Denial? Or Ambivalence?
Don't assume someone is lying or "in denial." At Allies, we believe family members and loved ones are aware of what's happening – even when they don…
Member Topics: alcohol
She’s Using Again and Gone Missing.
A worried mom wrote in to share news of her daughter's recurrence after 6 months of recovery from AUD (Alcohol Use Disorder). To complicate matters, t…
I Meant Well. Did My Words Make Him Start Drinking Again?
A recurrence never occurs for one reason alone. It’s rare that words of love are to blame. Yet as linsachacko31 recently discovered, even words mean…
He’s Agreed to Pay Rent. But Will It Really Happen?
When we share a home with a Loved One enduring substance use disorder, money is a challenge more often than not. Financial planning often takes a back…
Did the Boundary I Set Make Him Drink Even More?
Jbernard116’s made an impressive start in applying CRAFT to this challenging situation. Unfortunately, the boundary she set didn’t immediately yie…
Did I Do CRAFT Wrong and Trigger Him to Drink?
She thought her husband was drinking, so she left. He called and said he wasn’t drinking, so she came home, but by then he’d gone out and he did d…
3 Months into Recovery and He Doesn’t Show an Ounce of Gratitude
This mom has been able to successfully use CRAFT principles to shepherd her son into treatment and to support him during early recovery. However, her …
His Need for Friends is Outweighing His Desire to Get Sober
It is difficult for our Allies member to see her son struggling to make friends while at the same time using alcohol to overcome his social anxiet…
My Son is 1500 Miles Away and Binge Drinking. Can CRAFT Still Help?
An Alliesinrecovery.net member worries about her son who is 1,500 miles away, since his binge drinking continues to be a regular reality. She asks if …
Material Rewards Can Make Recovery Fun — and Lead To Dramatically Better Outcomes
The research is clear: tangible rewards can greatly improve recovery efforts. Such programs are at last being given a chance. It’s called contingenc…
