Does This Level of Violence Rule Out CRAFT?
Nohp’s husband of 48 years is struggling with heavy alcohol use. Recently his behavior has become more alarming, and even violent. Now she's staying…
Category: SELF-CARE – how do I take better care of myself?
Emotional Dysregulation: When “Getting in Touch With Our Feelings” Isn’t the Problem
Emotional dysregulation is a common effect of PTSD and other forms of trauma. When we suffer from it, our feelings become so intense that we lose cont…
Creating a Safe Space for Decision Making
You can help your loved one make decisions by creating a safe space -- by listening, being genuinely interested in their perspective, being non-judgme…
How, Why and When to Put Yourself First
How do you take care of yourself when there's a crisis with your Loved One? It's a process of changing how you think about yourself and your role in t…
How, Why and When to Put Yourself First
How do you take care of yourself when there's a crisis with your Loved One? It's a process of changing how you think about yourself and your role in t…
Three Common Thinking Traps, and How to Avoid Them
Our minds have various kinds of natural bias. Fortunately they can be recognized and resisted. Bias affects everyone’s thinking. While it isn’t a…
Motivation: What Drives Change?
Motivation drives change. How do you find motivation to change your part of the dynamic, and allow time and space for the process to unfold? It's okay…
Anger Management: 11 Strategies For Regaining Calm and Control
We all know how destructive “wildfire” anger can be. The good news is that a suite of skills and practices—known as anger management—can help …
Home or Recovery House? It’s Not an Easy Call
An Allies in Recovery member is fortunate to have a loved one she feels perfectly safe with, but the stress of living with him post-rehab still feels …