Loved One Shuns Family, Need to Find a New Approach
Family member 'mama' is fed up with her Loved One's patterns of non-communication. Whenever his use is addressed, he w…
Member Topics: MODULE 4
He Doesn’t Think He Needs Any Treatment—He’s Out of His Mind!
Please don’t give up on your son. Leaving Houston and staying sober for three months in your home strongly suggests that 1) he knows he has a pr…
He’s Avoiding Me & Using At Night
1delapisa wishes her son would just listen to her for 10 minutes but he hides out and sleeps all day to avoid talking. She is tired and frustrated and…
He’s Not Really Living—How Can He Get Unstuck?
There are questions in Learning Module 3 that will help you sharpen your skills at observing your Loved One. To the degree that it can be known, try a…
He Doesn’t Show An Ounce of Gratitude
When a Loved One is in the throes of active addiction, family members feel the need to focus almost entirely on the Loved One and their situation. Whe…
He Crashed the Car & His Marriage Is in Trouble
Allies member rlabib wrote in with concerns about his son's situation — struggling with addiction, no money, no job, depressed and trying to…
Do I Have to Kick Her Out?
Telling your Loved One not to come back until they've kicked the habit is a lose/lose situation. You miss the moments when they are ready to try t…
He Detoxed from Xanax & Now Won’t Speak to Me
After Mom insisted on detox at the ER for her son's xanax problem, they have become estranged and her son isn't speaking to her. Here's wh…
How Can I Intervene from Far Away?
It can be hard to tell over the phone when your son is high. He will probably not slur and you have no visual cues. It is subtle— is he in …
In Addition to the Substances, He’s Gaming All Night…
The combination of the alcohol, pot, and gaming has ruined his first semester at college to the point that he is now forced to take a leave from schoo…