The Important Difference Between Bribes, Incentives, and Positive Reinforcement
A mom wrote in asking for guidance on whether she should offer to reward her son for attending addiction recovery group meetings. However, she is unsu…
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He’s Drinking and Trying To Hide It. What Should I Be Doing?
Rengal’s son is struggling with alcohol use, and this has led to some difficult encounters. She naturally wants to act in hopes of making things bet…
Watching Families Progress
Our hosts discuss their joy in witnessing the progress of families in their groups. If you’re helping your loved one, start with yourself and your o…
Collaboration Vs. Ultimatum
When your loved one is returning, communicate and collaborate about your expectations, concerns, and plans. Keep on collaborating over time, so if con…
I Meant Well. Did My Words Make Him Start Drinking Again?
A recurrence never occurs for one reason alone. It’s rare that words of love are to blame. Yet as linsachacko31 recently discovered, even words mean…
“Heads Up” Tips for Those New to SUD
Have you ever looked back on a particularly stressful time in your life and wished you’d known a few things ahead of the struggle? Or maybe you wer…
Did I Do CRAFT Wrong and Trigger Him to Drink?
She thought her husband was drinking, so she left. He called and said he wasn’t drinking, so she came home, but by then he’d gone out and he did d…
3 Months into Recovery and He Doesn’t Show an Ounce of Gratitude
This mom has been able to successfully use CRAFT principles to shepherd her son into treatment and to support him during early recovery. However, her …
He May Be Spending the Holidays in Jail. Should I Bail Him Out?
Anger and resentment towards her loved one has transformed – with one event – into love and fear. He was arrested out of state for dealing drugs a…
Is This Early Recovery Instability or Is He Headed for Relapse?
An AlliesinRecovery.net member is concerned her son might relapse at home after responding well to treatment. Not seeing any efforts on his part to go…