I’m Leaving the Country, But I Want to Help Her…
AiR member iloveher is deeply concerned for a girlfriend dealing with cocaine and alcohol abuse, personal trauma, combined with mental healt…
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What If He Loses the Car? How We Inadvertently Enable
A central question to ask yourself is this: is the car supporting non-use, by keeping your loved one working, or has it become an important source of …
Should I Hide My Strategy or Let Her Know?
An AiR member wrote in to ask whether or not it's advisable to let your Loved One know about your strategy (pulling away when there's use, etc…
He’s Only Violent When He Uses – Can I Still Follow the Program?
The CRAFT program is designed to reduce friction, to calm things down between you and your Loved One. But any change, even positive loving calmi…
Should I Be Paying for College?
"Now, I'm wondering if it was wrong of me to threaten to pull financial support from her for her education. She has always performed very wel…
He Won’t Admit He’s Using
An AiR member wrote us, upset about her son: "...I have seen him wasted 3 times in the past 10 days, his eyes rolling and nodding off mid-sentenc…
It’s Really Hard Not to Say Anything When He’s Drunk
"But it’s soooo hard not to be angry or not talk negatively WHILE he's drunk. WHILE he's not doing the things he said he would…
“I Can’t Seem to Get Out of the Negative Talk”
“It's so hard to have positive talk when I know my husband has been drinking. I can't seem to get out of the negative talk while he'…
You’ve Got a Plan!
Pause and take a deep breath. You've made it to this site - this is a HUGE step. Dominique Simon-Levine explains how the AiR resources w…
But What If They Lose Their Car?
Are you feeling confused about the best way to help your Loved One? Do you wonder about enabling? Dominique Simon-Levine raises the key questions to a…