My Helping Wasn’t Helpful. Now I’m Practicing Detaching
This member's daughter has essentially cut Mom off. This after Mom spent years helping her daughter and son-in-law as they sank dee…
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Natural Consequences…or Punishment?
Removing rewards at home (beyond material rewards) is subtle. Leaving him alone in the room, not joining him in front of the TV, no hugs, smiles, scru…
Borderline Personality Disorder and Addiction
Being in a relationship with someone who struggles with addiction AND has borderline personality disorder (BPD) is exceptionally challenging. People w…
Must I Accept That She’s Killing Herself?
I would change your sentence “accept she is dying” to "accept that things are shifting and your role is limited.” I’m sor…
He Has Relapsed and Is Likely Dealing Out of Our Home
How upsetting it must be to see your Loved One blossom after rehab, only to sink slowly back towards drug use, dishonesty, and criminal activity. Fano…
I’m Getting Lost Searching for Treatment
This mom is getting lost in the search for treatment ... Who can you trust? Online reviews are sometimes written by facilities' employees...mommao…
I’ve Thrown Him Out—What Are the Next Steps?
A day at a time sounds like the right idea. I understand feeling exhausted and fed up. Perhaps you take some time to clean up your house, make his roo…
She’s On the Street with a No-Good Boyfriend
Keep your focus on your Loved One. Leave the boyfriend out of it when talking to them. You will create a wedge between you if they believe you ar…
She’s Across the Country and Wants Us to Bail Her Out
You will need the jail’s help to decide what is best. If they won’t help you, I actually think staying in jail until February may be the s…
He Has A Triple Diagnosis—Where Do I Start?
Allies member frankstr's son has a triple diagnosis: PTSD, SUD and most recently, blindness. Where does he start? When seeking to help a Love…