Is My Loved One Now Using Another Drug?
A member writes in about seeing the CRAFT principles working, and communication shifts are starting to make a difference. But the drug use feels …
Category: MODULE 8 – change talk – wishes & dips
We See His Pot Use as a Problem—But Does He?
Sometimes it’s best to focus on the progress our Loved Ones are making, and wait a bit on what worries us.
Do They “Have to Want It?”
Do people "have to want" recovery? Reality is more complicated. We can give options, be open to process, and change our own behavior.
We Live in One Room. Is It Even Possible to Practice CRAFT?
Challenging home circumstances make CRAFT skills all the more valuable
The Storm Before the Calm
Just before change happens, things can get chaotic. It's small differences over time – starting with you – that create big change.
Welcome Home! Everyone Here Has Some Beef With You
Tradition is (at least partly) about honoring the past, and holiday traditions are no exception. But some aspects of the past we’d rather just leave…
“I Want To End This Cycle” Was Music To My Ears. How Can I Be My Son’s Best Ally?
Member Barbars has a grown son who struggles with alcohol. The great news is that he wants to change, and she is there for him. Allies writer Laurie M…
“He Wants Us to Live Together, but He’s Drinking” – What to Say, and When?
Her boyfriend texted her about his desire to move in together; she suspects he did so under the influence. She is growing frustrated with his substanc…
Wishes & Dips
You've got tools — such as active listening, being curious and open. So, when your loved one expresses what they would like, or feels they can't con…
Wishes & Dips
You've got tools — active listening, being curious and open. So, when your loved one expresses what they would like, or feels they can't continue as…