Even After the Addiction is Resolved…You May Need to Do More
You want to partner with her, not dominate. You want to get your frustrations addressed elsewhere and not aim them at her. There is a child involved, …
Category: MODULE 4 – reflective listening
He’s Gotten in Trouble but Still Won’t Admit There’s a Problem
When pressed, people with addiction issues 1) defend their right to drink or drug or 2) deny there is a problem. In short, they Defend or Deny. I can …
This is Your Cue! Learn How to Recognize Motivation …
It is critical that you, as your addicted loved one's ally, understand that you can’t create motivation. And it is equally critical that you know th…
I Listen When Addicts Tell the Truth
Patricia Lincourt has worked with people struggling with substance abuse for 20+ years. She says that most of them defy the stereotypes we typically h…
Should I Abstain Completely When My Loved One is Around?
Modeling the behavior we are looking for in our loved one is effective, and a key element of CRAFT. It may make sense to avoid drinking, if you are tr…
Live Like the Moon: Why Gentle Influence Works
When your loved one is abusing alcohol or drugs, engaging in dangerous activities, or making life decisions you dislike, the natural impulse is to try…
3 Steps for Making Real Relating Possible – with Tara Brach
Whether you decide to practice these steps as part of your ongoing self-care, or to help you open to your Loved One in times of non-use or during a wi…
This is your cue! Learn when to step in …
As you follow the AiR program, you will be making effort each day to (re)build a bridge between you and your loved one. Do not worry if bridges have b…
Can I Use CRAFT When My Addicted Loved One Has a History of Trauma?
When your addicted loved one also struggles with mental health issues and a history of trauma, there are specific types of treatment to consider. Domi…
Coax the Scared Animal out of the Woods—Become an Ally
Your Monday evening dinners are a great example of setting the stage for “coaxing the little scared animal out of the woods.” The hard part with t…