Three Common Thinking Traps, and How to Avoid Them
Our minds have various kinds of natural bias. Fortunately they can be recognized and resisted. Bias affects everyone’s thinking. While it isn’t a…
Self-Care for the Family Member
Prioritizing self-care is essential to your own well-being but also to your loved one’s sobriety and recovery.
It is completely understandable to feel like you are hostage to your emotions when there’s addiction in the family. But it will be difficult to help your loved one (as this site teaches you to do) if your own emotions are driving your actions and reactions.
Self-care is therefore a non-negotiable building block when using our approach to helping your loved one get into treatment or solidifying their recovery. We’ll show you how…
Motivation: What Drives Change?
Motivation drives change. How do you find motivation to change your part of the dynamic, and allow time and space for the process to unfold? It's okay…
Anger Management: 11 Strategies For Regaining Calm and Control
We all know how destructive “wildfire” anger can be. The good news is that a suite of skills and practices—known as anger management—can help …
I Think I’m Ready to Ask Him to Leave – Even Though I’ve Been Doing CRAFT
An active Allies in Recovery member wrote in to our “Pose a Question” blog with an update about her partner who continues to use substances and to…
Home or Recovery House? It’s Not an Easy Call
An Allies in Recovery member is fortunate to have a loved one she feels perfectly safe with, but the stress of living with him post-rehab still feels …
Combatting That Morning Dread: Brené Brown on Courage, Vulnerability, Empathy and Self-Worth
“Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you don’t belong, because you’ll always find it.” Professor Brené Brown delivers a …
Is Suboxone a Good Thing for Your Loved One?
An Allies in Recovery member is overwhelmed by all the conflicting information and stances on Suboxone. Her 40-year-old son has struggled for 15 year…
I’m Not the One Who’s Sending Him to Jail
An Allies in Recovery Member has been caught in a long cycle of “bailing out” their Loved One after every relapse. Sometimes it’s been money …
Boundaries and Rewards: Tips on Using CRAFT
An Allies in Recovery member is encountering difficulties with removing rewards and holding boundaries. They're asking their loved one to leave when h…
