Conditional Love, Unconditional Love, and What Leads to Shame: Part 1
Even when love is not conditional, there sometimes must be conditions regarding people’s behavior. Love in romantic relationships may change if you …
boundaries
I’m Not the One Who’s Sending Him to Jail
An Allies in Recovery Member has been caught in a long cycle of “bailing out” their Loved One after every relapse. Sometimes it’s been money …
Boundaries and Rewards: Tips on Using CRAFT When a Family Member is Drinking and Not Cooperating
An Allies in Recovery member is encountering difficulties with removing rewards and holding boundaries. They're asking their loved one to leave when h…
Trusting Again is Tough. I’m Learning to Accept That.
How do we learn to trust again? A member’s long journey with her partner, and tips on sorting through our feelings about trust. She has spent thirty…
Making Changes At Your Own Pace
Laurie and Kayla discuss change -- how to manage it, how quickly it can or can't happen, and how to focus your efforts. Learn to put yourself first. S…
What CRAFT Can Do in 12 Weeks
Laurie, Kayla, and Dominique offer an overview of the first twelve weeks of CRAFT, discussing what it can accomplish quickly, and what becomes a lifet…
He May Not Be Ready to Address It All at Once
When our Loved Ones are making progress, slow and steady reinforcement using CRAFT can be better than pushing hard.
Will She Still Believe I Love Her If I Set This Boundary?
Supporting a Loved One can be deeply painful, even when our choices are clear.
De-escalation Strategies
Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss how to de-escalate conflict in familial and partner relationships through three main strategies: taking space, no…
She’s Threatening Suicide Unless I Let Her Come Home and Use
When threats, anger, and possible self-harm enter the equation, it’s time to seek help for you Loved One. Susie’s daughter is lashing out at her, …