I Will Not Lie for Him or Make Up Excuses
My boundaries are in place to uphold my integrity and morals and values. Respectfully, I will not bend on them. He can be as loud and try to manipulat…
Member Topics: Al-Anon
I Had Him Sectioned, But He’s Back Home & Using Again With His Mom
When two people drink or use drugs together, one is always urging the other one on. The role can switch back and forth: one day mom wants to put on th…
He’s Far Away … But Is He Out of Reach?
What we’ve laid out here is what you can do. You are prepared and you are supportive. You are doing what you can to keep yourself calm. You don&…
“I Am Really Struggling Today…”
"I am really struggling today. I know that I need to be firmer with my husband about his drinking and I have been good with it in the past. I jus…
How Does AiR Line Up with Al-Anon?
At AiR we agree there is no controlling someone’s substance use, BUT we differ on a crucial point: a family member does have influence…
Al-Anon vs. Allies in Recovery: How Our Approach Differs
At Allies in Recovery, we disagree with Al-Anon on one crucial point: A family member is part of the immediate environment and CAN create the conditio…