You’re Going to Mess Up the Rewards Sometimes
Did this wife mess it all up by removing rewards when he, in fact, wasn't drinking? Is it possible she inadvertently triggered him to go drink? CR…
Member Topics: CRAFT STRATEGIES - modeling the change we seek
An Inspiring Story of Modeling the Change We Seek
"If my behavior in her presence creates opportunities, I am thinking that my behavior in her non-presence will have to somehow create opport…
After 20 Years of Use I Don’t Know What to Do Anymore
Has your Loved One been struggling with SUD for what feels like a lifetime? Do you feel overwhelmed by the complexity of their situation? Do you even …
Should I Let Her Stay?
An ultimatum seems too harsh, but if this member doesn't lay down expectations for help around the house, is she preventing her Loved One fro…
Texting to Perfection
Now that texting is the main mode of communication with her Loved One, a member wonders about the best way to use CRAFT in this medium. Dominique Simo…
She Continues to Prostitute Herself
Allies member tinasananes discovered that her Loved One was still prostituting even as she was getting support in early recovery. She's furio…
Can You Become a Model of Change?
The Authors of Beyond Addiction remind us: "Be yourself, but be as willing to change as you want your loved one to be." Have …
Should I Abstain Completely When My Loved One is Around?
Modeling the behavior we are looking for in our loved one is effective, and a key element of CRAFT. It may make sense to avoid drinking, if you are tr…
Should I Abstain Completely When My Loved One is Around?
The studies on CRAFT have confirmed it: changing how you communicate and respond modifies the immediate environment around your Loved One. You're …