In our last Sanctuary post, Understanding Shame, we talked about how shame, the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging, can fuel addiction and also hold us back as the parent, spouse, friend, or child of someone with an addiction problem.
Last time, I asked you to use your journal to contemplate shame and the impact it may be having in your life and the life of your Loved One. You wrote down the situations that trigger shame for you personally, and you also recorded your feelings and reactions when you are in the midst of a shame spiral.
In this week’s video shame and vulnerability researcher Brené Brown shares the number one antidote to shame and talks about three things you can do to break a shame spiral…
1. Talking to yourself like you talk to someone you love
2. Reaching out to someone you trust
3. Telling your story