I’m Not Hearing Any Change Talk—Can I Still Bring Up the Drinking?
Is your Loved One downplaying their alcohol or drug use? Even when they say they've got it under control, our gut often says otherwise. If you'…
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My Contact with Her Is So Limited
A Loved One is responding less to texts now. Things changed fast with Covid and a new living situation puts her around more use than before. But …
Should I Let Her Stay?
An ultimatum seems too harsh, but if this member doesn't lay down expectations for help around the house, is she preventing her Loved One fro…
She Says She Won’t Do Residential Treatment
da-mommy's Loved One keeps calling from detox. Full of complaints, she is refusing to go on to residential. In this post, see how the family …
He Won’t Respect Any of Our Boundaries
Tuesday42 needs better strategies for addressing her boyfriend's son's chronic use and troubling behavior in their house. Dominique Simon…
Where Do You Draw the Line?
The way you relate to your Loved One is full of patterns. Though it's not a quick or easy process, Dominique Simon-Levine suggests that&…
How Could We Let it Come This Far?
iagirlsmom doesn't know how she's managed to let it come to this. Her Loved One seems incapable of respecting any boundary - and she can't…
It’s Always the Same Old Story
1delapisa shares concerns that her Loved One is perpetually in the same aimless state. He refuses to address his Diabetes, he can't hold…
Rewards for Today or Consequences for Yesterday?
Woods is thankful their LO isn't using after a hard few weeks, but his finances are a mess. Is this a time for natural consequences from his …
He’s Asked Us To Pay For His Car…
A member has already agreed to cover her Loved One's sober housing, but now he wants help with car and insurance too, and money is tight. Sho…