If We Kick Him Out, Will His Drug Use Worsen?
When setting firm boundaries and maintaining them, so often it feels like 'Tough Love' that may backfire and lead to a worse situation. Using the CRA…
Category: MODULE 5 & 6 – rewarding and removing rewards
Podcast #11—Am I Enabling Use?
Annie and Laurie compare experiences of enabling use, offer a short quiz on signs of enabling and discuss better ways of managing situations that migh…
Addiction Is Confounding, but with CRAFT There Are No Gray Areas
When drugs and alcohol take over, the family is drawn into the needs of the addiction, blamed when resources come up short, attacked when they refuse …
He Wants Money and Cigarettes While in Treatment
A mother doesn't know what she should do when one of her sons asks for money and cigarettes while in treatment. He claims he can only get through this…
He’s Always High! How Can I Reward Non-Use?
When your loved one is high all day long, without ever seeming to sober up, it might seem impossible to reach them and have any influence on their beh…
I’m Applying CRAFT but He’s Getting Angry
Using positive communication while disengaging with a loved one is a softer, more neutral way of letting them know that things aren't okay. It’s no…
Am I Enabling Use?
I believed with all my heart that the responsibility of curing him of this disease lay solely upon me and my ability to not enable. I eventu…
Now They’re Stealing and Disappearing…
When an addicted loved one is exhibiting increasingly alarming behavior, first of all, don't take it personally. Remember, it is not directed at you. …
You Are a Reward
You might be grumbling. You might be accusing, guilting or complaining. Or trying desperately to prevent them from going out. You might be brooding in…
He’s Been Smoking Pot Half His Young Life
If I had to characterize pot users in one sentence I would describe them as observers of their own life. This passivity cripples ambition and motivati…