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After 15 Years, Billy Succumbed

After 15 Years, Billy Succumbed

Billy died this month, leaving his mother heartbroken. mlb2t has requested that donations be made to Allies in Recovery in his name — The William John Bertrand Fund has now been set up. If you wish to contribute, please send us a message here.

How Do I Show Him Love When He Avoids Me?

How Do I Show Him Love When He Avoids Me?

Is your Loved One avoiding you, despite your good intentions? Have communications deteriorated between you? Does it feel like a lost cause? Here are some ideas for gently turning the tide and moving back towards a loving relationship.

I Feel Like I’ve Failed Her

I Feel Like I’ve Failed Her

Does it feel like you’ve given years of your life battling your Loved One’s addiction? Have you spent endless energy helping them and making things better for their kids? Do you feel like you’ve failed as a parent or grandparent? Here, Dominique Simon-Levine writes about caring for your Loved One’s kids and following a new light when everything seems lost.

He Says He’s Not Using, but My Gut Says Otherwise

He Says He’s Not Using, but My Gut Says Otherwise

With the holidays approaching and his situation sinking to new lows, this concerned sister is ready to speak to her brother about his SUD. She's up against denial and accusations of being judgmental, but she's determined to make some headway.

I’m Not Hearing Any Change Talk—Can I Still Bring Up the Drinking?

I’m Not Hearing Any Change Talk—Can I Still Bring Up the Drinking?

Is your Loved One downplaying their alcohol or drug use? Even when they say they've got it under control, our gut often says otherwise. If you're not getting any "wishes" or "dips" from them but would still like to encourage them to do some therapy or treatment, here are some tips. The "Planned Conversation" is always an option.

He Still Has the Occasional Beer and I Still Freak Out

He Still Has the Occasional Beer and I Still Freak Out

This wife doesn't understand why she can't simply rejoice in all the progress her husband has made. He is moderating successfully, and so much has improved in their life. Yet every time he cracks a beer she is triggered. She feels annoyed with him, and wishes she could just go with the flow. Is she overthinking?

My Baby Is 17 & Going Off the Rails – We’ve Tried Everything

My Baby Is 17 & Going Off the Rails – We’ve Tried Everything

This member and his family have gone to great lengths to help their Loved One overcome his cannabis use disorder (CUD). Yet, the use, the dissimulation and the destructive behavior continue to rage. Here, Dominique Simon-Levine shines a light on what recovery from cannabis use in teenagers really looks like.

How Can I Call the Wedding Off Gently?

How Can I Call the Wedding Off Gently?

kam132 is set to get married next month, but her Loved One seems to have a serious problem with alcohol and isn't really addressing it. Does she call the wedding off? How can she use the gentle yet firm stance of CRAFT to shepherd her Loved One towards treatment, without this feeling like a power play?

Compelling Proof that CRAFT Is Working (Even When You’re Not Sure It Is)

Compelling Proof that CRAFT Is Working (Even When You’re Not Sure It Is)

Fireweed3 shares words from her daughter: "I just really want to tell you how grateful I am for your continuing love and  support throughout the last 6 months. [She had relapsed 6 months prior.] It literally means everything to me…You're so careful not to enable me, but to just LOVE me no matter what, or no matter where I am…I could always feel your strength within me. That's what gave me the courage to say enough is enough, honestly…"

It’s Okay Not to Have Hope

It’s Okay Not to Have Hope

We are supposed to have difficult feelings during difficult times, says guest blogger Laurie MacDougall. There is a reason for these feelings, and we can find purpose in them.  Laurie shares with us how her “pie in the sky hopes” used to lead her crashing down into hopelessness and how she managed to process her feelings and  channel them into genuine positive energy.

Let’s Talk About Crack Cocaine

Let’s Talk About Crack Cocaine

The topic of crack cocaine is a missing link in the discussion about Substance Use Disorder. We don’t talk about it nearly as much as we talk about other stimulants. Why is that? Here, Dominique Simon-Levine provides some answers to this important question.

I Didn’t Want Him to Come Home but Now He’s Here!

I Didn’t Want Him to Come Home but Now He’s Here!

They've been through it all! Ten years in recovery, then 5 of using. So many lies, so much manipulation. He's fresh out of treatment now and she wants to trust him, but she simply doesn't, not yet. Sober housing would have been ideal, but that didn't happen. He's home. Now what?!

You’re Going to Mess Up the Rewards Sometimes

You’re Going to Mess Up the Rewards Sometimes

Did this wife mess it all up by removing rewards when he, in fact, wasn't drinking? Is it possible she inadvertently triggered him to go drink? CRAFT asks you to make numerous split-second decisions every day. You're going to get it wrong sometimes. What then?