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We Want To Help Our Daughter. We Want Some Boundaries Too.
Both of these aims are important and legitimate. CRAFT skills can help us enact them.
Discussion Blog Posts
How Could We Let it Come This Far?
iagirlsmom doesn't know how she's managed to let it come to this. Her Loved One seems incapable of respecting any boundary – and she can't seem to enforce them. Dominique Simon-Levine lends her expertise to lay out a simple but meaningful plan for the family.
He’s Not Letting Me In
Lynne72 seeks guidance about dealing with her son who is getting some help, but has largely retreated into secrecy about his activities. To help her maintain peace of mind, Dominique Simon-Levine offers a clear, CRAFTy course to follow.
The Benzo Question and My Own Experience
Lynne72 has mixed feelings about the klonopin her son is taking. But his psychiatrist is not concerned as long as it's being taken as prescribed. Dominique Simon-Levine delivers a helpful and considered perspective while sharing deeply of her own experience.
She Can’t Come Back Home
iagirlsmom has come to the realization that her home can no longer be open to her Loved One. But holding this line feels unfathomable as the cold of winter approaches. Dominique Simon-Levine offers support with a way to frame the conversation.
My Adopted Son Is in the Criminal Justice System
thislifesucks sends in an update about her son's court appearance. She's trying to keep a low profile – he doesn't want her involved at all – and the burn of his rejection is still raw. Dominique Simon-Levine shares some words of wisdom with this family member.
It’s Always the Same Old Story
1delapisa shares concerns that her Loved One is perpetually in the same aimless state. He refuses to address his Diabetes, he can't hold a job, nothing seems to work. Dominique Simon-Levine suggests a starting point.
Is Jail the Safest Place for Him?
When is it a good idea to turn a Loved One in to the authorities? A recent conversation on this topic prompted a member to write in… Dominique Simon-Levine's reply unpacks this very difficult question.
Multiple Addictions and Dopamine
A psychaitrist suggested that a Loved One take medication to increase dopamine levels. Here Dominique Simon-Levine addresses the complex topic of dopamine circuitry in addiction.
She Reached Out for Help from Jail
Hoopmann1's daughter called her from jail asking for help. She was able to step in and work closely with the courts to usher her pregnant Loved One into safety and treatment. We are so proud of her tireless behind-the-scenes work.
Getting Ready for Her to Move Back In
A Loved One has nowhere to go after treatment, and the family wants to allow her to stay on certain conditions. This can be a tense time for everyone. Here we offer guidance about how to frame the agreements.
She’s Pregnant and Still Using – And I Don’t Know Where She Is
A Loved One is using while pregnant and the family is beside themselves. Guest author Laurie MacDougall steps in to share her knowledge of programs for mothers with SUD, and offer guidance about reaching out to offer help.
Facing the Truth About a Loved One
Coming to terms with harsh realities is not easy. But it is so important in helping us to move forward. Guest writer Annie Highwater shares insight that will help us find the way to "solutions, sanity, peace, and progress."
Should I Hold His Money for Him?
How would CRAFT approach helping a Loved One keep his newly earned cash safe while he works on his recovery. Here we show how to strike a balance between helpfulness and over-monitoring.
She’s Back at Home with a Daybed and Locker
help4t's daughter has wound up back at home after violating probation and a few months of active use. It's a shock to see her in this state again. Here Dominique Simon-Levine provides a way to approach the next few months…
She’s About to Be Back on the Streets
tinasananes is torn. Her Loved One keeps cycling between rehabs and a very rough life on the streets. It feels like it's time to walk away. Dominique Simon-Levine offers her perspective to help this mom face what comes next.
He Wants to Try Moderation
A member wonders if supporting her Loved One in his efforts to moderate is a good idea. Dominique Simon-Levine weighs in with careful consideration of non-abstinence-based recovery models.
He Claims We Kicked Him Out
A Loved One left home when the family held strong with their boundaries… he's been destructive in the past but still takes no respobsibility for his behavior. Dominique Simon-Levine helps the family chart a course through these rough waters as he begins to transition into adulthood.
He Finally Ended Up With a DUI
Could a DUI be the push a Loved One needs to make a fresh start? How will he navigate things without transportation of his own? Dominique Simon-Levine highlights how the family can make the most out of this situation.
She Begged to Leave Treatment
She was released from detox and found herself treatment… but when she arrived she panicked and begged Mom to pick her up. How do we keep trust intact in this situation? Dominique Simon Levine examines this question with a CRAFT lens.
I Don’t Want to Threaten Him – But There’s So Much at Stake!
A Loved One grapples with legal troubles. He's working on cleaning up, but with multiple substances involved, he's not there yet. There's so much at stake and everyone's feeling the strain. See our strategy for taking a clear, supportive stance when everyone's nerves are frayed.