I’m Not the One Who’s Sending Him to Jail
An Allies in Recovery Member has been caught in a long cycle of “bailing out” their Loved One after every relapse. Sometimes it’s been money …
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Boundaries and Rewards: Tips on Using CRAFT When a Family Member is Drinking and Not Cooperating
An Allies in Recovery member is encountering difficulties with removing rewards and holding boundaries. They're asking their loved one to leave when h…
He May Not Be Ready to Address It All at Once
When our Loved Ones are making progress, slow and steady reinforcement using CRAFT can be better than pushing hard.
Will She Still Believe I Love Her If I Set This Boundary?
Supporting a Loved One can be deeply painful, even when our choices are clear.
He’s Probably Stealing From Us. Will Confronting Him Do Any Good?
How much grief and conflict is $1289 worth? Sadly, theft by a Loved One isn’t unusual in substance use situations. What matters most, however, is pr…
I Can’t Go Get Ice Cream Every Time She Drinks
Since CRAFT recommends stepping away when your Loved One is using, does this imply a lifetime of sudden exits? The good news is, probably not. Opennes…
Am I Helping My Son or Enabling His Use?
Responding to a Loved One’s substance use gets complicated when multiple drugs are involved, but CRAFT techniques can help you find the clarity you …
His Need for Friends is Outweighing His Desire to Get Sober
This member’s Loved One is trying to rebuild his social life, but the very people he is connecting with reinforce his drinking. Fortunately he is be…
I’m Not the One Who’s Sending Him to Jail
The member has supported their Loved One through relapse after relapse, and now feels near the end of their rope. They’ve paid for lawyers and many …
I’ve Been Enabler in Chief. I’m Through.
Despite all best intentions, families sometimes get stuck in patterns which inadvertently enable their Loved One's substance use. All is not …
