He Is Literally Breaking Me in Half
From what you write, it sounds like you need to start with you. You cannot be effective when you feel “codependent and ill.” Your response…
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Come out of the Gray Area
What you describe is a terrible, terrible situation. When drugs and alcohol have taken over, the parent is drawn into the needs of the addiction, blam…
We Don’t Know When My Brother is High
What a shock to learn your brother has been using opioids all this time. Opioid use can be like this. A person can look almost passed out, eyes g…
He’s In Treatment – It’s Time to Readjust Your Hopes & Expectations
By going to treatment, your Loved One is at the beginning of a process. It’s a process than can take time and builds in increments. It is way to…
How Can I Influence Her From Far Away?
In the research, CRAFT was designed for family members who have a good deal of contact with their Loved One. You’re right, it is more difficult …
Finding Gratitude in the Shadows
How well can you separate the illness of addiction from the person you love? Can you find the light of their humanity when their shadow side is starin…
He Could Be Better Off in Jail
Locking people up for their addiction and the non-violent but illegal behavior that accompanies that addiction is completely unacceptable. Our society…
He Gets Mean and Verbally Abusive
Do not take what he says while drinking personally. Do not expect more from him. This is it, your husband is drunk. Do not expect him to remember his …
Reaching Level 10 Stress…and Stepping Away
The long-term stress I experienced caused me to become very forgetful, hasty in my decisions, confused and socially awkward. I also noticed that durin…
Beautiful Brokenness
Learn more about the Japanese art of kintsugi and how it is the perfect metaphor for our broken relationships, human failures, and the fraught pa…