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The Power of Language

The Power of Language

Laurie MacDougall discusses the dramatic impact that language has on our discussions of Substance Use Disorder. Let's work together to reduce stigma, improve access to treatment, and embrace a more humane approach to our Loved Ones' struggles – all with the words we choose.

We Don’t Want to Enable His Use

We Don’t Want to Enable His Use

A member wants to keep communications open but is concerned that her Loved One only connects with them on his terms. Dominique Simon-Levine lays out the CRAFT approach to help this family break their unproductive cycles.

She’s Back From Rehab But On Shaky Ground

She’s Back From Rehab But On Shaky Ground

Fireweed3's Loved One may be heading towards relapse, but she's only just gotten home from rehab. It's a real strain to have things start off this way. See how Dominique Simon-Levine uses the CRAFT method to frame an approach. 

It’s Time to Leave

It’s Time to Leave

Can you practice CRAFT when you are fearful for your own safety? Dominique Simon-Levine gives clear direction to a member who has reached out for help. 

Her Behavior Is So Hurtful

Her Behavior Is So Hurtful

michael111's Loved One is entrenched in a social group that allows him little chance to interact with her meaningfully. She's inconsistent in the way she treats him, which brings up a lot of uncertainty. Dominique Simon-Levine lays out a course to direct him through this uncertain terrain.

He’s Withdrawing At Home

He’s Withdrawing At Home

A Loved One is trying to detox at home and wants to be left alone. What role should a family member play while a Loved One is suffering from withdrawals? Dominique Simon-Levine provides clear guidance for families in this situation. 

My Contact with Her Is So Limited

My Contact with Her Is So Limited

A Loved One is responding less to texts now. Things changed fast with Covid and a new living situation puts her around more use than before. But this member is determined to help. Dominique Simon-Levine suggests strategies for refocusing.

He’s Hiding Away for Most of the Day

He’s Hiding Away for Most of the Day

He reached out for help from her after jail, and is getting MAT… she knows he hasn't gone anywhere as they live far out in the country. But he's secluding himself so much, she can't tell what he's up to. 

He’s on the Streets with Nothing

He’s on the Streets with Nothing

A member's partner isn't on board with CRAFT. Her Loved One was recently thrown out of the house, and now he's on the streets with nothing. She has no way to reach him, but can't invite him back home even if she could. Dominique Simon-Levine spells out the best steps to take next… 

He Was Drinking Alone in the Motel

He Was Drinking Alone in the Motel

A member is putting her Loved One up in a motel as he addresses some serious health concerns. But she just discovered he was drinking again and is torn about what to do. Dominique Simon-Levine offers guidance with a CRAFT perspective.

Should I Let Her Stay?

Should I Let Her Stay?

An ultimatum seems too harsh, but if this member doesn't lay down expectations for help around the house, is she preventing her Loved One from learning to become an adult? Guest contributor Patrick Doyle, LICSW, lends his expertise to this important question. 

He’s Left Us With Nothing

He’s Left Us With Nothing

She's tried everything to get him help and save their marriage. But now this member is facing financial ruin due to her Loved One's outrageous spending and use. Where can she turn? Dominique Simon-Levine offers sage counsel. 

Setting Up for Her to Come Back Home

Setting Up for Her to Come Back Home

A Loved One has expressed some desire to get help, but her using boyfriend complicates the situation. Dominique Simon-Levine lays out the essential pieces of a plan to get her moving in the right direction.

How Can I Apply CRAFT to this Exchange?

How Can I Apply CRAFT to this Exchange?

Concerned about her Loved One's use, with only phone and email to connect, a member asks for the CRAFT stance on a recent exchange. Here we take a look at strategies for practicing CRAFT from afar. 

How Can We Avoid the Arguments?

How Can We Avoid the Arguments?

A member recently received a request from her Loved One but didn't respond – she was sure it would end in arguing. Laurie MacDougall shares her wisdom for building new, healthy communication patterns – even in challenging situations. 

Moving Forward After a Relapse

Moving Forward After a Relapse

Writing in with an update about her Loved One's recent relapse, this Allies member shares her raw and heartfelt reflections. She is clear about her path forward and exhibits a resilience we can all learn from. 

Texting to Perfection

Texting to Perfection

Now that texting is the main mode of communication with her Loved One, a member wonders about the best way to use CRAFT in this medium. Dominique Simon-Levine suggests an upfront approach.

The Question of Moderation

The Question of Moderation

An Allies member has had a rocky year with her Loved One in and out of treatment. He's back at home now, but wants to try moderation and the thought of this is deeply worrisome. Dominique Simon-Levine suggests a plan to help navigate this experiment.