My Helping Wasn’t Helpful. Now I’m Practicing Detaching
This member's daughter has essentially cut Mom off. This after Mom spent years helping her daughter and son-in-law as they sank dee…
Author: Dominique Simon
Dominique launched Allies in Recovery in 2003. Her work has been featured on HBO and NPR. She is a facilitator and a trained speaker on issues of addiction and the family. She has worked extensively developing and evaluating federally-funded substance abuse programs for organizations and clinics throughout Massachusetts and New York. With an interest in recovery and substance abuse that spans 20 years, she sees a huge need to help families develop the skills to help a loved one recover fully in a supportive, whole, and lasting way in their families and in their communities. Her mission is to have Allies in Recovery fill that gap.
She’s on the Street With a No-Good Boyfriend
With her daughter now on the street, this mother wonders what she can do to reach her. To further complicate things, she has a manipulative boyfriend.
Natural Consequences…or Punishment?
Removing rewards at home (beyond material rewards) is subtle. Leaving him alone in the room, not joining him in front of the TV, no hugs, smiles, scru…
Borderline Personality Disorder and Addiction
Being in a relationship with someone who struggles with addiction AND has borderline personality disorder (BPD) is exceptionally challenging. People w…
Our Front Is Not So United
Relationships can be gradually worn down and eventually ruined with such fundamental and ongoing disagreements. Addiction is a lifelong affliction. As…
Must I Accept That She’s Killing Herself?
I would change your sentence “accept she is dying” to "accept that things are shifting and your role is limited.” I’m sor…
He Has Relapsed and Is Likely Dealing Out of Our Home
How upsetting it must be to see your Loved One blossom after rehab, only to sink slowly back towards drug use, dishonesty, and criminal activity. Fano…
She Secretly Struggles with Bulimia and Alcohol
There is a difference between someone who is not aware of the effects and dangers of what they are doing, and someone who is. This high-functioning da…
I’m Getting Lost Searching for Treatment
This mom is getting lost in the search for treatment ... Who can you trust? Online reviews are sometimes written by facilities' employees...mommao…
He Thinks Pot is His Wonder Drug
Her 21-year-old son has several mental health issues and has decided that smoking pot helps. She sees that his motivation has evaporated and blames th…