Am I Helping My Son or Enabling His Use?
How does one begin when three substances are involved? CRAFT-informed observation and communication, with a focus on the most dangerous substance firs…
Addicted Loved One
Should I Stick to My Guns or Let Her Come Home?
Allowing a Loved One back into the home is a very personal decision; one that you must be able to live with. CRAFT emphasizes personal safety, both yo…
He Wants Money and Cigarettes While in Treatment. What Should I Do?
Although you have already given so much, you want to find a way to positively reinforce your son’s effort at staying in treatment. The decision…
What Does Being “In Denial” Actually Mean?
Acceptance of a painful reality is a process and takes time. If it's happening to you, be open to the truth and gentle with yourself. If it's happenin…
Bribes, Incentives, and Positive Reinforcement – Part 2
In this follow-up to her post on incentives, bribes and reinforcing, Laurie MacDougall shares her "One and Done" approach. Read on for a practical and…
Alcoholic daughter: how did we let it get this far?
Her daughter seems incapable of respecting any boundaries - and she can't seem to enforce them. This mom wonders how she let it come to this. Dominiqu…
Benzos, Recovery, And my Own Experience
Our Allies member has mixed feelings about the klonopin her son is taking. His psychiatrist however is not concerned as long as it's being taken as pr…
Should You Ask Your Addicted Loved One to Leave the House?
One of the most painful and confusing situations for a family dealing with an adult loved one’s drug or alcohol addiction is wondering if you should…
She’s Back Home With a Daybed and Locker
Her daughter is back at home after violating probation and a few months of active use. It's a shock to see her daughter in this state again. But she i…
Rewards For Today or Consequences For Yesterday
She's thankful her loved one is no longer using, but his finances are a mess. Should she allow natural consequences for his past use even if it means …