He’s Probably Stealing From Us. Will Confronting Him Do Any Good?
How much grief and conflict is $1289 worth? Sadly, theft by a Loved One isn’t unusual in substance use situations. What matters most, however, is pr…
natural consequences
I Can’t Go Get Ice Cream Every Time She Drinks
Since CRAFT recommends stepping away when your Loved One is using, does this imply a lifetime of sudden exits? The good news is, probably not. Opennes…
Am I Helping My Son or Enabling His Use?
Responding to a Loved One’s substance use gets complicated when multiple drugs are involved, but CRAFT techniques can help you find the clarity you …
His Need for Friends is Outweighing His Desire to Get Sober
This member’s Loved One is trying to rebuild his social life, but the very people he is connecting with reinforce his drinking. Fortunately he is be…
I’m Not the One Who’s Sending Him to Jail
The member has supported their Loved One through relapse after relapse, and now feels near the end of their rope. They’ve paid for lawyers and many …
I’ve Been Enabler in Chief. I’m Through.
Despite all best intentions, families sometimes get stuck in patterns which inadvertently enable their Loved One's substance use. All is not …
He May Be Spending the Holiday in Jail. Should I Bail Him Out?
Her anger and resentment towards her Loved One has transformed - with one event - into love and fear. He was arrested out of state for dealing drugs a…
He Says He’ll Quit Then Keeps Using
They seem to mean it when they say they've had enough and want to quit. Then they use again. They appear interested in treatment, then say they do…
When Moderation Fails but Brings an “Aha” Moment
Experimenting with moderation may not solve the substance problem, but can often lead to natural consequences that allow your Loved One to see how pro…
How Can I Call the Wedding Off Gently?
kam132 is set to get married next month, but her Loved One seems to have a serious problem with alcohol and isn't really addressing it. Does she c…