Adulting: What Is My Loved One Capable Of?
Foster awareness and connection. Do mini experiments; let them succeed or fail, and don’t be critical or have huge expectations.
Category: MODULE 5 – incremental shifts; small changes
Don’t Tell Me to Calm Down
Learn to calm your system CRAFT-style. Think longer-term -- do CRAFT work, find community via Allies, and learn new ways of thinking.
Is Your Situation Unique?
Your situation is uniquely yours, but CRAFT’s C is “community.” Break the isolation to find out what the experts—other families—are doing.
That Didn’t Work — Now What?
Giving up, saying "Now what?" is usually the wrong strategy. See CRAFT as tools for all relationships that can create big change over time.
Marijuana: Is It a Problem?
Since it has medical uses, the answers lie in good communication, in helping the person understand for themselves whether it's a problem.
What Are “Natural Consequences?”
Understanding “natural consequences” and allowing them to play out when it’s safe to do so can be a force for change over time.
Well-Worn Sayings
Do common sayings hold truth? We look at “hitting rock bottom,” and starting with one day. Both need slowing down, being in the moment.
Do They “Have to Want It?”
Do people "have to want" recovery? Reality is more complicated. We can give options, be open to process, and change our own behavior.
What Does It Mean to Be an Ally?
Being an ally means stepping up, learning to see chances to be a change agent -- for slow, methodical change.
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
Embrace "beginner's mind"; make mistakes and learn; practice until the tools become automatic. Remember that change happens incrementally.