She Wants to Borrow the Car…And We’re Uneasy
She agreed to treatment for alcohol and is heading home soon. But she'll need transportation when she starts working again. Where does CRAFT stand on …
Rewards
You’ve heard of enabling use, but we teach you how to enable non-use. Learn how to apply rewards when your loved one isn’t using, and enable sober moments.
When a loved one is not using, don’t miss the opportunity to reward them. By actively enabling sober moments you provide something that is pleasing to your loved one, and you also prolong their non-use.
What does a reward look like? It can be spontaneous or it can be something planned (because you have previously identified patterns of use and sobriety).
Our Strategy Is No Longer Working
They've always opened their home to him when he's trying to get clean but he has now started taking advantage of his parents. He is getting high in th…
He Wants His Car Back. What Should We Do?
A son in early recovery would like his car back but his mother worries that this may trigger a relapse. She wants to help him but is worn out and worr…
Treatment, Relapse, now Jail
A mother called the police when her addicted daughter stole her car. Now the daughter is in jail and furious, blaming her parents. What next?
If We Kick Him Out, Will His Drug Use Worsen?
When setting firm boundaries and maintaining them, so often it feels like 'Tough Love' that may backfire and lead to a worse situation. Using the CRA…
Addiction Is Confounding, but with CRAFT There Are No Gray Areas
When drugs and alcohol take over, the family is drawn into the needs of the addiction, blamed when resources come up short, attacked when they refuse …
He Wants Money and Cigarettes While in Treatment
A mother doesn't know what she should do when one of her sons asks for money and cigarettes while in treatment. He claims he can only get through this…
He’s Always High! How Can I Reward Non-Use?
When your loved one is high all day long, without ever seeming to sober up, it might seem impossible to reach them and have any influence on their beh…
Now They’re Stealing and Disappearing…
When an addicted loved one is exhibiting increasingly alarming behavior, first of all, don't take it personally. Remember, it is not directed at you. …
You Are a Reward
You might be grumbling. You might be accusing, guilting or complaining. Or trying desperately to prevent them from going out. You might be brooding in…
