Welcome Home! Everyone Here Has Some Beef With You
Tradition is (at least partly) about honoring the past, and holiday traditions are no exception. But some aspects of the past we’d rather just leave…
Category: MODULE 4
Tragedy Struck His Recovery House, And He Wants Out. What’s My Response?
It’s an all-too-familiar refrain: our Loved One doesn’t like the treatment program and wants out. Sometimes the reasons may seem valid, perhaps ev…
Handling the Holidays, Embracing Change
We’ve all felt the push-and-pull of the holidays. One impulse is to hold so tightly to “the way we do things” that we try to stop time in its tr…
OARS: Don’t Get Caught Downstream!
Learn OARS to communicate better – Offering to help, Open-ended questions, Owning your part; Affirmation; Reflective listening; Sandwiching.
How Do I Set Boundaries without Making My Loved One Angry?
How do you hold tough conversations? Be careful with your timing; have a plan; stay calm. CRAFT can help you learn the signs of your loved one being r…
He’s Lost His License. And He’s Still Behind the Wheel.
Kathy4422 is facing some tough choices. Her son has just lost his license but is continuing to drive—on her insurance, in a car she owns. Does she s…
What Are the Challenges of Reflective Listening?
Reflective listening means listening while reflecting what your loved one says. Use curiosity, interest, and separation to do both at once.
So, What’s PIUS?
PIUS means "positive," "I," "understanding," and "short, specific” statements. Here’s how to use it in tough moments.
My Loved One’s Breaking Our Agreement About Use at Home. What Should I Do About It?
After time in a recovery house—and agreeing in writing not to use while living at home—Carolyn P.’s Loved One has moved in with her. Much has be…
How Do You Get Past Accumulated Trauma?
How do you get past accumulated trauma with your loved one? It's about breaking the cycles, stepping back, and letting new things happen.