I Asked Him To Move Out, and He Did. Why Does It Feel Like I’m the One Facing Consequences?
It can’t be said too often: boundaries are vital, but they determine our own behavior, not our Loved One’s.
Category: MODULE 2
Straight to Treatment After Jail? Do I Stick to My Guns?
Sometimes we can see the likely future: our Loved One returns to the shelter of home, hides away in their room, and simply doesn’t get the treatment…
Cutting Him Off Entirely Isn’t the Answer—Is It?
We’ve all heard the argument: cut the cord. Let them sink to rock bottom. They’ve made their bed; now they have to lie in it. Recently, Allies mem…
He’s Not Using, But He Still Depends on Me for Everything.
decostam’s 32-year-old son lives at home, and has succeeded in abstaining from opioid use for two years. Despite this huge accomplishment, he seems …
Should I Stop CRAFT If Treatment Begins?
CRAFT skills are a life-long practice of learning about yourself, becoming part of your loved one's treatment. There's always more to learn.
I Want Him in Treatment. I’m Dreading That the Cycle Hasn’t Ended.
It’s a situation that occurs all too often: a Loved One enters detox when things get rough, but resists moving on from there to sustained treatment …
He’s Lost His License. And He’s Still Behind the Wheel.
Kathy4422 is facing some tough choices. Her son has just lost his license but is continuing to drive—on her insurance, in a car she owns. Does she s…
Dr. Gabor Maté: The Power of Addiction, the Addiction to Power
Across four decades of work on issues of trauma, addiction, childhood development, stress, and illness, Dr. Gabor Maté has become an internationally …
Positive Childhood Experiences Are Linked to Emotional Health and Resilience—Even in Households Experiencing Trauma
For decades, pediatric research has focused on negative childhood experiences (NCEs) and their effects on children’s wellbeing. Until recently, howe…
She Wants Me to Watch the Baby While She Gets High. Should I Refuse?
Hopewood03 worries about both her daughter and her infant grandson. Her daughter smokes marijuana and believes it’s part of her identity. Her grands…