“He Wants Us to Live Together, but He’s Drinking” – What to Say, and When?
Her boyfriend texted her about his desire to move in together; she suspects he did so under the influence. She is growing frustrated with his substanc…
relationships
Now He’s Abusing His ADHD Medication. What to do?
Her long-time partner added a new drug to the usual mix of cannabis and alcohol: now he's got a prescription for ADHD meds and is blowing through a mo…
Faith, CRAFT & Recovery – Taking Separate Paths
There are times when we need space and separation. It’s not abandonment. It isn’t necessarily permanent, and it’s not selfish…it’s healthy.…
A CRAFT Approach To Verbal Abuse
Provided the abuse isn’t physical, CRAFT can be your guide to a constructive response to negative interactions. Physical safety should come first in…
On “Mom Guilt” and Self-Compassion
Parents, and especially mothers, often blame themselves for issues their children face — including issues over which the parents have little or no c…
A Court Ruling That Endangers 130 Million With SUD or Mental Health Challenges
A landmark ruling in 2019 required insurers to define “medical necessity” in accordance with accepted clinical standards. But in 2022, a three-jud…
The Destructive Myth of “Codependency”
The idea of codependency—that Loved Ones of substance users psychologically benefit from and thus enable use—has penetrated popular thinking about…
Trusting Again is Tough. I’m Learning to Accept That.
How do we learn to trust again? A member’s long journey with her partner, and tips on sorting through our feelings about trust. She has spent thirty…
We’ve Walked a Long Road Together. So Why Can’t I Trust?
Trust isn’t a faucet you can turn off and on. And that’s all right. I found that CRAFT changed my life for the better.