and in Kayla Solomon’s support group.

sun8383, member

Apr 26, 2021   Thank you again for this excellent resource. . . . . I’m listening for wishes and dips, and they’re getting easier to recognize.

LauraW, member

Apr 23, 2021   Thank you so much for this response. I wish I had found this place earlier.

Jamp, member

Apr 17, 2021   I love going to the Allies site – it fills me up. A visit to the site always reminds me of the good side of humanity and our capacity to help each other through times of struggle. Whenever I need it, Allies is there, offering warmth, insight, and practical information I can use in my own life. The stories shared remind me I am not alone, and I always learn something helpful. Love you guys. Keep up the good work.

Giffy, member

Apr 16, 2021    I am so grateful for this site …lessons [from Module]  7 were great….and Podcast 74 was so helpful.

justbreathe, member

Apr 16, 2021   Thank you thank you thank you….I can’t say it enough.

justbreathe, member

Apr 6, 2021   I feel your understanding and compassion in this post and all the others I read here on Allies. . . . Thank you for replying to my post. Your whole team works incredibly hard and it makes Allies In Recovery a real force for good in families with SUD.

gptraveler, member

Apr 1, 2021   I am feeling so blessed to have hooked up with you and this site.  Allies in Recovery is a God-send to me and I can’t thank you enough.  We do not have anyone in my Province (Saskatchewan) who practices the CRAFT method.  I phoned many counselors and most had not even heard of it.  We do have an addictions counsellor for our school system in the province that uses components of it so I am happy to have found him.  Anyway, I want to thank you for your prompt and meaningful response.  I am so appreciative of everything that your organization does for people and the humility you show.  I have also started listening to the Podcasts which I find amazing.

Terrilyn, member

Mar 30, 2021   Thank you for your assistance. Your CRAFT modules provide guidance and support, thank you.

jl5549, member

Mar 23, 2021   “Thank you so much for addressing my concerns in this article. Your answer definitely gave me some much needed clarity. My husband and I have made a conscious effort to use more positive communication with our daughter in the past several months. I truly believe that this has contributed to her compliance & co-operative attitude toward drug court.”

LauraW, member

Mar 23, 2021   Hi there – I really appreciate the online course.  It is amazing.  I am current on “Whats going on with your loved one”.  Thank you!

Wakingdance, member

Mar 12, 2021   Thanks for all this food for thought. I find new gems with every visit.

gptraveler, member

Mar 7, 2021   Hello. First I would like to say thank you for this wonderful resource. Your site has been a great help and comfort to me already.

LauraW, member

Dec 18, 2020   The Allies in Recovery website has been very helpful to me on my own journey with my son and I have recommended your website to many friends and acquaintances. I am a big fan.

nannygoat715, member

Dec 15, 2020   I find the AiR site invaluable. It’s easy to understand and to make a part of one’s life. It helps to support the LO while focusing on the needs of their family (which is usually overlooked in other methodologies). I am truly grateful to have stumbled upon AiR and CRAFT. Thank you so much.

Paulette33, member

Dec 15, 2020   I love the site and am so very grateful for it. Thank you!

Lehni1, member

Dec 13, 2020   [T]he facility and the people have helped me work through quite a bit of my issues and I shall always be grateful for that. I say don’t change a thing, what you all have going there is a great thing.

yamantaka, member

Dec 13, 2020   It is hard to measure how much the program affected my loved one, but I know for me it helped me feel less terrified and gave me some hope.

fissured, member

Dec 13, 2021 I liked the advice about talking to your loved ones in a less confrontational manner.

sandra.bravo, member

Dec 13, 2020   I really enjoy reading the stories of how other parents deal with addiction in their families. It gives me hope that things can and will be better.

Aaronsmom, member

Dec 13, 2020 I am using the site a lot ….. I’ve really enjoyed Kayla’s group. I was learning a lot from Laurie’s group and then my schedule changed ….. I may join the Tuesday group. I’d love a Friday group. I like that the lessons are short and easy to return to! I’ve used all sections of the site and may do more journaling. Thank you for being here!

thePheasant, member

Dec 12, 2020   I so appreciate the tools I’ve learned to help navigate through this difficult journey of addiction with my loved one. I had been looking for this type of training/support for a very long time and am so grateful to have discovered Allies In Recovery earlier this summer. I have more confidence in knowing what my role is in all of this, than at any other time during this long and painful journey. I can’t thank the team at Allies enough for all the ways they come alongside to support family members of those struggling with SUD.

Hopeandhealing, member

Dec 11, 2020   I . . . really enjoy your podcast, it helps me when I’m feeling hopeless and at a loss of what to do next.

Moverly165, member

Dec 11, 2020   Hi, I have been a “lurker”, having visited Allies in Recovery (AIR) a great deal at the beginning when I found out the full extent my adult son’s drug use. As my son did not live at home, I felt at a loss to how I could influence anything. In my despair, I searched and found the AIR site. Voracious reading of the articles and elearning on AIR helped me realize that I could indeed move the needle in the direction of healing. I studied, and applied the advice I was learning step by step, and as consistently as I could. I started to gently bring the subject of inpatient rehab treatment. Speed up to today: after much love, prayers, talks, ups and many downs, my son has checked himself into an inpatient center. He is halfway through the 3 month program. He is learning so much and looking like his true self again. The program will continue for another 2 years after he “graduates” back into society. I and his brothers can and do meet with other program resident loved ones for the same amount of time. I know that there are always risks, but my son’s motivation is his own. As well, this situation is vastly better than the alternatives. All of this to say that AIR helped me take the first steps in learning what to do. That we loved ones can influence our addicted family members. THANK YOU AIR!!!    – Laura xo    

Laura3, member

Dec 10, 2020   My son is now 18 months sober and active in treatment!! It was helpful to have a script or suggestions as to what to say when situations became difficult.

luckyrose, member

Dec 10, 2020   Your site was tremendously helpful for me during my son’s using and recovery, over 3 years ago now. It guided me through a profound change in how I saw my son, myself and all persons who suffer, not just addicts. It taught me in a step by step way to meet suffering with compassion and an open heart. I continue to use what I learned on AIR in so many situations and have passed on the techniques to others often giving you the credit you deserve. I hope that the changes I was able to make with your help on this site had an influence on my son’s choice to stop using.  I’m guessing you would like to see that link established as well. But I was only his Ally and can’t speak for what finally got him to long term Recovery. The most positive thing was that your site gave me hope when I feared there was none. Thank you for changing my life.

momdog, member

Dec 9, 2020   Your site is excellent.

Lynne72, member

Dec 9, 2020   I like allies in recovery because, although I never gave up hope that my son would find his way into recovery, it gave me ideas and tools to help him and of course reminded me how important it is to look after myself. Here in England I was only ever told that by giving my son food and shelter that I was enabling him and that I should detach. I tried to find out how to detach with love and was met with silence.  Allies gave me structure for a way forward. Allies gave me positivity and the resolve to carry on. It endorsed my belief in the kind of support I was giving my son. . . . My son is 27. His addictions were heroin and cocaine. In recovery 18 months taking a low dose of methadone. Living alone nearby. He is managing his life. I’m enjoying one day at a time and I’m sure he is too. With thanks and kind regards. 

Christophina, member

Dec 9, 2020   The resources available are very helpful including the Wednesday night group.  I have learned a lot about this disease thanks to this organization.

jdaggett, member

Dec 9, 2020   Relevant topics. Ability to ask a question and receive an answer which are always relevant. Training modules are great. Site is well organized  I’ve recommended it to many people. I facilitate a support group for family and friends through Smart Recovery.

Millicent, member

Dec 9, 2020   The Wednesday night group with Kayla is extraordinarily helpful. I haven’t missed one since I started. I consider attending the group an essential part of my own recovery as a mom of son with SUD. I am deeply appreciative of Allies for offering this incredible service. The website is very good also: modules, discussion section. I have reached out to so many resources and what you offer is at the absolute top.

maunalani, member

Dec 9, 2020   Our LO has not yet reduced use or gone into treatment, but I believe that what we have learned is helping us be an influence for good in those directions and would help us better support continued participation in treatment.  This has been enormously helpful. We still have a long ways to go, but we are in a much better position to walk the journey with our LO. Thank you! I/we have moved on to additional resources aligned with CRAFT approach as well. We absolutely love the spirit and content of Dominique’s videos. It is really helpful for me to see things conceptually laid out on paper as well. We studied the printed training materials with benefit, but I ended up creating my own high-level outline of how all the pieces and parts fit together. That high-level conceptual framework is helpful in additional to the training. It would not mean much without understanding the underlying background details, but once those details are understood it is such a helpful quick reference, especially when trying to share within someone else. Thank you! You do incredible work.

Cyclist, member

Dec 8, 2020   Great site, thanks for creating it!!

mich, member

Dec 8, 2020   Excellent suggestions in how to change my behavior and reactions and make plausible suggestions. Really respected us as individuals. Easy access and practical website with excellent tools to understand my loved one and actually constructively help. Gave me hope.

Tacysick, member

Dec 8, 2020   I love AiR. It’s been a veritable godsend and I don’t know what I’d have done this year without it. Even when I don’t visit, I think of it and use what I’ve learned every day. This has turned out to be one of the best years of my life — I’m not even bothered by the way the world seems to be in crisis and collapsing, because my own personal growth and productivity has been so enormously substantial. CRAFT is real.  I love the updates from various members, I love that we have the ability to contact each other, I love the ongoing blog posts with advice for people in current situations — I’ve made use of them in applying to my own life and situation. Of course the modules are fantastic, both in video and PDF form — I use both. I wish we could turn AiR into a CRAFT testbed — like the call for effective texts for dealing with a Loved One was great, I wish we could have more feedback and participation with that so that we could build an effective and proven CRAFT toolbox for dealing with situations.

michael111, member

Dec 7, 2020   Amazing resource. Dominique has been an angel for our family, guiding us through very rough waters, giving us hope along the way and guiding us toward the light. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!!

tharting, member

Dec 7, 2020   The short videos make it extremely easy to stop and start based on my availability. It also makes it easy for me to go back and review the ones I need. I first looked at your site about a year ago. On the advice of a friend. This time I was able to go through it all at once which was extremely helpful. For me, the most important learning point was your advice to determine whether they are using, or not using. Your video referred to the supplemental information. That taught me that sometimes my son is using and is way out of control. But at other times, he is using only a little bit to maintain, to prevent going through withdrawl. Your information taught me to engage with him during those times and provide a connection so he can ask for help. Before that, if I saw any alcohol at all, I reacted out of fear. I would disconnect. Or I would lash out in anger. That would drive him to want to drink more. Your information taught me when he is just maintaining to engage with him, provide the connection. Allow him to ask for help. I will be returning to your site and looking at more of your information when I get a chance. Thank you so much.

Friskey1, member

Dec 7, 2020   You are doing amazing work. Beyond words you reach those suffering the deepest pain and suffering I believe a human being can experience. Those that have not lived with and through this will never know. God Bless You All and Thank You

Rhylie84, member

Dec 7, 2020   I have been involved with Harm Reduction and AIR since the beginning of my work at Baystate Brightwood Health Center for CMA, then morphing into CCA then as an independent consultant. The people in my life who have sought assistance getting and staying sober have benefitted from the community based treatment and the understanding that the problems are multifaceted and require a multi-pronged approach. AIR understands both the simplicity and complexity of its way of working. I appreciate the AIR COMMUNITY.

memeenglish, member

Dec 6, 2020   I absolutely love it.. it gives me strength and guidance to try to help my daughter get through the hardest pain She (and I) have ever gone through in life .

GrammaH, member

Dec 6, 2020   Love the support & tools I have learned! Thank you, thank you!

ConcernedCaliMom, member

Dec 5, 2020   I like the encouragement and solace. I like having a place to turn when I’m despairing and feeling desperate.

Daisygrace, member

Dec 5, 2020 I feel like the Allies in Recovery/CRAFT model is an incredibly valuable program to help families learn more about ways to approach the issue of their loved one’s addiction more effectively with their loved one, and in teaching people how to maintain a relationship in the healthiest possible way with their loved one regardless of whether the family member is is treatment or not. I believe it is a “sane” alternative to the rigid “tough love” advice that many people get from numerous (often well-meaning but uninformed) sources (which not only can be unhelpful but also dangerous). The entire website is easy to navigate, has great educational and support aspects, and a very helpful interactive component that I think allows members to immediately feel heard and understood, and to actually hear back from someone when they are struggling with how alone, lost, confused and desperate they feel. And I want to stress that I have found the Weds night support groups with Kayla to be INVALUABLE!  I am saying this from the perspective of having been involved in multiple different support groups in the community over the last 20 years (which have all been helpful in their own ways), but having a clinician-led group offers something very different and important. I truly come away from every single group with new insights and ideas about how to move forward in a healthier way with my daughter. I’m not overstating it when I say the entire experience with AIR and the support group has been life-changing for me. I am very grateful for all of you. You are changing and saving lives every day.

sun8383, member

Dec 5, 2020 I studied the program several years ago and found it to make a lot of sense to me.

DaveM, member

Dec 4, 2020   The site is excellent with really useful material. . . . Our LO doesn’t live with us and is at some distance so it is more difficult to apply some of the suggested approaches. . . . Overall, Allies in Recovery provides great support for those coping with loved ones with addiction issues.

Jones, member

Dec 4, 2020   I am Aunt of loved one. . . . Allies in Recovery has been extremely helpful for me to support my sister and gain insight and understanding on substance abuse disorder. I forwarded the link to her and her husband, and they have also been helped by AIR.

Allies in Recovery member

Dec 2, 2020    The short videos make it extremely easy to stop and start based on my availability. It also makes it easy for me to go back and review the ones I need. I first looked at your site about a year ago. On the advice of a friend. This time I was able to go through it all at once which was extremely helpful. For me, the most important learning point was your advice to determine whether they are using, or not using. Your video referred to the supplemental information. That taught me that sometimes my son is using and is way out of control. But at other times, he is using only a little bit to maintain, to prevent going through with drawl. Your information taught me to engage with him during those times and provide a connection so he can ask for help. Before that, if I saw any alcohol at all, I reacted out of fear. I would disconnect. Or I would lash out in anger. That would drive him to want to drink more. Your information taught me when he is just maintaining to engage with him, provide the connection. Allow him to ask for help. I will be returning to your site and looking at more of your information when I get a chance. Thank you so much.

Friskey1, member

Dec 2, 2020   It’s definitely a more powerful tool for me rather than impacting my loved one (except, indirectly through my boundaries and wisdom gleaned.)  Keep up the good work. We’re all in this together.

StrongerTogether, member

Dec 2, 2020   I learned so much from this site and showed me that I am not alone. . . . It has helped me immensely and I am so satisfied with all aspects of the website.

mysam, member

Dec 1, 2020   I like the use of real stories and the experiences of all the people who have gone through this

jflan16, member

Dec 1, 2020   I love the support from other members. When I make comments someone always responds. I also like to read/understand what other people are going thru.  Music, videos – love those!  You offer alot of help. I wish there was a support group using Allies in Recovery principles.

1delapisa, member

Dec 1, 2020   The site is fantastic. I really like all of the questions from the community (and the organized list of overlapping topics that can help focus on those that are the most pertinent). Talking to a peer counselor and joining the Zoom meetings (when I can fit them in) were especially helpful during times of crisis. The podcast is also a great way of getting information while doing other tasks throughout the day and night.

lbprof4, member

Nov 30, 2020   Thank you for what you do to support families and people struggling with substance use!  I appreciate your direct, honest language.

Suellen, member

Nov 30, 2020   Listen to podcasts regularly. I use your site regularly. (I’d appreciate) more podcasts interviewing parents that have success with their youth and addiction. I enjoy email prompts with updates. . . . My struggle is with teens so that is what I look for. Melissa Ethridge was great. Your sanctuary section offers joy. Loved the monk interview too. Grateful for your site! You do a great job. Addiction journey is not fun so finding meaning is important. I listen to Tara Brach for my sanity too. Blessings.

seagerw, member

Nov 30, 2020  [ I appreciate] the journal, the group, the feedback I have received when I post a problem…

blueskies, member

Nov 30, 2020   When we first realised that our child had an addiction, there was so much anger, disbelief and sorrow. We felt that our child was completely to blame and had willingly chosen this path, so we just wanted him to stop. AIR has given me a completely different perspective on substance use, and has put our whole family ‘on the same team’ instead of a constant battle full of hate, blame and shame, which was just driving us further apart. We now again see our loved one as just that, the person behind the addiction. I would like to thank AIR for their invaluable guidance.

Joey, member

Nov 30, 2020   I find the program very helpful and have recommended it to others.

jbt4551, member

Nov 30, 2020   My loved one refuses to get formal help, he insists he will do this his way in his time.  Every time I go to Allies in Recovery I have found the videos to be supportive with practical ideas on how I can adjust my reactions. I need to do it more, that is the only thing that helps me, so I can respond in a way to him that is productive and feels good to me, and could have something in it for him. And I don’t know if my son will ever seek formal help, so I just need to keep growing. When I sink into immature behavior (lashing back, saying something hurtful when I am cooked or tired of the stupid routine) it never helps either of us. It feels like such a long haul, but going to the site always gives me a little boost if I can find the right slot in the Allies site.

natvnatr, member

Nov 30, 2020

I love this site and what it offers. 

Linang2328, member

Nov 30, 2020   I found this site extremely helpful in finding support/resources as the sister of an opioid addict/alcoholic. It didn’t necessarily change anything for him or our relationship but it did help me gain a better understanding of how I can respond differently than I have been/take a different approach.

saryan, member

Nov 29, 2020   AIR has been a total game changer. Not only have I learned how to better communicate with my loved one, but I also have better communication with others in my world. There are so many little instances when the tools of AIR guide me. The focus on self care has been really important. I never gave it a thought, always thinking of everyone else and not seeing how it impacted my whole being. I needed to add self care into my daily life. I have shared AIR multiple times and in multiple meetings and I see folks who have found it helpful as well. There are lots of forums “out there” where people share their experiences. I see AIR as something different. It’s about experts giving the advice and guidance. . . .  I feel better leaving all the feedback to the experts. It is of tremendous benefit to have the content vetted in that way. I use other sites for conversations.

gptraveler, member

Nov 29, 2020   Allies in Recovery has been extremely helpful for me to support my sister and gain insight and understanding on substance abuse disease. I forwarded the link to her and her husband, and they have also been helped by AIR.

Allies in Recovery member

Nov 28, 2020   My son continues to struggle but my sanity is much improved knowing I am not the only one and the only true act I can engage in is to put on my oxygen mask first and find ways to enjoy my life while my son figures his own life out based on natural consequences.

Ella312, member

Nov 28, 2020   I like the concept and principles of helping when the person is wanting help and helping themselves and backing off when they are not. It’s not all or nothing.  It leaves room for hope. It leaves room to not completely give up and turn your back on the person who is in addiction. It also helps to understand that they can’t hear you when you are ranting angry and mad.

Motherof2, member

Nov 28, 2020   I am fairly new to implementing CRAFT but in less than one year of implementing in baby steps there is a definite improvement in our relationship, in the way we speak to each other, which has led to him to confide in me more and me being able to see things in a different light when it comes to why he does the things he does and how I can help him to see things about himself that may be holding him back. It’s a phenomenal site for both education about CRAFT and learning how to be supportive without being too naive or too domineering towards your family member that is battling their disease of Substance Use.

tinasteven, member

Nov 27, 2020   I love the format . . . and plan to run through these (modules) several times.

ALavendar, member

Nov 27, 2020   I feel like the Allies in Recovery/CRAFT model is an incredibly valuable program to help families learn more about ways to approach the issue of their loved one’s addiction more effectively with their loved one, and in teaching people how to maintain a relationship in the healthiest possible way with their loved one regardless of whether the family member is is treatment or not. I believe it is a “sane” alternative to the rigid “tough love” advice that many people get from numerous (often well-meaning but uninformed) sources (which not only can be unhelpful but also dangerous). The entire website is easy to navigate, has great educational and support aspects, and a very helpful interactive component that I think allows members to immediately feel heard and understood, and to actually hear back from someone when they are struggling with how alone, lost, confused and desperate they feel. And I want to stress that I have found the Weds night support groups with Kayla to be INVALUABLE! I am saying this from the perspective of having been involved in multiple different support groups in the community over the last 20 years (which have all been helpful in their own ways), but having a clinician-led group offers something very different and important. I truly come away from every single group with new insights and ideas about how to move forward in a healthier way with my daughter. I’m not overstating it when I say the entire experience with AIR and the support group has been life-changing for me. I am very grateful for all of you. You are changing and saving lives every day.

sun8383, member

Nov 27, 2020   I like the option of continuing to support my son when I can. That I can continue to show him love and support and not just throw him out with no contact. I haven’t practiced the techniques enough to be able to use them, but the practices give me hope.

mamaof2, member

Nov 26, 2020  Having completed the CRAFT program in August, I have been successful in using most of the skills I learned. I found the workshops and exercises to be relevant and helpful. My loved one is currently in treatment and although I am nervous about her aftercare, I am hopeful that my CRAFT experience will be one of the tools that will guide me through this difficult phase.

Kathy Gets Help, member

Nov 26, 2020   I have been supported 100% for the first time during this debilitating journey. I have felt validated and loved and supported here. I have been given amazing tools for communication – which in turn has allowed my daughter to trust me, open up to me and her drug use has lessened. She comes to me now – communication is key in facilitating the end result to counseling/treatment. Thank you so very much.

Tmas, member

Nov 25, 2020   Your program helped me as a grandparent alot, my grandson is a senior in high school. Getting these kids away from the peers involved with their addiction to help break the cycle. Takes months and constant support and monitoring.  Thank you for your help.

Sherry, member

Nov 25, 2020   Thank you. It is an excellent and much needed resource, for families who are devastated by an addicted loved one’s behaviour.

meikerman, member

Nov 25, 2020   The blogs posts are exceptional. I run a support group in Waukesha, Wisconsin and share this information regularly. Wish I could come up with more for you, but I am so impressed with the work you are doing that I don’t think I could improve it. Thank you for making it available to everyone during COVID. I think that several of my family members have used the resource for that reason.

Xueling, member

Nov 25, 2020   I really appreciated the responsiveness when I first joined. I posted a question and was almost immediately answered. The suggested plan of action helped immensely.

Allies in Recovery member

Nov 25, 2020   I have in fact referred these time-strapped parents/guardians to AiR’s videos… and actually viewed with my program’s support group members in order to convey within my encouragement as a Peer-Supporter that the Videos model more generous communication even outside the dynamics of one family member/partner/loved one’s abusing alcohol/substances…Merci mille fois!

espoirmoi, member

Nov 24, 2020    The concepts were so helpful and simply taught in the videos. Alanon and personal work were also a pre-requisite to be able to stay connected and kind through the use and brief moments of non use. I believe following your advice helped our relationship with him in a way that helped him break through and seek recovery. It is also helping us stay focused on his and our recovery rather than getting caught up in other things that concern us or annoy us which feels very important to our son feeling supported and connected to us. We are so grateful!

araescott, member

Nov 24, 2020   Everything about your program has been helpful, especially the REST meeting. It really has been a life saving program.

abc123, member

Nov 24, 2020   I particularly appreciate the examples of how not to and how to communicate with my Loved One, as well as the guidelines on how to encourage my Loved One to get and stay sober by reducing our interactions when my Loved One is using. I also particularly appreciate the efforts to help me be less stressed out.

jamesb1616, member

Nov 23, 2020   I like the approach of trying to understand and help loved one and to make loved one feel we are listening to them. It helped me a lot with my communication and what to say to my loved one. Also when to pull back. I appreciate the support with Laurie and Kayla.

Kate44, member

Nov 23, 2020   The site was easy to use. Easy to understand language and role play was really good. I have been able to use some of the techniques and explain to others what I had learned to assist them. Overall really happy with the program!

arynders, member

Nov 23, 2020    It helped me become better at communicating with my loved one.

gcinac, member

Nov 23, 2020   The information is presented well and is helpful. 

Lingli, member

Nov 22, 2020  The elearning lessons are fantastic. I go back to them over and over. I like how I can listen or read them when I’ve needed to do this privately. You have all been very responsive on the discussion blog. I greatly value your encouraging manner. The links to other posts are helpful also.

E320, member

Nov 22, 2020   Great site!

Amy_Gold, member

Nov 22, 2020   The site is a very helpful blend of information. The level of detail in the Q & A posts make them really relatable and applicable because they explain a solid framework for CRAFT. I like the Sanctuary because it is refreshing and touching. Podcasts are wonderful because they give inside scoop on people and addiction. . . . I find the emails highlighting specific things to check out beneficial.

Mostlysunny, member

Nov 21, 2020   I enjoy being able to read the modules online. They have been extremely helpful to me, and I’ve adopted quite a few of the suggested techniques.

resolve, member

Nov 09, 2020   Great Resource. A key find for anyone struggling with helping a loved one that is suffering from Substance Abuse Disorder and all that goes with it. Highly recommend!

Mom whisper

Sep 03, 2020   Empowering resource. I’m getting a lot of help from this podcast. My partner suffers from alcoholism. This info is more useful and empowering for me than that offered in Alanon.

Poopnie

Aug 22, 2020   If I hadn’t been introduced to John Fitzgerald (via a professor at PSU), I would not have connected with Allies in Recovery in fall 2018 — when L was on the streets. Without Allies, I wouldn’t have known how to stay connected to her, take care of myself, and guide her to treatment.  She survived because of you and the guidance you provided.

fireweed, member

May 15, 2020   Thank you for this post. I came to Allies in Recovery almost 2 years ago as the second stop (SAMHSA was first) on my journey as a parent of someone struggling with their SUD. How fortunate that my early learning took place here. I learned much of the language early on and the tone of conversations here were full of hope and compassion for our LOs. My daughter is skittish by nature so the language I use is especially important. I don’t get the full honesty from her that I would like but I understand that honest communication is too revealing for her at times. I am responsible for me and my choices, including the language I carefully choose. Finding CRAFT has helped build a foundation built on love and hope. Thanks again for this thoughtful post.

gptraveler, member

Apr 20, 2020   Thanks for the reminders. AIR never lets me down.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Apr 20, 2020   My son is not in recovery, but our relationship has improved in the last few months because I’ve changed thanks to AIR and CRAFT.

Hopefulin2018, member

 

Apr 4, 2020   The CRAFT methods, personal coaching and this website have been a savior for me. I appreciate all the support.

1mgrn1, member

 

Mar 19 2020   Thank you to everyone here at Allies in Recovery for creating a program for families and friends so we can be resilient to hard times and get back to our own recovery more quickly. That resilience has been key for me.

gptraveler, member

 

Mar 19 2020   So, having one day of the bad news behind me, I am moving on to some work I am responsible for, my own self-care. I will once again dive back into the modules and do some thinking on all the positive things I can think and do. I understand that relapse can happen and even shared that knowledge with my daughter months ago so she would be up front about it if it happened and not protect me overmuch. She has quoted that a number of times in the past and each time I think she was testing my reaction. She knows we love and understand; she even said that in her text. One less burden for her I hope.

gptraveler, member

Dec 19, 2019   Dominique, I have recommended AIR to many families who need it. It’s a very valuable and practical resource. Keep up the fine work!

silver15, member

Nov 21, 2019   Valuable support for families with addiction. As a clinical social worker and family addiction coach I love everything about Allies in Recovery; including this podcast. With a 70% success rate of a loved one entering treatment, CRAFT is an approach my families find extremely valuable. Hearing from others through this podcast series who have recovered from the impact of addiction is useful on many levels. Well done Annie and Laurie!

pdoyle1

Nov 15, 2019   Wanted to provide you a quick update. K is now in University since September and doing really great from what we can tell. She is clear and focused when we speak to her regularly and appears to be the same personality we remember from the past. She is also doing well in school academically and is fully back into what she loves, being actively engaged in her sailing team. I believe she has had no more contact with her boyfriend and have gotten confirmation from some of her friends. She is coming back for Thanksgiving as well as Christmas. We are obviously thrilled and excited about all these positive developments and happy to be able to focus on our younger son a little more and have normalcy back at home. Can’t thank you enough to have supported us getting to this point.

tharting, member

Mar 14, 2019    A MUST! I love the Coming Up for AIR podcasts from Allies in Recovery. They offer clear, helpful, and relatable information for those of us who have a loved one with substance use disorder. I can’t thank them enough!

Hopefulin2018

Mar 08, 2019   A podcast that knows what impact addiction has. I really look forward to these podcasts. They are so educational and I can relate easily. It is comforting to listen to people who have been or are going through a similar experience.

shelleybelly1962

Feb 23, 2019   Great for families. Such an open and honest podcast dealing with the desperation’s families face with addiction!

lcmac11

All in all I feel she is moving forward and what I have learned and put into play from ALLIES IN RECOVERY is working great for us.

Allies in Recovery member

I have used your learning skills on my son. These skills have given me a great understanding of addiction and ways to communicate with my son. My son has responded to my behavior and has really opened up to me in regards to his addiction. The most important role you played was teaching me the skills getting him into treatment. THANK YOU!

Allies in Recovery member

Your site has been such a positive force for my well being and in turn for my daughter’s recovery. Thank you for all your work.

kc812, member

THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH – I don’t know what I would do without you.

Tmas, member

 

I cannot say thank you enough for these resources and this Allies in Recovery community – so supportive and eye opening. A total game changer when it comes to removing this weight I didn’t fully realize I’ve been carrying around since childhood.

briar, member

 

I believe in your program and recommend it above and beyond anything else out there. I believe your methods and training is an answer for many.

Kaleo60, member

 

My reason for joining this group was to first figure out how to talk to an addict and the modules were so helpful. I’m now aware that my negative, hopeless, desperate comments weren’t appropriate in making her want to seek help.

jenniferp, member

  

I have only just begun to delve in and I already have learned so much.

outofoptions, member

 

 

Thank you sooo kindly for the amazing, well thought out response with amazing insight.

Tmas, member

 

[P]ractical direction here is helping greatly. We’ve had a few dramatic bumps but progress is clear. . . . I’m no longer afraid, but calm. I have let go of the shame and am embracing the road I’m on. Very strikingly several dear friends who know our whole situation haven’t shunned us as I expected, but love and believe in both my husband and me. It’s worth coming out of the dark and letting people carefully and gradually in.

My husband is in earlyish recovery. I’m learning how to regulate my responses and take care of myself. I’m becoming calm as I’m more confident in my thoughts, actions and responses. And I’m more confident in that he will respond well and recover. What I’m learning here is helping so much. I really appreciate the honesty and practical insight with alliesinrecovery.

E320, member

Thank you so much for this guidance and direction, it’s honestly invaluable. I don’t know where I would be without this site, it’s not easy to find CRAFT informed guidance for loved ones where I live. Cruising through all of the topics on the discussion board that relate to the situation is helping a lot too, along with always circling back to the modules. Thanks for your time and for this resource.

ccomtl2014, member

 

My experience here at AIR has been nothing short of a life-line in the storm.

Rhylie84, member

 

I cannot describe how supported I feel by all of you.

Mountain Laurel, member

 

I feel so much more prepared for whatever comes my way, so I don’t need to be afraid. Wow, what a great adjustment. I’m confident in how I’ll think and respond if needed, so I can enjoy the progress, support my husband and really take care of myself each day. Thinking well has leveled my emotions dramatically. I have to say it worth every bit of work if it only had helped me. But I am so thankful for the part I have been able to do to help my husband too. So this is my encouragement to all here that this insight and instruction can really work and change the dynamic of your life.

E320, member

 

I am so impressed with what I am seeing. I have encouraged my entire family to sign up today. This will be a fabulous learning resource for us to share together. After researching for months/years I feel like we have found a place to call home. Thank you!

Cyclist, member

 

First off, I have to say the free group and this whole website, I can’t say how lost I would be without this site. I had read Beyond Addiction by Foote and the gang, and Get Your Loved One Sober by Meyers in 2016 or so, but the exercises on the website and the chance to have personalized feedback brought my understanding to a whole new level.

ccomtl2014, member

Outside of my professional role, I am a member of Allies in Recovery myself, as I have an adult daughter who has suffered with an Opioid Use Disorder for the last 14 years. I can’t tell you how helpful Allies in Recovery has been for me.

D.H., Substance Abuse Coordinator, Western Massachusetts

 

Thanks so much! I have a lot of good things to think about from your post. Allies has been such a help and comfort to me. The good vibes that are so abundantly in and around my life right now are absolutely due to CRAFT.

michael111, member

 

Thank you SO much for your incredibly thoughtful and thorough response to my question! I feel so relieved just reading it, and I am going to read and do the modules you suggested. I really feel supported and heartened to know you took such care in crafting a response to my particular situation.

BrownU96, member

 

Thank you for your labor of love!

Site visitor

 

Hi: Thank you so much for the very thorough and detailed information. So very helpful. I will certainly go back to the modules. Our son is currently not using (other than pot) and is taking his suboxone to help with cravings. One day at a time. You have certainly given me more valuable information and my husband has read the blog already so progress right there! Hoping to get my other son to read also as he is young and does take things personally. In a world where you don’t always know where to turn for help, this has been immensely helpful in dealing with a horrific situation. Thank you again for taking the time to advise and guide me in these unchartered waters!

momoftwins, member

 

Thank you! Your response is thoughtful and lovely. Without a doubt, I will read it and reread it over and over again, especially over the next few months and I know it will help get me through this challenging time. Every suggestion is so valid and helpful. Thank you very much!

blueskies, member

Great video! Very powerful.

Allies in Recovery member

 

You are an enormous help and comfort. Thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you very much. I also used the CRAFT method to have the talk with him on Wednesday, and that was what allowed him to open up and talk a bit and then agree to get more help.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I sincerely hope that more and more people, who are dealing with addiction, will discover CRAFT to help their loved ones. I realize that we are just starting on a path to recovery but feel CRAFT was a big help thus far already.

Allies in Recovery member

 

He seems genuinely happy and he is sober. He calls it starting his new life. We are happy for him. Thank you so much for helping us get to this point.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you first of all for this support and the offerings I see available here.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Your [responses] ground me and give me a rational approach to [jim’s] problems.

Allies in Recovery member

 

All in all I feel she is moving forward and what I have learned and put into play from ALLIES IN RECOVERY is working great for us.

Allies in Recovery member

 

On the good side, use seems to be way, way down since Feb 1st.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I love this site.

Allies in Recovery member

I … found [your post] exceptionally helpful and well thought out. I’d like to thank you for the time and effort that you obviously put into it.

Allies in Recovery member

 

[This site] is so hopeful in what seems like a hopeless situation much of the time. Thank you so much for all you have done and continue to do.

Allies in Recovery member

You guys went to work with me on everything with the ultimate goal of maintaining the family unit…

Allies in Recovery member

 

You taught me how to give positive feedback, how and when to withdraw, when to disengage, [and] how to temper my anger so that we didn’t do ‘the same old stuff.’

Allies in Recovery member

 

Your comments are very helpful and the sample language is very much appreciated.

Allies in Recovery member

WOW, I cannot believe I am reading what you wrote. This is exactly what I needed and cannot thank you enough.

momoftwins, member

 

I am so grateful for the resources here on this site. Thank you to all who have worked to make this available.

Carla, member

 

I’m not sure if you understand how valuable your recommendations are to me. During crises like this I truly appreciate your input.

bigfluffydog2, member

 

I love the way CRAFT uses words in a positive way.

momoftwins, member

Your website has been extremely helpful for me and I really felt it’s been the best resource ever offered to families struggling with addiction issues.

Rcvr, member

[Your website]… is excellent. I’m particularly impressed with how professional and creative you’ve made it. Even the artwork is wonderful. But most of all, your passion, compassion, competence and love for the visitor…is abundantly clear. I think your site will be very helpful for the families of those struggling with substance abuse. I personally found it educational and inspiring.

Andrew Agwunobi, MD

You are doing important and necessary work. [I feel] great gratitude.

Mary, member

I can’t tell you how impressed I am by your message! . . . You should be proud. What you do is so important.

Dr. Lina Racicot, Director of Graduate Psychology, American International College

 

I want to say THANK YOU for your thoughtful comment to my concern. You really understand what I am going through.

Kpeters, member

 

I appreciate the variety of support and information Allies in Recovery offers

Allies in Recovery member

 

I’m very happy to find this site, this approach … I feel like I’m finally connected to people and information that can help me help my daughter.

kttrend, member

 

Thank you for the courage to take a stance on this sensitive subject and to open the door for discussion!

Allies in Recovery member

 

Hello, this site is an incredible resource, so well organized and so well thought out.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you ALLIES IN RECOVERY you are wonderful!

Allies in Recovery member

This is a wonderful site, there is so much to learn…

Allies in Recovery member

 

I appreciate your site so much. It’s brought me such peace of mind and guidance.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thanks again Dominique. You’re a wonderful human being to be able to develop a site that helps so many!

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you so much for your kind and wise response!

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

I am so grateful for this support. This is exactly what I need.

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

This [post] was so very clarifying and helpful, thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

 

This [post] was extremely helpful and eye-opening – how to use the site and behaviors I need to change. Thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

Thank you does not even begin to express how much I appreciate your support.

Allies in Recovery member

 

Thank you very much for this resource. I had wished for something exactly like this.

Hope, member

 

An amazing website!

Director of a Family Support Services Facility

 

I am so grateful for all your guidance and support! Thank you just doesn’t seem enough.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I am so grateful to have found Allies in Recovery as a source of support and education so I can better understand my daughter’s addiction and recovery.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I thank Dominique so much for the support she has given.

mlb2t, member

 

By following the CRAFT modules and blogs on this site, along with help from Dominique and her team I am happy to say that my family is flourishing.

help4t, member

Thank you Dominique and CRAFT. We are so, so blessed.

Allies in Recovery member

 

I am enjoying learning about the CRAFT method and finding it really valuable…..Keep up the great work, and thank you.

Allies in Recovery member

 

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