Some of you may be familiar with a Japanese healing technique called Reiki. Developed by Mikao Usui in the early 1900’s, this energy work is easily accessible, quick to learn, and can produce beautiful results.
Students of Reiki are initiated to the 5 precepts which are all prefaced by the phrase, “Just for today” (kyo dake wa).
I find this phrase – Just for Today – to be very powerful. It contains an approach that we can each apply to our daily lives. Rather than becoming overwhelmed with all that’s yet out of reach or needs fixing, we instead shift our focus to that which we CAN affect, now.
Boiling down the storm your head may be caught up in is not easy. Try to identify a main theme or two (ex: fear? anger? panic? resentment?) and use that to help you identify one action that could really help you feel better right now, and perhaps also bring some improvement to your relationship with your Loved One.
Now find your mantra for the day. Just for today...I will…
This is about giving yourself a reasonable, achievable goal. A single day can contain immense steps forward.
For some, the mantra might be:
“Just for today, I will practice smiling when I see my Loved One not using.”
For others, it might be:
"Just for today, I will practice breathing deep in my belly when I feel upset.”
For yet others, it might be:
“Just for today, I will let go of blame.”
What will you focus on “Just for today?”