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We Can Guess How She’ll Respond to Our Boundary. Should We Stick With It Anyway?
No one can answer that question for us—but there are some vital guidelines to keep in mind.
Discussion Blog Posts
He’s Relapsed After Three Sober Months, and We’re Worried
Despite the setbacks, there’s good signs aplenty for this member’s Loved One. When our Loved Ones’ solid progress gets interrupted by a lapse, it’s easy to feel crushed and discouraged. But we can’t let those feelings make us forget what’s going well.
The Discussion Blog on the Allies Website: Excerpts From One Member’s Journey
An important component of any member’s successful journey on the Allies website is participation in the expertly-moderated Discussion Blog. There, CRAFT/AIR trained staff interact with members by answering questions in both regular replies and in full, expert blog response posts offering guidance that any member can access. Members see other members sharing questions, frustrations, and successes similar to theirs, and also they often see how the Learning Modules are effectively used as referenced by our team experts and by members. We also offer dozens of supplementary podcasts by members of our Allied Team, discussing real situations with Loved Ones and using the CRAFT approach.
A Message from Founder, Dominique Simon-Levine
Founder & CEO, Dominique Simon-Levine, offers an update about the Allies in Recovery program, including new offerings and activities. Thank you all for being so patient as we navigated through the many hassles and challenges associated with developing and building our new website. We are so very grateful for YOU! (Pictured Left to Right: Nicole Castillo, Andrew Maxwell, Deborah Rodriguez, Sandra Munier)
Am I Making Any Difference in My Daughter’s Life?
When we maintain a loving connection, we’re often doing more than we think. Allies in Recovery Member Adrexpert’s daughter achieved astonishing things during ten years of abstinence, but now she’s using again and could lose it all. Her mother is employing CRAFT techniques to keep a positive, loving link with her daughter.
Trusting Again is Tough. I’m Learning to Accept That.
How do we learn to trust again? A member’s long journey with her partner, and tips on sorting through our feelings about trust. She has spent thirty years living with her partner’s struggle with alcohol and is reaching a new kind of acceptance of her own feelings – that’s real progress!
He May Not Be Ready to Address It All at Once
When our Loved Ones are making progress, slow and steady reinforcement using CRAFT can be better than pushing hard.
Will She Still Believe I Love Her If I Set This Boundary?
Supporting a Loved One can be deeply painful, even when our choices are clear.
She’s Threatening Suicide Unless I Let Her Come Home and Use
When threats, anger, and possible self-harm enter the equation, it’s time to seek help for you Loved One. Susie’s daughter is lashing out at her, and threatening suicide unless she gets her way. Setting boundaries in such situations is necessary.
We’ve Walked a Long Road Together. So Why Can’t I Trust?
Trust isn’t a faucet you can turn off and on. And that’s all right. I found that CRAFT changed my life for the better.
You Don’t Have to Live in Manhattan to Access Recovery Services
And if AA isn’t what your Loved One’s after, there are usually alternatives
Kspring has been supporting her son on his recovery journey for years.
He’s come a long way, but the challenges still feel immense, and Kspring
is actively seeking new recovery resources that could offer a hand. Allies’
Laurie MacDougall did some digging. What she found underscores just
how much is out there—much of it independent of Zip code.
Don’t Let Worry Make His Progress Invisible
We want to protect our Loved Ones (and ourselves) from the dangers of reoccurrence. But we can’t overlook what’s working.
Learning Our Way Out of the Cycle of Recurrence
Even when a lot’s going right in our lives, the recovery process can be tough and painful. Outwardly, Bimba’s son’s life seems wonderful: good job, good relationship, education, financial security. Still, he only manages to remain abstinent for about 90 days at a time. While this stage of the recovery process is often brutal, there are resources and people ready to help. Sustained reinforcement —“getting the message about recovery”— is a vital piece of the puzzle.