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    Natural Consequences

    Without judging yourself, become aware of the consequences of your loved one’s use that you may actually like: He’s home passed out and so I’m happy to know where he is; He’s been drinking too much so at least I won’t have to have sex with him tonight... Bad consequences of drinking and drug use will lead a loved one to think about their use and to consider making a change. Negative consequences can lead to dreams of a better life or feelings of despair: A “wish” or a “dip.”

    We want the loved one to feel the total effects of their use. If you step in to soften the blow, your loved one won’t feel the actual, natural consequences of their use, takes longer to learn the lesson, and the situation is likely to repeat.

    A loved one who is about to make a fool of themselves? Let it happen.

    Natural consequences can bring moments of insight into one’s situation and spark a hope for change.

    He’s in a Recovery House and Struggling. What Can the Family Do?

    A mom is worried about her son who is struggling in his recovery house setting. The family has been practicing CRAFT when engaging with him, in hopes …
    dominiquesimon January 13, 2023

    He May Be Spending the Holidays in Jail. Should I Bail Him Out?

    Anger and resentment towards her loved one has transformed – with one event – into love and fear. He was arrested out of state for dealing drugs a…
    dominiquesimon December 16, 2022

    His Need for Friends is Outweighing His Desire to Get Sober

    It is difficult for our Allies member to see her son struggling to make friends while at the same time using alcohol to overcome his social anxiet…
    dominiquesimon November 11, 2022

    He Won’t Agree to the Care We Know He Needs

    Cwfranklin’s adult son smokes fentanyl. With his parents’ active support, he’s gone through various rounds of treatment. His recoveries have bee…
    dominiquesimon November 11, 2022

    My Son is 1500 Miles Away and Binge Drinking. Can CRAFT Still Help?

    An Alliesinrecovery.net member worries about her son who is 1,500 miles away, since his binge drinking continues to be a regular reality. She asks if …
    dominiquesimon October 28, 2022

    Material Rewards Can Make Recovery Fun — and Lead To Dramatically Better Outcomes

    The research is clear: tangible rewards can greatly improve recovery efforts. Such programs are at last being given a chance. It’s called contingenc…
    rredick October 26, 2022

    Our Son Moved Back Home But He’s Using: My Anxiety Is Off The Charts!

    Her grown son has moved back home and is using cocaine, alcohol, and marijuana — and angrily denying it. Her husband has had enough and is ready to …
    Laurie MacDougall October 7, 2022

    9 CRAFT-y Guidelines to Break the Cycle of Addiction

    An Allies member has her daughter living with her, which felt like a relief, at least at first. She had kicked her methamphetamine habit and comple…
    dominiquesimon September 29, 2022

    Three Common Thinking Traps, and How to Avoid Them 

    Our minds have various kinds of natural bias. Fortunately they can be recognized and resisted. Bias affects everyone’s thinking. While it isn’t a…
    rredick September 28, 2022

    I’m Not the One Who’s Sending Him to Jail

    An Allies in Recovery Member has been caught in a long cycle of “bailing out” their Loved One after every relapse. Sometimes it’s been money …
    dominiquesimon June 17, 2022
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    Allies in Recovery

    Allies in Recovery is a membership-based program providing knowledge and skills to families who have loved ones struggling with addiction, since 2003. Using CRAFT, the only behavioral training method designed specifically for families and scientifically proven to work, you’ll learn how to communicate, behave, intervene, and guide your loved one toward recovery. Eight self-guided video modules provide the complete CRAFT skillset. We supplement the training videos with hand-tailored guidance provided through an expert, interactive blog, podcasts, and curated resources - including ways to locate hard-to-find, quality, low- or no-cost treatment, and other pathways through which your loved one can find recovery. You aren't alone - you have Allies!

     
       

    EMERGENCY? If you feel scared for you or your loved one, call police now at 911. You may also call or text 988 to contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

    Contact Allies in Recovery (413) 387-9395

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