The Destructive Myth of “Codependency”
The idea of codependency—that Loved Ones of substance users psychologically benefit from and thus enable use—has penetrated popular thinking about…
Category: MODULE 6 – healthy distance from LO
How Hard Should He Fall?
Is danger a regular part of your dance with your Loved One? Do you find it hard to know when to step in and when to let them find their own solution? …
My Helping Wasn’t Helpful. It’s Time to Detach
Mom spent years helping her daughter and son-in-law as they sank deeper and deeper into trouble with the drugs and probably also alcohol. She now real…
My Helping Wasn’t Helpful. Now I’m Practicing Detaching
This member's daughter has essentially cut Mom off. This after Mom spent years helping her daughter and son-in-law as they sank dee…
I’ve Thrown Him Out—What Are the Next Steps?
A day at a time sounds like the right idea. I understand feeling exhausted and fed up. Perhaps you take some time to clean up your house, make his roo…
Podcast #55—Attaching & Detaching—What Does This Even Mean?
(36min) Have we not all heard the phrase "You just need to detach" when it comes to navigating life in the midst of active addiction? …
Thank You Allies in Recovery, it Worked!
Annie Highwater offers a mother the tools she learned at Allies in Recovery: CRAFT, and watches in real-time the positive results. The son has checked…
Podcast: “Interview with Annie’s Son Elliot”
On this week's Coming Up for Air podcast, Annie and Laurie talk with Annie's son Elliot, whose opiate dependency and recovery is detailed in Annie's b…
Please Don’t Tell me to Detach!
If you are the bystander watching this brutal disease from the front row, what do you do? Detach from someone you love as they are spiraling? What doe…
Don’t Tell Me to Detach!
There is a hopeless, sinking feeling that comes with well meaning, yet unsolicited, advice when you have a loved one on a roller coaster of addiction.…