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Dominique Simon-Levine reassures this mother that she is taking the right steps to help her son.
Your son has been through so much. Being abstinent from opioids is no small feat! I am not trained to address the Lyme’s disease, but the fatigue you describe would be very hard on someone who is newly sober. The combination of being alone, fatigued, isolated, with occasional insomnia and withdrawals from benzodiazepines, sounds like a bad one. Depression makes sense.
You are focusing on the benzodiazepines and with good reason. Along with alcohol, benzos are the only other class of drug that, in withdrawals, cause life-threatening seizures. Detox programs take benzodiazepine addiction seriously.
If your son is misusing these drugs, he may find it hard to taper off on his own successfully. Tapering off benzos has to be done very slowly, over a period of months. It will therefore be much safer if he has a supervised detoxification. Though I can’t vouch for how he will actually feel as he crosses the exit door after a short inpatient stay. Medical detoxification programs get you to the place of physical safety, but not necessarily psychological or physiological health.
Your son needs hope to get through this
Both the treatment and recovery from Lyme’s and the detoxification from benzodiazepines will have an end to them. Perhaps his independence and work prospects have to wait. If I were your son I would find it too stressful to try otherwise.
So, where is hope? Hope is in self-help meetings, online self-help meetings, a place of worship, perhaps. Can you help your son access one or more of these? Is there a good recovery coach near you? Insurance is starting to pay for coaches. I just tried a Refuge Recovery meeting and felt comfortable. Our Resource Supplement, available to our members, provides a list of self-help programs. While the weather is still good, can you take walks together, or find some other light form of exercise, like stretching?
I hope that kicking opioids has given your son reason to feel his strength. I wish for you too, hope and strength, as you continue to love and care for your son.