Where are they? Is she OK? Does he even want to hear from me?
If you’re forced to have limited contact, it can be so incredibly hard to handle the unknown. It’s important to learn how to be in contact in simple ways, and to calm your system down to respond well and strengthen the connection. Use humor; find ways to connect with who they are and what they like—reminding them of who they are becomes a bridge and connection. If you’re worried, learn how to communicate simply, without accusation or judgement.