He’s Begging to Come Home
As hard as this sounds, I am going to tell you that you are in a good place! Your son is safe, the system is helping to step him down to the next…
Category: MODULE 5 & 6 – home as a reward
Who Should Pay for Sober Housing?
Treatment doesn’t see its role as helping the newly sober person to manage financially. They rarely ask the question, "So where is the job?…
He Got Drunk and Set Fire to His Bedroom
The primary goal is to get your brother out of the house. Focus on this. As you have pointed out, there are risks to your parents’ safety as lon…
It’s Time for Him to Go!
Asking your Loved One to leave your home is a hard decision. Your Loved One is not making any effort to curtail or stop the drug use. Allowing th…
Please Don’t Come Home! Next Steps after Recovery…
What a relief when a loved one agrees to go into treatment. But right behind this relief there may follow several nagging thoughts: What’s next? Wha…
I’m So Tired of Fighting and Living Like This
Active addiction takes over the mind and body. It screams “GET THAT DRUG!” and the body vibrates with the command orchestrated from deep w…
Stick to Your Guns!
Dear help4t, Since you last wrote in, your daughter lost her job and is now couch hopping. Her ex-boyfriend, a drug user, is back in her life. Your ho…
He Refuses to Leave
If your Loved One is behaving violently now, the risk is that this will generalize to his future relationships with a spouse, his own children, or oth…
Using Home as a Reward
A Member Question: "As I learn more from the site I understand influencing him toward treatment is a process that takes time...I feel we sho…
He Has Relapsed, and He’s Sleeping On My Couch
Your son made it a whole year before relapsing. That’s a huge success. Without knowing a lot more detail about your situation, I’d suggest…