Will He Ever See the Truth?
A member wonders if her Loved One will ever come to terms with what he's put the family through. Read Annie Highwater's inspiring response whi…
Category: EMOTIONS – challenging feelings
She’ll Need More Help After Jail
While her Loved One is in jail, she's saying a lot of the right things... But once she's out this family member knows she will need more help.…
How do You Trust Again?
We often find ourselves wondering how to repair the bonds that are broken when trust has been violated. In this thoughtful exploration of the topic of…
He’s Stopped Drinking… Now He’s Smoking Pot
Back from detox - and a brush with death - a Loved One appears to have been "scared straight..." Now he's using pot daily…
This is MY Home!
A family member struggles with her Loved One's reaction to being locked out after curfew. Eventually, there will come a time when he can no longer…
I Don’t Feel Like Celebrating Valentine’s Day
An Allies member feels too angry to celebrate Valentine's day with her husband. She is exhausted from shouldering all of the responsibil…
He’s Angry And Pushing us Away
They began to implement CRAFT guidelines when he comes home high, trying new gestures and rewards to connect with him when he's sober. Their son howev…
Loved One Lives Out of State, Unstable and Lashing Out
SoCal receives a paranoid message from her Loved One who lives out of state. Concerned that he is isolated and delusional, she is trying to stay level…
He’s Relapsing Right Now, Should he Leave Home?
If, as family members, we wait around for a 100% commitment from our loved one, we will almost certainly be waiting a long time. Family members must m…
High Anxiety, Son Lost Job and Home, Awaits Trial
An Allies member writes of recent turmoil in her Loved One's life. Awaiting trial after an arrest for hitting his girlfriend, the Loved One i…