Should I Be Paying for College?
"Now, I'm wondering if it was wrong of me to threaten to pull financial support from her for her education. She has always performed very wel…
Category: CYCLE OF USE
He Has Relapsed, and He’s Sleeping On My Couch
Your son made it a whole year before relapsing. That’s a huge success. Without knowing a lot more detail about your situation, I’d suggest…
He Won’t Admit He’s Using
An AiR member wrote us, upset about her son: "...I have seen him wasted 3 times in the past 10 days, his eyes rolling and nodding off mid-sentenc…
She’s Headed Home, Now What?
Dominique Simon-Levine responds to AiR member help4t's comment about her daughter's imminent return from an inpatient facility: "Fro…
It’s Really Hard Not to Say Anything When He’s Drunk
"But it’s soooo hard not to be angry or not talk negatively WHILE he's drunk. WHILE he's not doing the things he said he would…
The Road to Recovery: Our Child’s Early Sobriety
An Allies in Recovery member writes from the heart, sharing his experience of being the parent of an adult child in early recovery: "We were in the be…
Whatever You Put in Front of Your Sobriety You Will Lose
There is an AA saying, one that I think also applies to families navigating the addiction of a loved one. Simply put, getting and staying sober must c…
You’ve Got a Plan! How to Guide Your Loved One Towards Recovery
If you’re reading this, congratulations! You’ve made it to this site. This means you are putting together a plan for dealing with substance abuse …
How to Get an Addicted Family Member into Treatment
An intervention does not have to be a big dramatic family meeting with lots of tears and pressure. It can simply be a quiet moment at the kitchen tabl…
Abstinence vs. Moderation for Those Addicted to Drugs or Alcohol
The question of “Abstinence vs. Moderation” is one that some people contemplate daily, but that many others have never considered. Your family mem…