Trusting Again is Tough. I’m Learning to Accept That.
How do we learn to trust again? A member’s long journey with her partner, and tips on sorting through our feelings about trust. She has spent thirty…
Member Topics: partner also uses
I’m Afraid If They Come to Visit, They’ll Never Leave!
This mom wants very much to support her son, who is struggling with SUD and mental health issues out of state. But she fears he and his girlfriend mig…
Her Baby Was Taken Away. Should I Seek Custody?
This is a multi-generational story. Grandparents are having to step in more and more to care for their grandchildren when SUD is wreaking havoc and ma…
I Feel So Hopeless: Her Drug Dealer Boyfriend is Brainwashing Her
Can you relate to this mom? She has spent much of her daughter's life battling to find the right supports and treatment, only to now watch her in …
My Contact with Her Is So Limited
A Loved One is responding less to texts now. Things changed fast with Covid and a new living situation puts her around more use than before. But …
How Can I Apply CRAFT to this Exchange?
Concerned about her Loved One's use, with only phone and email to connect, a member asks for the CRAFT stance on a recent exchange. Here we t…
She’s Trying to Get Her Kids Back, but Still Using
Allies member dhpofamily has guardianship of their grandkids, but mom & dad both use and working out visitation guidelines has been an …
Must I Accept this Backslide?
Fireweed3's daughter is hanging on to recovery by her fingernails. Mom would like to "uninvite" the (using) boyfriend from visiting/stay…
She’s On the Street with a No-Good Boyfriend
Keep your focus on your Loved One. Leave the boyfriend out of it when talking to them. You will create a wedge between you if they believe you ar…
He Detoxed from Xanax & Now Won’t Speak to Me
After Mom insisted on detox at the ER for her son's xanax problem, they have become estranged and her son isn't speaking to her. Here's wh…