It’s Time for Him to Go!
Asking your Loved One to leave your home is a hard decision. Your Loved One is not making any effort to curtail or stop the drug use. Allowing th…
Category: MODULE 4 – boundaries
I Will Not Lie for Him or Make Up Excuses
My boundaries are in place to uphold my integrity and morals and values. Respectfully, I will not bend on them. He can be as loud and try to manipulat…
I’m So Tired of Fighting and Living Like This
Active addiction takes over the mind and body. It screams “GET THAT DRUG!” and the body vibrates with the command orchestrated from deep w…
She’s Home from Rehab and Drinking
Here’s my brief sketch of the ideal home environment for an adult child (and I am very aware that I get to sit in front of my keyboard and think…
If He Quits Pills & Gambling, Can He Still Smoke Pot?
You’re in an interesting spot. You’ve removed yourself from your husband by moving out, and when you do see him, he refrains from using th…
7 Lessons from a 97-Year-Old Wonder
You should never take better care of others than you do yourself. Here are seven valuable lessons in self-care from one remarkable 97-year-old woman.
Please Don’t Come Home
What a relief when a Loved One agrees to go into treatment. Right behind this relief though come, perhaps, several nagging thoughts: What’s…
The “OMG” Phase, and the Traps We Fall Into
This is the time when the problem has reached a critical mass of recognition. It’s generally characterized by an intense desire to know what, wh…
Stick to Your Guns!
Dear help4t, Since you last wrote in, your daughter lost her job and is now couch hopping. Her ex-boyfriend, a drug user, is back in her life. Your ho…
My Son is an Adult, Living on His Own
Enable treatment. This is about closing the gap between active use and recovery. Many people with addiction cannot, or will not, research, locate, cal…