When Stepping Back Is the Best Help You Can Give
No one wants a Loved One to suffer. No one wants a Loved One to relapse. But in our worry about such possibilities, we can stumble into behaviors that…
Category: MODULE 4
About This Whole “Engage When They’re Not Using” Business…
If you’ve worked your way through Allies’ eLearning Modules, you’re already familiar with the concept: when our Loved One (LO) is using, we remo…
What Is Enmeshment?
Enmeshment is a blurring of the boundaries between people. How the other person feels affects you intensely. Enmeshment is one-way -- your thoughts, f…
Ah-Ha Moments
When the noise dissipates and there's clarity, that's an "ah-ha moment." You can move forward in a different way. You might even find new commitment t…
What Are the Three Questions?
When you’re in the middle of crisis, feeling reactive or uncertain about what to do, use the “three questions” to helps create space and time an…
What We Can and Can’t Control: It’s Good to Know the Difference
Erica2727 has a husband who’s working hard on his recovery, but his place of work concerns her. She would like him to consider various options, but …
The Storm Before the Calm
Just before change happens, things can get chaotic. It's small differences over time – starting with you – that create big change.
Treat the Family, Improve the Outcome
The most effective way to help someone with substance use disorder? Helping the family. Learn to become a transformation agent.
Stepping Back and Self-Care: Two Underappreciated Tools for Supporting Your Loved One
Two questions from Allies member Faith give Laurie MacDougall an opportunity to underscore some CRAFT essentials. Self-care is indispensable. Stepping…
Treatment and Recovery: the Allies View
With treatment and recovery, think progress, not perfection. Treatment is how you help them enjoy their lives again. Be part of that joy.