marriage Archives - Allies in Recovery

Her Partner is Not Improving from Substance Use Disorder. Is There an Underlying Mental Health Condition?

One of our AlliesinRecovery.net members as been artfully following the CRAFT principles and yet her loved one is not showing signs of improvement. Eng…

Dominique Simon March 17, 2023

His Early Recovery Is Triggering Me

Her loved one has been abstinent from substance use for weeks. With steady recovery inputs, including a medication, he is doing better. However, he re…

Laurie MacDougall February 17, 2023

I Meant Well. Did My Words Make Him Start Drinking Again?

A recurrence never occurs for one reason alone. It’s rare that words of love are to blame. Yet as linsachacko31 recently discovered, even words mean…

Laurie MacDougall February 3, 2023

Did the Boundary I Set Make Him Drink Even More?

Jbernard116’s made an impressive start in applying CRAFT to this challenging situation. Unfortunately, the boundary she set didn’t immediately yie…

Laurie MacDougall January 13, 2023

Did I Do CRAFT Wrong and Trigger Him to Drink?

She thought her husband was drinking, so she left. He called and said he wasn’t drinking, so she came home, but by then he’d gone out and he did d…

isabel December 30, 2022

Does This Level of Violence Rule Out CRAFT?

Nohp’s husband of 48 years is struggling with heavy alcohol use. Recently his behavior has become more alarming, and even violent. Now she's staying…

Dominique Simon October 21, 2022

Trusting Again is Tough. I’m Learning to Accept That.

How do we learn to trust again? A member’s long journey with her partner, and tips on sorting through our feelings about trust. She has spent thirty…

Laurie MacDougall June 3, 2022

We’ve Walked a Long Road Together. So Why Can’t I Trust?

Trust isn’t a faucet you can turn off and on. And that’s all right. I found that CRAFT changed my life for the better.

Dominique Simon May 6, 2022