He Wants to Try Moderation
A member wonders if supporting her Loved One in his efforts to moderate is a good idea. Dominique Simon-Levine weighs in with careful considerati…
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He Claims We Kicked Him Out
A Loved One left home when the family held strong with their boundaries... he's been destructive in the past but still takes …
She Begged to Leave Treatment
She was released from detox and found herself treatment... but when she arrived she panicked and begged Mom to pick her up. How d…
I Don’t Want to Threaten Him – But There’s So Much at Stake!
A Loved One grapples with legal troubles. He's working on cleaning up, but with multiple substances involved, he's not the…
Incentives vs. Bribes – Part 2
In this follow-up to her post on incentives, bribes and reinforcing, Laurie MacDougall shares her "One and Done" approach. Read on for …
He’s Asked Us To Pay For His Car…
A member has already agreed to cover her Loved One's sober housing, but now he wants help with car and insurance too, and money is tight. Sho…
Our Conversations Are So Frustrating
lucyzara has been meeting for breakfast with her Loved One but they keep arguing about his use. Should she stop meeting with him? Dominique Simon-Levi…
Must I Accept this Backslide?
Fireweed3's daughter is hanging on to recovery by her fingernails. Mom would like to "uninvite" the (using) boyfriend from visiting/stay…
I Need Help With Her Living Situation
With trauma in her past, finding safe living options for a Loved One is a challenge. Dominique Simon-Levine lays out a plan and asks the mem…
I Want to Message Her Friends
These parents are reeling in the wake of realizing their teenaged daughter is experimenting with all sorts of substances. It feels tempting to monitor…