She’s Back Home With a Daybed and Locker
Her daughter is back at home after violating probation and a few months of active use. It’s a shock to see her daughter in this state again. But she is looking to CRAFT to guide her.
Rewards For Today or Consequences For Yesterday
She’s thankful her loved one is no longer using, but his finances are a mess. Should she allow natural consequences for his past use even if it means losing his job or should she support his current efforts toward sobriety and pay his job rent?
Drug Testing at Home?
Guest blogger, Laurie MacDougall responds to a member explaining what she and her husband did when they let their son move back home to work on his recovery. They created a structure of boundaries that he had to abide by in order to live in their home.
Bribes, Incentives, and Positive Reinforcements – Part 2
In this follow-up to her post on incentives, bribes and reinforcing, Laurie MacDougall shares her “One and Done” approach. Read on for a practical and strategic approach to use with your loved one, and look out for her “Buyer Beware” caveat!
Showing a Loved One the Door
Our member is facing a big transition. It looks like her loved one will be asked to leave the house in a few weeks. Read on about a sound approach for embracing this transition with grace and compassion.
Working on my Own Recovery
She is facing some hard truths as she looks back on the past ten years of her husband’s addiction. He is finally sober, but he has yet to acknowledge what he put the family through. What should she expect at this point in her loved one’s recovery.
I’m Foster Parenting Her Children
She is raising her sister-in-law’s children, and is at a loss. It seems impossbile to understand how a parent can choose drugs over their own children.
Addiction Is Like A Flood
Annie Highwater shares more words of wisdom with the community. Here’s a lovely reminder for family members that 1) we have work to do! and 2) recovery is a beautiful thing.
Loved One With Diabetes Lands in ER With Severe Withdrawals
Her son landed in the ER, in the midst of full-blown withdrawals, narrowly escaping a diabetic coma. The doctors spelled out the situation in no uncertain terms: the addiction is the gravest threat to his health right now. See how to take a CRAFT approach in the aftermath of this scare.
I Want to Message Her Friends
These parents are reeling in the wake of realizing their teenaged daughter is experimenting with all sorts of substances. It feels tempting to monitor/control her use somehow. And what about messaging her (using) friends? Is this a bad move?
My Son’s Drug is Meth
She knows her son needs help, but he often disappears for long stretches of time right after he starts opening up to her. Read on for Dominique Simon-Levine’s insights as she lays out some important considerations for this situation.
Will My Son Ever See the Truth?
A member wonders if her son will ever come to terms with what he’s put the family through. Read Annie Highwater’s inspiring response which offers strength and grounding we can all use during difficult times.
My Little Brother is Using Like I Used to
When all but one member of a family is in recovery and living a sober lifestyle, how do they approach their loved one’s use without being too overbearing? How can they use CRAFT to help prevent him from going down the wrong path?
We Thought we Had Lost Her, but CRAFT Worked
This family member had given up on ever getting her daugher back again. Her powerful tale of hope credits CRAFT with helping turn things around. We are so grateful for her sharing this story with the Allies community.
She’s Back From Rehab But on Shaky Ground
She’s worried her daughter may be heading towards relapse, having just returned home from rehab. It’s a real strain to have things start off this way. See how Dominique Simon-Levine uses the CRAFT method to frame an approach.
Relapse and Job Loss
Her son is struggling with withdrawals from a recent relapse. As the family anticipates another job loss, and possibly more, this mom wonders how to proceed. CRAFT examines key considerations for this sensitive time.
How do You Trust Again?
We often find ourselves wondering how to repair the bonds that are broken when trust has been violated. In this thoughtful exploration of the topic of trust, Annie Highwater shares her insights about the repair process. You won’t want to miss the gems of wisdom shares in this post!
Her Husband Has Left Her Hopeless and Exhausted
She has struggled through 12 years of her husband’s addiction, having single-handedly provided for their family for all of these years, and is now at a loss. All of the patience, love and compassion she used to have seem long gone, and resentment keeps mounting. CRAFT looks at where to best focus our energies when these feelings weigh us down.
Help! We Need a New Approach
She’s fed up with her son’s patterns of non-communication. Whenever his use is addressed, he withdraws and shuts off communication. When he does reach out, it always seems to be on his terms. How do you take the wheel when it feels like your loved one is used to calling all the shots?
He’s Drinking at Home…What About The Children?
How does she confront her husband’s use? With work schedules to navigate and kids at home, it seems there’s never a time she can find to connect when he isn’t drinking.
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