From Kratom to Pot, He’s Always On Something
"He is pretty much continuously under the influence of something. When he first gets up is the only window of non-use, but he is generally very a…
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If He Quits Pills & Gambling, Can He Still Smoke Pot?
You’re in an interesting spot. You’ve removed yourself from your husband by moving out, and when you do see him, he refrains from using th…
He’s Hiding a Crack Habit
Because cocaine is done in binges and doesn’t create a physical withdrawal like other drugs, a person can more easily believe the problem doesn&…
When He Gets Out of Treatment, How Much Should I Help Out?
There’s a fine line between providing your Loved One with the tools he needs to be able to function in the world and follow his recovery plan (h…
The Power of Writing
A number of studies have shown that writing regularly in a journal can improve both mental and physical health. The best way to care for your Loved On…
Coaxing the Little Scared Animal…
Any parent would want to step in and fix what is so obviously broken. An ally, conversely, does things a little differently. An ally creates a sa…
Stick to Your Guns!
Dear help4t, Since you last wrote in, your daughter lost her job and is now couch hopping. Her ex-boyfriend, a drug user, is back in her life. Your ho…
I’m Leaving the Country, But I Want to Help Her…
AiR member iloveher is deeply concerned for a girlfriend dealing with cocaine and alcohol abuse, personal trauma, combined with mental healt…
What If He Loses the Car? How We Inadvertently Enable
A central question to ask yourself is this: is the car supporting non-use, by keeping your loved one working, or has it become an important source of …
Should I Hide My Strategy or Let Her Know?
An AiR member wrote in to ask whether or not it's advisable to let your Loved One know about your strategy (pulling away when there's use, etc…