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    You’ve heard of enabling use, but we teach you how to enable non-use. Learn how to apply rewards when your loved one isn’t using, and enable sober moments.

    When a loved one is not using, don’t miss the opportunity to reward them. By actively enabling sober moments you provide something that is pleasing to your loved one, and you also prolong their non-use.

    What does a reward look like? It can be spontaneous or it can be something planned (because you have previously identified patterns of use and sobriety).

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    Dominique Simon-Levine June 17, 2022

    Boundaries and Rewards: Tips on Using CRAFT When a Family Member is Drinking and Not Cooperating

    An Allies in Recovery member is encountering difficulties with removing rewards and holding boundaries. They're asking their loved one to leave when h…
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    My Son is Using Methamphetamines Again. What are My Next Steps? And is There Hope for His Recovery?

    A Loved One has started using methamphetamine again but is getting therapy for depression. Should our member wait to see if therapy helps, if he exhib…
    Dominique Simon-Levine May 12, 2022

    She Self-Medicates for Social Anxiety and Refuses Treatment

    Social anxiety is way more than shyness. Many cases of SAD involve substances as well as depression. Self-medicating can appear to help but may also b…
    Dominique Simon-Levine April 29, 2022
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    It’s Okay Not to Have Hope – I Was There Too – but Hopelessness led me to Hope, and Success

    It takes greater strength to process your feelings than to pretend everything is fine.
    Laurie MacDougall January 17, 2022

    I Can’t Tell If He Is Using or Not

    With her son living far away from her, she finds it difficult to tell whether he has been using or not when they do get to talk.
    Laurie MacDougall January 10, 2022
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    9 CRAFTy Guidelines for When They’re Under Your Roof

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    Bribes, Incentives, and Positive Reinforcement – Part 2

    In this follow-up to her post on incentives, bribes and reinforcing, Laurie MacDougall shares her "One and Done" approach. Read on for a practical and…
    Laurie MacDougall September 10, 2020
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    Bribes, Incentives, and Positive Reinforcement – Part 1

    A family member writes in wondering about rewarding her loved one for attending a few recovery group meetings. Guest author and recovery enthusiast La…
    Laurie MacDougall September 9, 2020
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    Rewards For Today or Consequences For Yesterday

    She's thankful her loved one is no longer using, but his finances are a mess. Should she allow natural consequences for his past use even if it means …
    Dominique Simon-Levine October 8, 2019
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    Allies in Recovery is a membership-based program providing knowledge and skills to families who have loved ones struggling with addiction, since 2003. Using CRAFT, the only behavioral training method designed specifically for families and scientifically proven to work, you’ll learn how to communicate, behave, intervene, and guide your loved one toward recovery. Eight self-guided video modules provide the complete CRAFT skillset. We supplement the training videos with hand-tailored guidance provided through an expert, interactive blog, podcasts, and curated resources - including ways to locate hard-to-find, quality, low- or no-cost treatment, and other pathways through which your loved one can find recovery. You aren't alone - you have Allies!

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