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Loved One Needs to Balance Work and Rehab

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Worried Mom’s Loved One is looking at rehab programs again. She was asked to leave the last IOP she attended because of positive drug tests. As a consultant, she can work from home, and she is the only source of income for her family. What options would allow her to continue to work while also offering support for her recovery? 

My daughter has been in in-patient care (heroin/alcohol, 2 programs, 30 days each), and several IOP programs. Last IOP program she was asked to leave after drug testing positive 2 times in 3 weeks. She is again asking to attend a rehab program which is great, but I'm struggling with which one to try this time. She has been on long term disability (which is now exhausted) and she is back working 20 hours a week and seems to be able to maintain her work schedule. Fortunately she is a consultant and can work from home, is on travel restriction right now. She is the only one in her family with any income and to possibly keep her home, she would like to be able to find a program where she can still work her 20 hours a week. Read the full comment here.

Your daughter is working hard. That’s terrific. Sober houses often expect that you will work, so that may still be an option. Here is the link to a list of houses with contacts in Massachusetts:

Also, there is a national organization that promotes quality standards for recovery residences (or sober homes). The National Alliance of Recovery Residences, NARR is the leading organization promoting best practices in recovery residences, including the Social Model. To find out more, go to Finding a sober home that submits itself voluntarily to 3rd party oversight and national standards can be one way to decide if you are choosing the best resources for your family (this came from one of our members some time back).

We have sober housing advocates and directors on this site. Can you help with this question?

I do think working is important. It provides needed structure… though consultants (I know this firsthand) can hide better than some. I am very pleased to hear your daughter is addressing her addiction. It’s not a straight road, as you know, but it is the road out.



In your comments, please show respect for each other and do not give advice. Please consider that your choice of words has the power to reduce stigma and change opinions (ie, "person struggling with substance use" vs. "addict", "use" vs. "abuse"...)