They’re So Enmeshed – Can I Possibly Help?
“Enmeshed” is a good word to describe the situation between your sister and her son. Enmeshed describes a pattern, years in the making, when a fam…
Category: MODULE 8 – the planned conversation (intervention approach)
Who Should Pay for Sober Housing?
Treatment doesn’t see its role as helping the newly sober person to manage financially. They rarely ask the question, "So where is the job?” ... …
He Got Drunk and Set Fire to His Bedroom
The primary goal is to get your brother out of the house. Focus on this. As you have pointed out, there are risks to your parents’ safety as lon…
Now They’re Stealing and Disappearing…
It is completely distressing when the progression of drug and alcohol use advances and terrible new behaviors emerge. Your Loved One stooped to …
Should I Abstain Completely When My Loved One is Around?
Modeling the behavior we are looking for in our loved one is effective, and a key element of CRAFT. It may make sense to avoid drinking, if you are tr…
From Pot to Kratom, He’s Always Using Something
When your loved one is using drugs almost continuously, there are few opportunities to reward non-use. You are right about this. You are also correct …
Does ‘Out of State’ Mean ‘Out of Reach?’
An Allies in Recovery member recently shared the story of her adult son who lives "out of reach" in another state with his addiction, mental illness t…
Can I Use CRAFT When My Addicted Loved One Has a History of Trauma?
When your addicted loved one also struggles with mental health issues and a history of trauma, there are specific types of treatment to consider. Domi…
Stick to Your Guns!
A mom on our Allies in Recovery member site wrote in about her daughter’s recent relapse. Her daughter has been staying away from home, reconnecting…
Your Worst Fears Have Been Confirmed
Families who find evidence of drug or alcohol use need a plan that goes way beyond the day-to-day reactivity caused by the chaos of life, especially w…
