“I Want To End This Cycle” Was Music To My Ears. How Can I Be My Son’s Best Ally?
Member Barbars has a grown son who struggles with alcohol. The great news is that he wants to change, and she is there for him. Allies writer Laurie M…
Communication
When a loved one struggles with SUD, communications often become negative, critical or heated. And this, despite our love and best intentions. You may have noticed that this type of communicating doesn’t work and is actually counterproductive. Through Allies in Recovery’s approach, families learn to communicate with their loved one in a more positive and effective way, helping them to engage with you and build a bridge of trust.
How Do I Prepare for My Daughter with SUD to Come Home? And What About Her Boyfriend?
Her daughter is involved with a man who may be sabotaging her efforts to get clean. But she’s expressed some readiness to get help, and mom wants to…
Her Partner is Not Improving from Substance Use Disorder. Is There an Underlying Mental Health Condition?
One of our AlliesinRecovery.net members as been artfully following the CRAFT principles and yet her loved one is not showing signs of improvement. Eng…
The Important Difference Between Bribes, Incentives, and Positive Reinforcement
A mom wrote in asking for guidance on whether she should offer to reward her son for attending addiction recovery group meetings. However, she is unsu…
He’s Drinking and Trying To Hide It. What Should I Be Doing?
Rengal’s son is struggling with alcohol use, and this has led to some difficult encounters. She naturally wants to act in hopes of making things bet…
Now He’s Abusing His ADHD Medication. What to do?
Her long-time partner added a new drug to the usual mix of cannabis and alcohol: now he's got a prescription for ADHD meds and is blowing through a mo…
Collaboration Vs. Ultimatum
When your loved one is returning, communicate and collaborate about your expectations, concerns, and plans. Keep on collaborating over time, so if con…
His Early Recovery Is Triggering Me
Her loved one has been abstinent from substance use for weeks. With steady recovery inputs, including a medication, he is doing better. However, he re…
I Meant Well. Did My Words Make Him Start Drinking Again?
A recurrence never occurs for one reason alone. It’s rare that words of love are to blame. Yet as linsachacko31 recently discovered, even words mean…
My Son is Using Again. Should I Confront Him?
When you are trying your best to work with a family member in recovery from Substance Use Disorder (SUD), it can be frightening and disappointing to d…